YAGT: Lunch with a girl who is "kinda seeing someone"

[Deleted member 4644]

So long story short, I met her at a club.. she knew the people I was with, and I called her later and asked if she wanted to get dinner. She initially said yes, then later asked if we could get lunch because she is really busy lately.

Day before we go out she says in an off hand comment that she is "kind of seeing some guy."

Today we went to lunch and she talked a lot about her ex-bf and how she came to meet this guy she is kind of seeing.. she also acted like it was kind of a new thing and not real sure..

Anyways, two questions: 1) why did she agree to go out with me if she is seeing a guy? 2) should I ask for a second date? We seemed to hit it off great aside from this "some guy."

 

[quakefiend420]

because she isn't serious with the other guy

EDIT: and yes

 

[gwlam12]

Maybe to her it's just lunch.

 

[AznAnarchy99]

keep going with her and soon she'll like you better since you got game off of ATOT and she'll stop seeing the other guy

 

[Ricemarine]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420
because she isn't serious with the other guy

EDIT: and yes

I thought it was the otherway around

 

[Deleted member 4644]

Originally posted by: gwlam12
Maybe to her it's just lunch.

:|:|:|:|:|:|:|:| I hope not.... and she drives a 2005 Mercedes so she isn't poor...

 

[notfred]

1) What quakefiend420 said: she's not serious about the other guy.
2) Yes: a couple more dates and she could "kinda be seeing" two guys - the second being you. A couple more after that, and if things go well if could drop back down to one guy.

 

[EvilYoda]

Just because she's "kinda seeing a guy" doesn't mean she can't have lunch with you...if she were the type to decline getting together if she was serious with someone, she would've said so. Lunch is lunch...unless it's lunch. which it wasn't.

I think you're thinking too hard about the situation...I wouldn't normally call lunch a "date". Are you sure she knows your intentions and your assumptions about your getting-together?

 

[Drakkon]

just dont talk about the "other guy" and focus on having a good time with her...that or become the "friend" with no benefits

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: Ricemarine

Originally posted by: quakefiend420
because she isn't serious with the other guy

EDIT: and yes

I thought it was the otherway around

i may be the wrong person to give advice, considering my track record with other people's gfs...but i think i have this one pegged

 

[bigrash]

sounds like even though she started seeing someone, she's not into him much. if she likes you, you got a good chance

 

[anxi80]

thats strange. my girl was acting weird today and saying she was in a rush to meet a friend for lunch, but she couldnt tell me a name. and after she got back she thought it would be a great idea to take some time apart...

home wrecker!!!

 

[BrianH1]

she is a "holla back girl".

 

[notfred]

Originally posted by: LordSegan

Originally posted by: gwlam12
Maybe to her it's just lunch.

:|:|:|:|:|:|:|:| I hope not.... and she drives a 2005 Mercedes so she isn't poor...

I dont think he meant "she was just trying to get a free lunch". He meant "hey, I'll go out to lunch with a friend vbecause it's better than going alone, even though I have no intention of ever sleeping with him"

 

[Schadenfroh]

Originally posted by: gwlam12
Maybe to her it's just lunch.

 

[Deleted member 4644]

Originally posted by: EvilYoda
Just because she's "kinda seeing a guy" doesn't mean she can't have lunch with you...if she were the type to decline getting together if she was serious with someone, she would've said so. Lunch is lunch...unless it's lunch. which it wasn't.

I think you're thinking too hard about the situation...I wouldn't normally call lunch a "date". Are you sure she knows your intentions and your assumptions about your getting-together?

Why would she want to have lunch with me otherwise? We only met once before and only for 20 minutes....

She wants to meet more guy friends?

 

[DAGTA]

Originally posted by: LordSegan
So long story short, I met her at a club.. she knew the people I was with, and I called her later and asked if she wanted to get dinner. She initially said yes, then later asked if we could get lunch because she is really busy lately.

Day before we go out she says in an off hand comment that she is "kind of seeing some guy."

Today we went to lunch and she talked a lot about her ex-bf and how she came to meet this guy she is kind of seeing.. she also acted like it was kind of a new thing and not real sure..

Anyways, two questions: 1) why did she agree to go out with me if she is seeing a guy? 2) should I ask for a second date? We seemed to hit it off great aside from this "some guy."

So long as you're ok with her 'kinda screwing other guys' while she's 'kinda seeing you', go for it.

 

[EvilYoda]

I don't get why that boggles you so. If I just met somebody new and we got along...why wouldn't I go to lunch with them. How else am I going to get to know them, assuming I want to do so.

Like I said, you're putting too much thought into this. Maybe she wants to have your babies, maybe not...you won't know unless you keep seeing her and stop being ambiguous about your intentions.

note: I am very open to women...it's done well for me, but it's just the way I am. Might not always work out well, but it cuts down on the bullsh*t...unless you want to play the game. in which case, by all means.

