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YAGT: My plea for your wish.
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I too have wasted time waiting for a girl to "come to her senses" and realize that she and I belonged together. which was a 2 year waste of time.
get over her, move on. stay single for a while to give your emotions time to heal. Once you can look at another lady without comparing her to your ex, then it is time to start dating again. date many, commit to none, until you know you have met some one you can trust. when the trust builds, then allow you emotions to become involved.
get over her, move on. stay single for a while to give your emotions time to heal. Once you can look at another lady without comparing her to your ex, then it is time to start dating again. date many, commit to none, until you know you have met some one you can trust. when the trust builds, then allow you emotions to become involved.
moonshinemadness
Platinum Member
I hope it goes well for you dood, if your following your heart then it is right and if it is meant to be it will all come through
Red Dawn:
I think a restraining order is a little harsh. I doubt it will come to that, I plan to just declare I still love her and would like her back one time. And just send roses on our anniversary and some gifts for Christmas. Roses that I should have gave while we were together but I was too stubborn to see its purpose. I think the disparity of it was that I would buy her toys like Xbox, printer and computers but never went out and got the things she wanted, roses. Anyway if it works then is worth all the effort, if not a few dollars is not going to hurt me at the bank either. Plus this only shows how much I am willing to love her. Stands for some romance, even though I already know my odds and has decided not to follow conventional wisdom. Love defies logic I guess. I could have bought her so many roses with the money I spent on the Xbox, game, and the live kit but women do think differently then us. Lesson learned but perhaps a little to late.
Ulfwald:
Words I would have preached to others. Thanks but I think Ill trot down this path. I have nothing to loose and I doubt I?ll loose much in the process. I am still young and money could be earned.
http://www.lovesflower.com/giftideas/view_alone.nhtml?profile=giftideas&UID=10014
That?s the roses I plan to get.
I think a restraining order is a little harsh. I doubt it will come to that, I plan to just declare I still love her and would like her back one time. And just send roses on our anniversary and some gifts for Christmas. Roses that I should have gave while we were together but I was too stubborn to see its purpose. I think the disparity of it was that I would buy her toys like Xbox, printer and computers but never went out and got the things she wanted, roses. Anyway if it works then is worth all the effort, if not a few dollars is not going to hurt me at the bank either. Plus this only shows how much I am willing to love her. Stands for some romance, even though I already know my odds and has decided not to follow conventional wisdom. Love defies logic I guess. I could have bought her so many roses with the money I spent on the Xbox, game, and the live kit but women do think differently then us. Lesson learned but perhaps a little to late.
Ulfwald:
Words I would have preached to others. Thanks but I think Ill trot down this path. I have nothing to loose and I doubt I?ll loose much in the process. I am still young and money could be earned.
http://www.lovesflower.com/giftideas/view_alone.nhtml?profile=giftideas&UID=10014
That?s the roses I plan to get.
bolido2000
Diamond Member
Well....people usually only remember the good things when they just break up. Are you sure you won't have the same problems with your gf if you really win her back?
weezergirl
Diamond Member
Well considering someone you call your best friend backstabbed you like that, I can guess that you are not the best judge of character. If for any reason I left my bf, I would never consider going out with HIS BEST FRIEND either. That is so wrong. Why do you want to be with a girl who will hurt you like that? She has no respect for you...why do you think she is "the one"???? Believe me, "the one" is not going to do something stupid like that.
LOVE IS BLIND. Just remember that if you ever DO get her back, one day you may finally wake up and realize she is not as perfect as you once thought she was. If I were you, I'd do anything possible to try and forget her and get over her. What does your life consist of? Do you have a nice job, nice friends, things to do on the weekends, hobbies to fill up your time? Or do you come home from work everyday and have nothing else to do but think about the past with your GF. If that's the case, of course you're still hung up on her.
Anyways, I think if I were you, I'd just be really cautious. I know a lot of people are like "follow your heart" blah blah blah, but sometimes it's ok not to trust your feelings cuz they are NOT ALWAYS RIGHT. This girl has a BIG X on her. All signs point to RUN AWAY.
That's my YAGT answer for the day. 😛
LOVE IS BLIND. Just remember that if you ever DO get her back, one day you may finally wake up and realize she is not as perfect as you once thought she was. If I were you, I'd do anything possible to try and forget her and get over her. What does your life consist of? Do you have a nice job, nice friends, things to do on the weekends, hobbies to fill up your time? Or do you come home from work everyday and have nothing else to do but think about the past with your GF. If that's the case, of course you're still hung up on her.
