YAGT (kind of) without any 'p00n' searching.

[Skunkwourk]

"When I got back to her, she said that she was very hurt that I didn?t share stuff with her and asked me if I just wanted to be work friends."

You could have solved it right there.

However, for whatever reason (low self esteem, jealousy, etc...) she seems pretty unstable emotionally so uncivilized solutions probably won't work well with her. She'll probably become bitter and do malicious things so I would just suggest playing iit off and making subtle remarks back to her here and there. Comment on her behavior, next time she complains about you spending more time with someone else just say something like "I didn't know it was a contest". Point out her childishness, embarassment can be a very effective tool.

 

[Skunkwourk]

just kinda realized I gave you an uncivilzed solution. but oh well, its worth a shot.

 

[RegularK]

Originally posted by: Eghck
"When I got back to her, she said that she was very hurt that I didn?t share stuff with her and asked me if I just wanted to be work friends."

You could have solved it right there.

However, for whatever reason (low self esteem, jealousy, etc...) she seems pretty unstable emotionally so uncivilized solutions probably won't work well with her. She'll probably become bitter and do malicious things so I would just suggest playing iit off and making subtle remarks back to her here and there. Comment on her behavior, next time she complains about you spending more time with someone else just say something like "I didn't know it was a contest". Point out her childishness, embarassment can be a very effective tool.

Sounds like a pretty solid plan. Thanks, Eghck!

 

[Skunkwourk]

anytime, all I ask on behalf of ATOT is for an update later on. no more syringers

 

[xirtam]

Pardon me for asking, but wtf did she mean when she asked if you just wanted to be friends if there wasn't supposed to be any romance?

Is she PMSing? That's the only explanation I can come up with. Girls get one excuse per month with me for that kind of irrational behavior. That's it.

Oh, and "dump" her since she's not your friend or your significant other and there's no lesbian love and no pics. And find a less controlling friend.

No charge. I do what I can.

 

[RegularK]

Originally posted by: xirtam
Pardon me for asking, but wtf did she mean when she asked if you just wanted to be friends if there wasn't supposed to be any romance?

Is she PMSing? That's the only explanation I can come up with. Girls get one excuse per month with me for that kind of irrational behavior. That's it.

Oh, and "dump" her since she's not your friend or your significant other and there's no lesbian love and no pics. And find a less controlling friend.

No charge. I do what I can.

Work friends = no hanging out or talking to each other outside of work? --at least that's how i see it.

And I doubt it has to do with that time of the month. She has a sour attitude at least once a week...to customers AND to co-workers. Sometimes I have my bad days, but I try to be professional when work is concerned. She's easily offended and gets mad a lot. That's just how she is. *shrugs*

 

[Stark]

now you know what us heterosexual guys have to go through!

women are a chemistry experiment... 30-40% of the time they're just completely insane.

 

[RegularK]

Originally posted by: Stark
now you know what us heterosexual guys have to go through!

women are a chemistry experiment... 30-40% of the time they're just completely insane.

just 30 - 40% eh?

And you and all of the heterosexual males have my condolences...

 

[xirtam]

Ok, I guess I have a more clear picture now. Tell her the "work friends" idea sounds phenomenal, and thank her for having such a great idea. Tell her that you two are going to be around each other a lot since you work together and you don't want to do anything to limit each other's productivity.

Unless you want to be this person's friend. It sounds like she's reaching, and if the desparation is annoying to you, then let her know you'd like to confine your relationship to just work. You might want to be a bit more PC than telling her to pull her head out of her @ss even though it's essentially the message.

You two have some sort of history. She's obviously thinking you two have more of a friendship than you do. It'll be a good exercise to figure out how to tell her to stop being a clingy b!tch without hurting her feelings.

 

[dsfunk]

pics?

 

[hg321]

Originally posted by: dsfunk
pics?

about time someone asked

 

[RegularK]

Originally posted by: dsfunk
pics?

of what? the head coming out of her @ss?

