YAGT: Match day results

[Doboji]

So some of you have followed me losing my head last week. Last week was perhaps one of the most stressful weeks of my life. The quick summary:

Girlfriend is a med student.... March 17th was national match day where Med students find out what residency program they will be at for the next 3 years of their lives.

The possibilities:
Baltimore
Chicago
Cleveland
Cincinatti
Washington DC
Northern Virginia
Atlanta
Boston
Phillidelphia

I have a fantastic job in Northern Virginia, and I was freaking out about what was going to happen to "us" and I was contemplating the possibility of leaving my job to go to any of those places.

I flipped out and read her emails... in lame selfish stupid attempt to garner how she was feeling about the whole thing.... and whether she was thinking the M word or not. I got all paranoid about a bunch of nothing...

She matched in:

Northern Virginia.

-Max

 

[Alex]

awesome good for you dude! :beer:

(don't u deel kinda dumb now though...i think i saw your thread last week and was like wtf...

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: franguinho
awesome good for you dude! :beer:

(don't u deel kinda dumb now though...i think i saw your thread last week and was like wtf...

Yeah I feel like a total ass.... I suppose the point in making dumbass mistakes is to learn from them right? I definitly learned from that one.

-Max

 

[HardcoreRobot]

now don't you feel like a girl for being so wacko last week

 

[BlueWeasel]

Did you fess up to reading her emails?

 

[maziwanka]

AWESOME! awesome to the MAX! (hahahaha)

dude. im very glad things are working out for you

 

[xospec1alk]

wait, you still don't know how she feels about you though right?

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: xospec1alk
wait, you still don't know how she feels about you though right?

Oh yeah about that....

She's made it clear she wants a ring. Word passed from the most reliable of sources.... her sister.

I know alot of people are going to flame me because of my freak out session last week.... but take my word for it. There is no possible way to explain in a thread the inner dynamics of a relationship. This is the girl I want. I'm head over heels for her... If you know her.... she is very very cautious, and wise about everything she does... and if she told her sister she's waiting for me to propose... then that means she is as sure as I am.

The ring search has begun.

-Max

 

[vi edit]

I'm crossing my fingers till Wednesday. That's when my wife finds out her match. (Pharmacy Residency).

Congrats. Glad things worked out the best for you. I completely understand the stress of not knowing what is going to happen and not being able to plan things out well.

I'm actually in the process of trying to list employers in all areas where my wife could match at.

Not fun not knowing where you'll be in 4 months and not having a job when you get there.

 

[EGGO]

I'm really happy for you man.

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: vi_edit
I'm crossing my fingers till Wednesday. That's when my wife finds out her match. (Pharmacy Residency).

Congrats. Glad things worked out the best for you. I completely understand the stress of not knowing what is going to happen and not being able to plan things out well.

I'm actually in the process of trying to list employers in all areas where my wife could match at.

Not fun not knowing where you'll be in 4 months and not having a job when you get there.

Hey man, good luck! Where are her potential matches?

-Max

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: vi_edit
I'm crossing my fingers till Wednesday. That's when my wife finds out her match. (Pharmacy Residency).

Congrats. Glad things worked out the best for you. I completely understand the stress of not knowing what is going to happen and not being able to plan things out well.

I'm actually in the process of trying to list employers in all areas where my wife could match at.

Not fun not knowing where you'll be in 4 months and not having a job when you get there.

Sit home,surf pron,let the biatch pay the bills.

 

[vi edit]

Madison, WI (UW-Mad)
Rochester, MN (Mayo)
Omaha, NB (UW-Neb)

 

[Alex]

Originally posted by: xospec1alk
wait, you still don't know how she feels about you though right?

whether he knows or not, the best way is to just ASK

 

[vi edit]

Sit home,surf pron,let the biatch pay the bills.

$33,000 a year for a residency doesn't pay many bills.

 

[dabuddha]

She hasn't dumped your psycho ass yet?

At least you don't have to move.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Sit home,surf pron,let the biatch pay the bills.

$33,000 a year for a residency doesn't pay many bills.

It's her residency, I'd suggest how the bills get paid should also be her worry.

 

[vi edit]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Sit home,surf pron,let the biatch pay the bills.

$33,000 a year for a residency doesn't pay many bills.

It's her residency, I'd suggest how the bills get paid should also be her worry.

I have no idea what kind of a spin you are tyring to put on this.

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Sit home,surf pron,let the biatch pay the bills.

$33,000 a year for a residency doesn't pay many bills.

It's her residency, I'd suggest how the bills get paid should also be her worry.

I have no idea what kind of a spin you are tyring to put on this.

Yeah, the sad reality is just the opposite.... we're both going to be working like dogs.
Especially in the area we're going to be living in.

-Max

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Sit home,surf pron,let the biatch pay the bills.

$33,000 a year for a residency doesn't pay many bills.

It's her residency, I'd suggest how the bills get paid should also be her worry.

I have no idea what kind of a spin you are tyring to put on this.