Anyways, I think if I were you, I'd just be really cautious. I know a lot of people are like "follow your heart" blah blah blah, but sometimes it's ok not to trust your feelings cuz they are NOT ALWAYS RIGHT. This girl has a BIG X on her. All signs point to RUN AWAY.
That's my YAGT answer for the day. 😛
Try to figure out whether it is just the feeling that you want to win her back or it is that you realize it is her that you want to be with. the differences are that if you just want to win her back, then you probably should just move on.
Sometimes, there is someone in your heart that nobody can ever substitute. That probably are the so-called love.
So, if you finally find your heart and she is the ONE and the only one you like to spend your life with, I suggest you let her know.
Either way, good luck.
Sometimes, there is someone in your heart that nobody can ever substitute. That probably are the so-called love.
So, if you finally find your heart and she is the ONE and the only one you like to spend your life with, I suggest you let her know.
Either way, good luck.
BladeWalker
Senior member
Damn, that really bites. Honestly there is no right answer. It takes a lot of courage to try to win her back. For that I wish you all the luck in the world. From most of the response you get the logical thing to do is forget about her and run the other way. Easier said than done. I agree with you. If you never try at all to win her heart, you'll always be left wondering later in life. I hope you're nothing like me. The last time I truly fell in love and had my heart broken, it took me 4 years to finally get over. I would wake up in the middle of the night and place my forehead against the wall thinking that there is not another girl like her and my life was miserable without her. If you truly love this girl it's gonna be hard to get over her.
BTW, your so called best friend is a POS. Us ATOT guys should go over there and beat the living sh!t out of him. I have no sympathy whatsoever for these kind of guys. If you have any mutual friends, enlighten them about what a scumbag he is and turn them against him.
BTW, your so called best friend is a POS. Us ATOT guys should go over there and beat the living sh!t out of him. I have no sympathy whatsoever for these kind of guys. If you have any mutual friends, enlighten them about what a scumbag he is and turn them against him.
drum
Diamond Member
I can attest to that one. Lost my girl of 3 years partly due to that. I think it will be very different if you were to get back together with her blindman. The fact she dated your friend will always be something in your mind. It just won't be the same as the hapiness you knew before. just my experience... hope i was of some help to you...:beer:
Been there my friend, my best friend and girlfriend got together....I was more upset by the fact that he wouldn't listen to me in that I said it wouldn't last on the grounds that she was nuts....and guess what....it didn't and ended up with him getting some slappage...now neither of us talk or see her, and it has only been just recently that me and my best friend have started talking again (happened like 5 months ago weirdly enough!).
But I don't care about her at all....if you really feel for her and think there may be a chance then go for it....
But I don't care about her at all....if you really feel for her and think there may be a chance then go for it....
Bolido2000:
Only time will tell. I can say I don?t really mind the past because I also feel that we both had problems that probably wouldn?t have been identified without the break up. Though I am not too happy she is probably sleeping with him I made this choice knowing the full facts and that I can take it or leave it. And yet I still want to see if it things could work out with her.
Weezergirl:
I never said she is perfect. I love her the way she is. Faults and all; maybe that?s why I could understand and not blame her for being with my best friend and everything else that has happened. But another point was that I wasn?t great either. I mean if I was perfect I don?t think she really would have left.
But I don?t think anyone in our circle of friends will say that my best friend is better then me. When this incident occurred friends we use to share came to me and reminded me how much of a friend he wasn?t and told me not to blame myself. So that?s that` I didn?t tell others to think he was a jerk. Others came and told me he was a jerk. He did that on to himself.
Signs do point to run away but I want to go against the signs, as it wouldn?t hurt to try.
Gunblade:
It isn?t about winning back as that would be a waste of time and money. Before we broke up we mused about what future we would have and I guess those thoughts still hasn?t faded. If anything I guess I want to say that I gave every effort in making that future possible. But the reason for it is because I still love her and if it hasn?t faded after such thing then maybe it really wouldn?t fade at all. But only time will tell.
BladeWalker:
Ahahah. He is a POS isn?t he, give him some sympathy though his life was pretty messed up. But if anything I should be responsible as I also made an incorrect judgment of character.
Drum:
I am sorry we end up on the same boat. I guess not only am I here to plea for people to pray for me, I am also here to serve as a reminder to others not to repeat the mistake you and I made.
As for the renew relationship being the same, I don?t think that would be possible either but I wont know until the road leads there. As for now the future is unknown so it doesn?t matter, no need to think that far as it might not even go that far.
The Corm:
Were you serious with your ex? Seems like your just telling your best friend not to waste his time with some chick that you dated. While in my case my best friend told my ex to leave me because she deserved better. And at the same time my best friend lied to my ex about how great he was to his then gf and how his then gf was a B . . .ach, but the truth really said otherwise. But in his lies and along with the problem my gf and I were having, my gf heart swayed.