 

[Tremulant]

I have a cousin who is terrified of clowns.

I bug her with that whenever I get the chance

 

[RegularK]

Originally posted by: Tremulant
I have a cousin who is terrified of clowns.

I bug her with that whenever I get the chance

I'm not really terrified of clowns persay, but I would definitely be on the lookout if I saw a clown headed my way...in a dark alley.

 

[xirtam]

Originally posted by: RegularK

Originally posted by: dsfunk
pics?

of what? the head coming out of her @ss?

He wants pics of the girls involved. He just wants to be reassured that females exist.

 

[RegularK]

Originally posted by: xirtam

Originally posted by: RegularK

Originally posted by: dsfunk
pics?

of what? the head coming out of her @ss?

He wants pics of the girls involved. He just wants to be reassured that females exist.

I have no pictures of her, but my ugly mug is on my xanga.

Edit: And yes...I'm from Texas so I can wear a cowboy hat (although i'm probably feeding ya'lls stereotype that Texans just wear cowboy hats and ride horses all day)

 

[Kadarin]

RegularK, I give you a big :thumbsup: for your attitude in this thread. You sound like a great person.

 

[cerebusPu]

maybe she's just a girly girl and wants to hangout with other girls. if you dont to want to be bestest friends with her....then you dont have to. Thats it! i avoid guy and girl friends whenever i dont want to hang out.

 

[RegularK]

Originally posted by: Astaroth33
RegularK, I give you a big :thumbsup: for your attitude in this thread. You sound like a great person.

Thanks! That means a lot coming from a lifer. Although, I do have to ask...is it the fact that I created a thread complaining about someone who considers me a friend or the fact that I continued to point out things that annoyed me about her...that makes me a great person?

 

[Tremulant]

Originally posted by: RegularK

Originally posted by: Tremulant
I have a cousin who is terrified of clowns.

I bug her with that whenever I get the chance

I'm not really terrified of clowns persay, but I would definitely be on the lookout if I saw a clown headed my way...in a dark alley.

Ah, well.. that's kinda normal. My cousin is just straight terrified of them. And her best friend is terrified of dolphins. Yeah.. dolphins.

BTW, your friend kinda sounds like she doesn't have anyone else to hang with. And therefore is clinging to you.. but she could just want teh secks.

 

[RegularK]

Originally posted by: Tremulant

Originally posted by: RegularK

Originally posted by: Tremulant
I have a cousin who is terrified of clowns.

I bug her with that whenever I get the chance

I'm not really terrified of clowns persay, but I would definitely be on the lookout if I saw a clown headed my way...in a dark alley.

Ah, well.. that's kinda normal. My cousin is just straight terrified of them. And her best friend is terrified of dolphins. Yeah.. dolphins.

BTW, your friend kinda sounds like she doesn't have anyone else to hang with. And therefore is clinging to you.. but she could just want teh secks.

Flipper? Who can be afraid of Flipper?

And i'm pretty sure that has something to do with it, but she has a boyfriend...so she should cling to him.

 

[Tremulant]

Originally posted by: RegularK

Originally posted by: Tremulant

Originally posted by: RegularK

Originally posted by: Tremulant
I have a cousin who is terrified of clowns.

I bug her with that whenever I get the chance

I'm not really terrified of clowns persay, but I would definitely be on the lookout if I saw a clown headed my way...in a dark alley.

Ah, well.. that's kinda normal. My cousin is just straight terrified of them. And her best friend is terrified of dolphins. Yeah.. dolphins.

BTW, your friend kinda sounds like she doesn't have anyone else to hang with. And therefore is clinging to you.. but she could just want teh secks.

Flipper? Who can be afraid of Flipper?

And i'm pretty sure that has something to do with it, but she has a boyfriend...so she should cling to him.

Last summer we were in some souvenir store in Orlando (driving up to NJ, where my cousin and her friend live) and it had a bunch of clown and dolphin figurines. They were freaking out. It was pretty funny, and sad in a way.