 

[preslove]

You don't know how serious she is with this other guy. You should act mysterious and don't commit to anything for a little bit. Then, start following her around with binoculars until you see them together. You should make REAL sure that they aren't tight before going for it. Stake her out for at lest three weeks before you call her again.

 

[Deleted member 4644]

Originally posted by: EvilYoda
I don't get why that boggles you so. If I just met somebody new and we got along...why wouldn't I go to lunch with them. How else am I going to get to know them, assuming I want to do so.

Like I said, you're putting too much thought into this. Maybe she wants to have your babies, maybe not...you won't know unless you keep seeing her and stop being ambiguous about your intentions.

note: I am very open to women...it's done well for me, but it's just the way I am. Might not always work out well, but it cuts down on the bullsh*t...unless you want to play the game. in which case, by all means.

Back in high school I used to go with the "I love you, let's get married" line and it scared girls away.... Now I am much less "honest" with them. How would you go about telling a girl you have only met twice that you are interested in her?

Btw, for what its worth she seems like a girl who does NOT like playing games and appreciates honesty.

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: LordSegan

Originally posted by: EvilYoda
I don't get why that boggles you so. If I just met somebody new and we got along...why wouldn't I go to lunch with them. How else am I going to get to know them, assuming I want to do so.

Like I said, you're putting too much thought into this. Maybe she wants to have your babies, maybe not...you won't know unless you keep seeing her and stop being ambiguous about your intentions.

note: I am very open to women...it's done well for me, but it's just the way I am. Might not always work out well, but it cuts down on the bullsh*t...unless you want to play the game. in which case, by all means.

Back in high school I used to go with the "I love you, let's get married" line and it scared girls away.... Now I am much less "honest" with them. How would you go about telling a girl you have only met twice that you are interested in her?

Btw, for what its worth she seems like a girl who does NOT like playing games and appreciates honesty.

christ, are you serious?

you don't have to come right out and say "i want to impregnate you"

actions speak louder than words...build some rapport, see how she reacts to kino, etc

 

[Deleted member 4644]

Originally posted by: quakefiend420

Originally posted by: LordSegan

Originally posted by: EvilYoda
I don't get why that boggles you so. If I just met somebody new and we got along...why wouldn't I go to lunch with them. How else am I going to get to know them, assuming I want to do so.

Like I said, you're putting too much thought into this. Maybe she wants to have your babies, maybe not...you won't know unless you keep seeing her and stop being ambiguous about your intentions.

note: I am very open to women...it's done well for me, but it's just the way I am. Might not always work out well, but it cuts down on the bullsh*t...unless you want to play the game. in which case, by all means.

Back in high school I used to go with the "I love you, let's get married" line and it scared girls away.... Now I am much less "honest" with them. How would you go about telling a girl you have only met twice that you are interested in her?

Btw, for what its worth she seems like a girl who does NOT like playing games and appreciates honesty.

christ, are you serious?

you don't have to come right out and say "i want to impregnate you"

actions speak louder than words...build some rapport, see how she reacts to kino, etc

IT WAS A JOKE!! I just mean I was too honest with them.

 

[quakefiend420]

Originally posted by: LordSegan

Originally posted by: quakefiend420

Originally posted by: LordSegan

Originally posted by: EvilYoda
I don't get why that boggles you so. If I just met somebody new and we got along...why wouldn't I go to lunch with them. How else am I going to get to know them, assuming I want to do so.

Like I said, you're putting too much thought into this. Maybe she wants to have your babies, maybe not...you won't know unless you keep seeing her and stop being ambiguous about your intentions.

note: I am very open to women...it's done well for me, but it's just the way I am. Might not always work out well, but it cuts down on the bullsh*t...unless you want to play the game. in which case, by all means.

Back in high school I used to go with the "I love you, let's get married" line and it scared girls away.... Now I am much less "honest" with them. How would you go about telling a girl you have only met twice that you are interested in her?

Btw, for what its worth she seems like a girl who does NOT like playing games and appreciates honesty.

christ, are you serious?

you don't have to come right out and say "i want to impregnate you"

actions speak louder than words...build some rapport, see how she reacts to kino, etc

IT WAS A JOKE!! I just mean I was too honest with them.

there's nothing wrong with being honest...unless you're mentally picking out china patterns before dessert shows up

 

[toekramp]

i'm not going to read the whole thread but i'll be honest with what i think

She had some interest, lost said interest, but felt too badly to cancel.

 

[JS80]

Originally posted by: LordSegan

Originally posted by: EvilYoda
Just because she's "kinda seeing a guy" doesn't mean she can't have lunch with you...if she were the type to decline getting together if she was serious with someone, she would've said so. Lunch is lunch...unless it's lunch. which it wasn't.

I think you're thinking too hard about the situation...I wouldn't normally call lunch a "date". Are you sure she knows your intentions and your assumptions about your getting-together?

Why would she want to have lunch with me otherwise? We only met once before and only for 20 minutes....

She wants to meet more guy friends?

More guy friends = more free stuff

BTW, did you pay?