YAGT: Letting a girl down easy...

Drakkon

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So went out on a "blind" date last night...got setup and had been talking to this girl on phone for a week and finally decided to meet up. She had sent me pics over email...thought she looked okay...seemed to have a decent personality.
Well for starters meet up and she looks NOTHING like her pics, looks almost manish. Take her to starbucks and it just goes downhill from there. She likes me and wont shut up about me, and finally the only thing we have in common is the fact i had surgery a few months back and she knows my surgeon. I start taking her back home and shes like "where do you wanna go now", I'm like fvck, I just want to take her home but can't come up with a good excuse, so i just take her to a movie. So give her the ultimate "I dont want to be your bf treatment" even asking her if she would pay for her own ticket (which of course she didnt bring ANY cash). Sit through Corpse Bride (whcih was surprizingly good and thank god SHORT) and finally get to go home.
Well get an email this morning and she gives me the whole "had a great time, really liked you, hope to see you again"...I'm going to do what ive done before, probably instead of calling her jsut email her back saying "not interested, sorry, just not my type." Sadly this still isnt the worst date ever been on, whcih is why i kinda feel bad doing this but i guess makes me human. Any good words for this one? Ways of telling this girl that i am NOT the guy for her?

Notes:
Blind date, lady looked like a dood (you do NOT want pics)
Gave her a chance, lady annoyed me
Gave her the cold shoulder still liked me
Now i gotta find a way to tell her she aint for me
 

Pepsei

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Dec 14, 2001
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where do i start... hmmmm

tell her you're really into hentai.....

tell her to look that up...
 

lokiju

Lifer
May 29, 2003
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Tell her you're not into beastly women and you hope she understands then laugh and hang up the phone, that should do the trick.
 

Booster

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sadly not too far off, just loose the beard...and yeah...that big...

Why did you date her at all? I would've escaped myself on some random excuse. Also... Can't you tell if a girl is fat by her voice alone?
 

ultimatebob

Lifer
Jul 1, 2001
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Yeah, just ignore her and she'll go away eventually. If women use that approach all the time, why can't men?
 

sswingle

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Mar 2, 2000
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She's probably just lonely because no one else will hit it either. Give her some to make her happy, then dissapear.
 

sixone

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Originally posted by: Drakkon
...I start taking her back home and shes like "where do you wanna go now", I'm like fvck, I just want to take her home but can't come up with a good excuse, so i just take her to a movie. So give her the ultimate "I dont want to be your bf treatment" even asking her if she would pay for her own ticket (which of course she didnt bring ANY cash)....

It's time for you to man up. You can't tell her you're taking her home, and you went ahead and paid for her ticket anyway, instead of walking out the door? You need a spine, and you're not going to get rid of her until you find one.

Answer her e-mail: "I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I don't think we have enough in common, so I won't be calling you again." Don't give her anything to argue with, and answer any future e-mails with "Please don't contact me again". If you're man enough.

I'm sorry this sounds so harsh, but I'm convinced you need to hear it. And you did ask...
 

LordNoob

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Nov 16, 2003
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It will hurt her more if you lead her on when you aren't interested rather than just being up front and setting her straight.
 

Orsorum

Lifer
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Originally posted by: Shadowknight
It could have been worse: http://www.somethingawful.com/articles.php?a=3229

Holy god. :Q

I've had something like that start to bud, 'cept the woman was skinner... glad I broke that off quickly.

And, you're right, you need to break this one off quickly and directly. Don't hint, don't beat around the bush, don't give her any ground to stand on. Just break off contact.