YAGT: Match day results

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

no,I'm wise and I know that most women are rather lazy,selfish biatches who need to be dragged kicking and screaming to the altar of fiscal responsibility.

My wife isn't like "most women". But thanks for playing.

neither are the tens of thousands of other female doctors,lawyers engineers, master's prepared nurses who very cheerfully used their husband's support to get em thru school and then even more cheerfully divorced them,walking away with their degrees and earning power unemcumbered by little things like alimony or a fair divorce settlement for their ex-husbands.

Prenup clarifies and makes legal a very important question.. "is this his/her degree or is it ours?" Don't kid yourself it's important if you are the spouse playing the supporting role.

 

[vi edit]

neither are the tens of thousands of other female doctors,lawyers engineers, master's prepared nurses who very cheerfully used their husband's support to get em thru school and then even more cheerfully divorced them,walking away with their degrees and earning power unemcumbered by little things like alimony or a fair divorce settlement for their ex-husbands.

Thanks for making half assed assumptions of which you know absolutely nothing about. My wife will be a clinical pharmacist. Do you even know any of them?

 

[Ninjja]

Originally posted by: Doboji
So some of you have followed me losing my head last week. Last week was perhaps one of the most stressful weeks of my life. The quick summary:

Girlfriend is a med student.... March 17th was national match day where Med students find out what residency program they will be at for the next 3 years of their lives.

The possibilities:
Baltimore
Chicago
Cleveland
Cincinatti
Washington DC
Northern Virginia
Atlanta
Boston
Phillidelphia

I have a fantastic job in Northern Virginia, and I was freaking out about what was going to happen to "us" and I was contemplating the possibility of leaving my job to go to any of those places.

I flipped out and read her emails... in lame selfish stupid attempt to garner how she was feeling about the whole thing.... and whether she was thinking the M word or not. I got all paranoid about a bunch of nothing...

She matched in:

Northern Virginia.

-Max

cool dude! :beer:

 

[LordSnailz]

congrats!

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

neither are the tens of thousands of other female doctors,lawyers engineers, master's prepared nurses who very cheerfully used their husband's support to get em thru school and then even more cheerfully divorced them,walking away with their degrees and earning power unemcumbered by little things like alimony or a fair divorce settlement for their ex-husbands.

Thanks for making half assed assumptions of which you know absolutely nothing about. My wife will be a clinical pharmacist. Do you even know any of them?

several, they earn over 100k per year here in the Boston area,more if you count perdiem
opportunties and signing bonuses.

Again, if you have to quit your job to support her interests it's a good thing to have legally clarified one very important question "is it her degree or a degree that belongs
to the marriage ?"

What if it takes you a year to find a new job? what if you need to take a postion at a significantly lower rate of pay than the one you have now or if your prospects for advancement aren't as good ? You will have basically just lowered your earnings potential for decades to come.

It's basically the male version of the mommy track and I personally couldn't fathom asking somebody to make such a sacrifice without ensuring legally that their interests are protected.

 

[vi edit]

several, they earn over 100k per year here in the Boston area,more if you count perdiem
opportunties and signing bonuses.

Again, I stress clinical. Not retail. When she get's out she'll be lucky to pull in $80,000 in our areas. No signing bonues. If she truely was in it for the money she wouldn't have chosen to do a residency and would have taken a job at Walgreens for $100,000 a year like 80%+ of her classmates did and start pulling in a check this May.

Our resolve as a couple is quite a bit stronger than most. I'm exiting this thread because nothing I say can or will change your opinion and the likewise you to me.

I now turn this thread back over to Max.

 

Originally posted by: Doboji
So some of you have followed me losing my head last week. Last week was perhaps one of the most stressful weeks of my life. The quick summary:

Girlfriend is a med student.... March 17th was national match day where Med students find out what residency program they will be at for the next 3 years of their lives.

The possibilities:
Baltimore
Chicago
Cleveland
Cincinatti
Washington DC
Northern Virginia
Atlanta
Boston
Phillidelphia

I have a fantastic job in Northern Virginia, and I was freaking out about what was going to happen to "us" and I was contemplating the possibility of leaving my job to go to any of those places.