In the end my best friend and his gf broke up. His gf pleaded with him to not visit my ex and to break off contact but he refused. Then his gf while in an emotional state blurted out about breaking up and he took advantage of the opportunity and accepted it. The very next day his gf then went and begged him to get back with her but he refused. Then he tells my ex that I caused their break up because I told his gf to break up with him.
In life there are some people that are that low that would make up anything to make themselves just look better to others. As much as I felt then that his gf did deserved better I didn?t want to speak my mind because they have been together for three years. And as selfish I was, I was hoping if she stayed with him then my ex and I can get back to fixing what went wrong. Against my conscious, I convinced his ex to go back and plea with him to get back together and she ended up getting on her knees to beg him to take her back. I regretted ever interfering and throwing my personal agenda into talking to her that day. She honestly did deserve better and I always joke with her now that she is pretty lucky to be without him. But funny thing was my best friend told my ex that I caused their break up and that was just absurd. Here was a guy that was messing up my relationship and messing up his own relationship all at the same time and then he turns it around saying I screwed up my relationship and mess up his. If anything he needs to get back to reality.
Though I don?t hate him or feel I should be vengeful. I will never talk to him again because there isn?t really anything left to be said.
Only time will tell. I can say I don?t really mind the past because I also feel that we both had problems that probably wouldn?t have been identified without the break up. Though I am not too happy she is probably sleeping with him I made this choice knowing the full facts and that I can take it or leave it. And yet I still want to see if it things could work out with her.
Weezergirl:
I never said she is perfect. I love her the way she is. Faults and all; maybe that?s why I could understand and not blame her for being with my best friend and everything else that has happened. But another point was that I wasn?t great either. I mean if I was perfect I don?t think she really would have left.
But I don?t think anyone in our circle of friends will say that my best friend is better then me. When this incident occurred friends we use to share came to me and reminded me how much of a friend he wasn?t and told me not to blame myself. So that?s that` I didn?t tell others to think he was a jerk. Others came and told me he was a jerk. He did that on to himself.
Signs do point to run away but I want to go against the signs, as it wouldn?t hurt to try.
Gunblade:
It isn?t about winning back as that would be a waste of time and money. Before we broke up we mused about what future we would have and I guess those thoughts still hasn?t faded. If anything I guess I want to say that I gave every effort in making that future possible. But the reason for it is because I still love her and if it hasn?t faded after such thing then maybe it really wouldn?t fade at all. But only time will tell.
BladeWalker:
Ahahah. He is a POS isn?t he, give him some sympathy though his life was pretty messed up. But if anything I should be responsible as I also made an incorrect judgment of character.
Drum:
I am sorry we end up on the same boat. I guess not only am I here to plea for people to pray for me, I am also here to serve as a reminder to others not to repeat the mistake you and I made.
As for the renew relationship being the same, I don?t think that would be possible either but I wont know until the road leads there. As for now the future is unknown so it doesn?t matter, no need to think that far as it might not even go that far.
The Corm:
Were you serious with your ex? Seems like your just telling your best friend not to waste his time with some chick that you dated. While in my case my best friend told my ex to leave me because she deserved better. And at the same time my best friend lied to my ex about how great he was to his then gf and how his then gf was a B . . .ach, but the truth really said otherwise. But in his lies and along with the problem my gf and I were having, my gf heart swayed.
In the end my best friend and his gf broke up. His gf pleaded with him to not visit my ex and to break off contact but he refused. Then his gf while in an emotional state blurted out about breaking up and he took advantage of the opportunity and accepted it. The very next day his gf then went and begged him to get back with her but he refused. Then he tells my ex that I caused their break up because I told his gf to break up with him.
In life there are some people that are that low that would make up anything to make themselves just look better to others. As much as I felt then that his gf did deserved better I didn?t want to speak my mind because they have been together for three years. And as selfish I was, I was hoping if she stayed with him then my ex and I can get back to fixing what went wrong. Against my conscious, I convinced his ex to go back and plea with him to get back together and she ended up getting on her knees to beg him to take her back. I regretted ever interfering and throwing my personal agenda into talking to her that day. She honestly did deserve better and I always joke with her now that she is pretty lucky to be without him. But funny thing was my best friend told my ex that I caused their break up and that was just absurd. Here was a guy that was messing up my relationship and messing up his own relationship all at the same time and then he turns it around saying I screwed up my relationship and mess up his. If anything he needs to get back to reality.
Though I don?t hate him or feel I should be vengeful. I will never talk to him again because there isn?t really anything left to be said.
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