She's the one who wanted to do this, she's the one who should have calculated how she was going to pay the bills while she was doing it.Expecting you to uproot yourself from your job and chop,chop hustle up another job right away is unfair.Women want equality except when it comes to putting bread on the table.

The costs asssociated with you being jobless should have been calculated by her and covered by whatever savings,loans and grants she took out.Additionally I hope you've got a nice strong prenup that rewards you for the sacrifices you've had to make to get her thru school

 

[Doboji]

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Sit home,surf pron,let the biatch pay the bills.

$33,000 a year for a residency doesn't pay many bills.

It's her residency, I'd suggest how the bills get paid should also be her worry.

I have no idea what kind of a spin you are tyring to put on this.

She's the one who wanted to do this, she's the one who should have calculated how she was going to pay the bills while she was doing it.Expecting you to uproot yourself from your job and chop,chop hustle up another job right away is unfair.Women want equality except when it comes to putting bread on the table.

The costs asssociated with you being jobless should have been calculated by her and covered by whatever savings,loans and grants she took out.Additionally I hope you've got a nice strong prenup that rewards you for the sacrifices you've had to make to get her thru school

Well they're married... and if you're looking at it from a purely fiscal standpoint... then the 3 years of hardship are definitly worth the reward.

IMHO dream chasing as a couple is a very precarious thing. You were SO right in my last thread about the idea of me leaving everything behind to follow someone who may or may not be "vested". But in Vi's case they are absolutely in a commited relationship, and he has to be supportive in her quest to achieve her dreams. It's only 3 years... they'll be together for the rest of their lives... think of how resentful she would be if he took a hell no attitude about the whole thing.

-Max

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: Doboji

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Originally posted by: Geekbabe

Originally posted by: vi_edit

Sit home,surf pron,let the biatch pay the bills.

$33,000 a year for a residency doesn't pay many bills.

It's her residency, I'd suggest how the bills get paid should also be her worry.

I have no idea what kind of a spin you are tyring to put on this.

She's the one who wanted to do this, she's the one who should have calculated how she was going to pay the bills while she was doing it.Expecting you to uproot yourself from your job and chop,chop hustle up another job right away is unfair.Women want equality except when it comes to putting bread on the table.

The costs asssociated with you being jobless should have been calculated by her and covered by whatever savings,loans and grants she took out.Additionally I hope you've got a nice strong prenup that rewards you for the sacrifices you've had to make to get her thru school

Well they're married... and if you're looking at it from a purely fiscal standpoint... then the 3 years of hardship are definitly worth the reward.

IMHO dream chasing as a couple is a very precarious thing. You were SO right in my last thread about the idea of me leaving everything behind to follow someone who may or may not be "vested". But in Vi's case they are absolutely in a commited relationship, and he has to be supportive in her quest to achieve her dreams. It's only 3 years... they'll be together for the rest of their lives... think of how resentful she would be if he took a hell no attitude about the whole thing.

-Max

The point to be looked at is who's interests are being put first here.. and it's hers. 3 yrs is a nice chunk of time,having to leave a job you are already established in is no small thing and can negatively impact his earning potential for years to come.She wants his support? she should be prepared to shell out cash money for it either via footing all the bills during her training or via a prenup in which his best interests are looked out for,it's only fair and right.

 

[vi edit]

The point to be looked at is who's interests are being put first here.. and it's hers. 3 yrs is a nice chunk of time,having to leave a job you are already established in is no small thing and can negatively impact his earning potential for years to come.She wants his support? she should be prepared to shell out cash money for it either via footing all the bills during her training or via a prenup in which his best interests are looked out for,it's only fair and right.

I understand you got buttfscked in a previous relationship/marriage and are still bitter about it.

My wife's residency is only a year. Not three like Max's situation. I appreciate the wisdom from experience, but it isn't needed.

 

[Geekbabe]

Originally posted by: vi_edit

The point to be looked at is who's interests are being put first here.. and it's hers. 3 yrs is a nice chunk of time,having to leave a job you are already established in is no small thing and can negatively impact his earning potential for years to come.She wants his support? she should be prepared to shell out cash money for it either via footing all the bills during her training or via a prenup in which his best interests are looked out for,it's only fair and right.

I understand you got buttfscked in a previous relationship/marriage and are still bitter about it.

My wife's residency is only a year. Not three like Max's situation. I appreciate the wisdom from experience, but it isn't needed.

no,I'm wise and I know that most women are rather lazy,selfish biatches who need to be dragged kicking and screaming to the altar of fiscal responsibility.If you have to leave your job to further her interests than you should be compensated for it.Remember her net value will increase tremendously once she's got that license in her hands, if you move and you cannot find another job immediately or must take something at lower wages or outside your field your interests will decrease significantly.

 

[vi edit]

no,I'm wise and I know that most women are rather lazy,selfish biatches who need to be dragged kicking and screaming to the altar of fiscal responsibility.

My wife isn't like "most women". But thanks for playing.