I flipped out and read her emails... in lame selfish stupid attempt to garner how she was feeling about the whole thing.... and whether she was thinking the M word or not. I got all paranoid about a bunch of nothing...

She matched in:

Northern Virginia.

-Max

You know, I hope that she'll dump your insane a$$! I imagine she has it all planned to dump you when she's ready. I don't think there's anyway she wouldn't know that you're crazy.... She's probably keeping you around because she fears that you would make her life more miserable while she's in school if she dumps you. There's a whole lot of stress and hardly time to worry about an insane bf. But once she's done with school, her plot will be hatched. If she didn't discover your insanity ealier, she would by then. Go Girl!

Don't hurt her, please! (Yes, your other thread pissed me off, and I'm concerned....)

 

[maziwanka]

what the fvck happened in this thread

 

[deejayshakur]

so nobody's asked the question: what residency program and what specialty?

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: maziwanka
what the fvck happened in this thread

I think DearQT is somehow convinced that I'm Skywalker66. Which I actually find most disturbing. As for Geekbabe vs. Vi_edit I think thats just a class A miscommunication situation.

 

[bootymac]

Nice, good to see your relationship turned out good! I was having huge doubts about it

So did you tell her about reading her emails and such?

 

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: vi_edit

neither are the tens of thousands of other female doctors,lawyers engineers, master's prepared nurses who very cheerfully used their husband's support to get em thru school and then even more cheerfully divorced them,walking away with their degrees and earning power unemcumbered by little things like alimony or a fair divorce settlement for their ex-husbands.

Thanks for making half assed assumptions of which you know absolutely nothing about. My wife will be a clinical pharmacist. Do you even know any of them?

several, they earn over 100k per year here in the Boston area,more if you count perdiem
opportunties and signing bonuses.

Again, if you have to quit your job to support her interests it's a good thing to have legally clarified one very important question "is it her degree or a degree that belongs
to the marriage ?"

What if it takes you a year to find a new job? what if you need to take a postion at a significantly lower rate of pay than the one you have now or if your prospects for advancement aren't as good ? You will have basically just lowered your earnings potential for decades to come.

It's basically the male version of the mommy track and I personally couldn't fathom asking somebody to make such a sacrifice without ensuring legally that their interests are protected.

That's all smart and should be considered, but it's coming a little too late for people who're married. Your advice is best applied before committing oneself to a legal marriage (i.e., unmarried people). It would make sense for someone like Doboji if he were sane adn his gf was going to marry him. However, I fail to see its usefulness amongst spouses who hope to see themselves together for the rest of their lives. Taking your advice would rather cause tension and distrust amongst the two. The last thing you want as spouses is distrust of one another. Once distrust exists, you may as well give it up. I understand that there's a high divorce rate, and you shouldn't be too stupid to look out for your own interest; however, you shouldn't act as if you're not married unless the other person gives you a reason to doubt him/her.

P.S. Could you write a prenup after marriage? I thought the word prenuptial comes from the fact that it's done before actual marriage. No? Vi_Edit is married, as far as I know.

Doboji, no, I don't have you mixed up with someone else! You are the guy who went crazy and invaded his supposed gf's privacy....

 

[bunker]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: vi_edit

neither are the tens of thousands of other female doctors,lawyers engineers, master's prepared nurses who very cheerfully used their husband's support to get em thru school and then even more cheerfully divorced them,walking away with their degrees and earning power unemcumbered by little things like alimony or a fair divorce settlement for their ex-husbands.

Thanks for making half assed assumptions of which you know absolutely nothing about. My wife will be a clinical pharmacist. Do you even know any of them?

several, they earn over 100k per year here in the Boston area,more if you count perdiem
opportunties and signing bonuses.

Again, if you have to quit your job to support her interests it's a good thing to have legally clarified one very important question "is it her degree or a degree that belongs
to the marriage ?"

What if it takes you a year to find a new job? what if you need to take a postion at a significantly lower rate of pay than the one you have now or if your prospects for advancement aren't as good ? You will have basically just lowered your earnings potential for decades to come.

It's basically the male version of the mommy track and I personally couldn't fathom asking somebody to make such a sacrifice without ensuring legally that their interests are protected.

Bitter much?