You should pass off your friend to someone else. Preferably someone you don't like. :evil:

 

[RegularK]

Last summer we were in some souvenir store in Orlando (driving up to NJ, where my cousin and her friend live) and it had a bunch of clown and dolphin figurines. They were freaking out. It was pretty funny, and sad in a way.

You should pass off your friend to someone else. Preferably someone you don't like. :evil:

:evil: Why didn't I think of that?

"John, have you met Yoko?"
"Yoko--John."

 

Originally posted by: RegularK
?just one in particular, really. Yesterday at work, I was talking to my manager about Olive Garden?s unlimited soup, salad, and breadsticks (mmm?). My ?friend? (and I use that term loosely) asks who I went to Olive Garden with. I tell her I went with a buddy of mine after class and here?s how the rest of the conversation went:

Her: Oh?I didn?t know you hung out with him.
Me: We really don?t, but we have lab and a lot of classes together so we hang out on occasion?Mainly eating or whatnot.

At that point, I continue to go about my business, and she walks off and says (quietly, yet audibly), ?More than we do? in a very bitchy tone.

Other instance of her being crazy:
I was dating someone last semester, and I casually mentioned this to her but spared her the details. I brought something up to another co-worker about what my SO did that I thought was really sweet, and she found out. The day she found out, she called my cell and left me a message (while she was still at work). When I got back to her, she said that she was very hurt that I didn?t share stuff with her and asked me if I just wanted to be work friends.

I?m almost certain there?s more, but all of the instances just seem to mesh together.

Honestly, I could understand if we were really good friends, but we?re not. We went to high school together, but I didn?t start talking to her until we had some classes together in college (and because we work together). We hang out on occasion (doing the same stuff all the time), but we?re completely different people.

I would like to say I?m a pretty laid back person and can put up with a lot of sh!t, but if she says anything else like that to me, I?m going to have to tell her to take her head out of her @ss, which I know is probably a bad idea.

Any ideas on how I can handle this situation with civility...since we still work together?
Any less civilized ideas will also be appreciated.
Sorry, no cliffs, but I did break up the post in ?easy-to-read? short sections.
Thanks in advance!

She does want you! But here's the big question: Did you ever, ever in your life hint to her or explicitly state that you loved her or were interested in her. It doesn't matter if you were joking, but did you ever hint that or pester her.

Unless a woman's psychotic, there's no way she would behave that way if you hadn't expressed interest in her ever. If she's psychotic, I don't know what to say. However, I suspect in this case that you did at some point initiate a relationship or interest. It's a little unfair to pretend now if you ever did that. However, if you're not interested, you can't force yourself to be. So do approach her and tell her off politely. She'll be pissed off and may curse at you, but that's okay. She's permitted to feel that way. If you're more of a gentleman, you could help ease the hurt by apologizing for leading her on--even if you didn't think you were. She'll eventually get over it.

P.S. Remember that this is workplace, so be very careful the way you approach it. You could always opt to stay distant and ignore her comments.

 

[RegularK]

She does want you! But here's the big question: Did you ever, ever in your life hint to her or explicitly state that you loved her or were interested in her. It doesn't matter if you were joking, but did you ever hint that or pester her.

Unless a woman's psychotic, there's no way she would behave that way if you hadn't expressed interest in her ever. If she's psychotic, I don't know what to say. However, I suspect in this case that you did at some point initiate a relationship or interest. It's a little unfair to pretend now if you ever did that. However, if you're not interested, you can't force yourself to be. So do approach her and tell her off politely. She'll be pissed off and may curse at you, but that's okay. She's permitted to feel that way. If you're more of a gentleman, you could help ease the hurt by apologizing for leading her on--even if you didn't think you were. She'll eventually get over it.

P.S. Remember that this is workplace, so be very careful the way you approach it. You could always opt to stay distant and ignore her comments.

I'm pretty certain I didn't because I like dudes. I can't possibly begin to think how i could behave to make her think i was interested in her.