- Apr 25, 2005
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So to give you a little background so you understand this,
-Girlfriend and I are both 20, I graduated a year early in HS
-Girlfriends brother and I graduated together
-We have been dating for about three years
My girlfriends parents are divorced, have been since she was around 12 her mom got custody of her and her older brother and slowly over time brainwashed my girlfriend into thinking that her dad was a piece of sh!t. This didn't work on the brother so he sees the mom for what she really is.
fast forward to high school, my girlfriends mom was really big, probably around 400lbs. She gets gastric bypass and the weight starts to fall off, suddenly she thinks she gods gift to man*vomit* she stays out late constantly, drinking, partying, sometimes not coming home at all.
My girlfriends brother gets tired of her not acting like an adult, she doesn't buy groceries saying that they are too poor(yeah while you're out drinking at the bar) so my girlfriends brother makes a little phone call to grandma and grandma jumps moms ass. so mom tries to make up for abandoning my girlfriend and her brother for most of their HS years buying them things and acting like she is the victim.
For the next couple years(Junior and Senior year of HS) my girlfriends mom drinks heavily, partying again(that didn't take long) she drinks at home. Saying that her job is what is making her act this way. She has several accidents while drinking, including driving up some mountain during winter, rolling her car over and having to walk in the snow for over a mile. Another time she falls down at the house while drunk hitting her face on her dresser and has the biggest black eye on her daughters graduation day. There are other incidents but I won't post those.
Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, girlfriends mom gets a DUI, driving down the highway with a bottle of tequila, she gets arrested and calls girlfriends brother to bail her out. She makes up some sob story about the cops being rude and ruthless.
Here is the funny part, this past Thursday my girlfriend travels home to see her brother and some family, her mom now lives in Idaho but is making the trip also. I get a call from my girlfriend saying they she and her brother are going looking for their mom because she is two hours late. Lo and behold where to they find her? In jail for another DUI charge, she just wrecked her '05 impala. My girlfriend has to go bail her mom out and has to stay another day and miss work.
2 DUI charges in two weeks.
So I get a call from the girlfriend asking if she can borrow my pickup from my parents because she is going to lend her car to her mom(my pickup is a 2WD and my dad let me borrow his jeep for the winter), I tell her I will have to check with my parents because if she gets into an accident I don't think she is covered under my insurance. She goes off on the huge rant about how I think she is a bad driver and don't trust her and yada yada and then hangs up on me.
I know some of you don't care, but does anyone else that has and SO ever run into problems like this with their SO's parents? How do talk to them about it without pissing them off? My girlfriend is extremely defensive of her mom thinking that she does not wrong.
suggestions?
-Girlfriend and I are both 20, I graduated a year early in HS
-Girlfriends brother and I graduated together
-We have been dating for about three years
My girlfriends parents are divorced, have been since she was around 12 her mom got custody of her and her older brother and slowly over time brainwashed my girlfriend into thinking that her dad was a piece of sh!t. This didn't work on the brother so he sees the mom for what she really is.
fast forward to high school, my girlfriends mom was really big, probably around 400lbs. She gets gastric bypass and the weight starts to fall off, suddenly she thinks she gods gift to man*vomit* she stays out late constantly, drinking, partying, sometimes not coming home at all.
My girlfriends brother gets tired of her not acting like an adult, she doesn't buy groceries saying that they are too poor(yeah while you're out drinking at the bar) so my girlfriends brother makes a little phone call to grandma and grandma jumps moms ass. so mom tries to make up for abandoning my girlfriend and her brother for most of their HS years buying them things and acting like she is the victim.
For the next couple years(Junior and Senior year of HS) my girlfriends mom drinks heavily, partying again(that didn't take long) she drinks at home. Saying that her job is what is making her act this way. She has several accidents while drinking, including driving up some mountain during winter, rolling her car over and having to walk in the snow for over a mile. Another time she falls down at the house while drunk hitting her face on her dresser and has the biggest black eye on her daughters graduation day. There are other incidents but I won't post those.
Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, girlfriends mom gets a DUI, driving down the highway with a bottle of tequila, she gets arrested and calls girlfriends brother to bail her out. She makes up some sob story about the cops being rude and ruthless.
Here is the funny part, this past Thursday my girlfriend travels home to see her brother and some family, her mom now lives in Idaho but is making the trip also. I get a call from my girlfriend saying they she and her brother are going looking for their mom because she is two hours late. Lo and behold where to they find her? In jail for another DUI charge, she just wrecked her '05 impala. My girlfriend has to go bail her mom out and has to stay another day and miss work.
2 DUI charges in two weeks.
So I get a call from the girlfriend asking if she can borrow my pickup from my parents because she is going to lend her car to her mom(my pickup is a 2WD and my dad let me borrow his jeep for the winter), I tell her I will have to check with my parents because if she gets into an accident I don't think she is covered under my insurance. She goes off on the huge rant about how I think she is a bad driver and don't trust her and yada yada and then hangs up on me.
I know some of you don't care, but does anyone else that has and SO ever run into problems like this with their SO's parents? How do talk to them about it without pissing them off? My girlfriend is extremely defensive of her mom thinking that she does not wrong.
suggestions?