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secretanchitman

secretanchitman

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I honestly don't like my parents anymore. They're so sheltered. They only believe I should talk to boys, and not any girls. they don't believe in dating, they don't believe I should be talking online, talking to any girls. basically, the words, girl, date, and go out, are like banned in our house. The only person I can talk about these kinds of things, is my bro. If I say i'm talking to a girl to my parents, they'll be like, don't talk to them!

I don't really know what to do...should I just say something to them or what?

thanks

Please, no flamers, or sucks for you crap. This has been going on ever since i entered middle school.
 
my parents are from India. Dad is a doctor. mom a housewife. I'm about to be 15. brother is 21. but he dated when he was like 17, i cant remember.
 
Well they are correct. How can they expect you to have an arranged marriage if you are talking to other girls and maybe interested in them?
 
unfortunately, i can't move out till college... but i will say that they aren't in India anymore.

thanks for all the help so far! keep the ideas coming!
 
Originally posted by: BastulaJr
Originally posted by: jumpr
I bet you can't wait for college. Get as far away as possible.
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yup, you stole the thoughts/words out of my head...
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Dude..been there..done that..oh wait. I am still there. The only lucky thing for me is well I have been to college..but I am a girl so they still haven't let up. Trust me..be glad you are not a girl in the same family...life is a trillion times worse.

I guess at some point you are going to have to start living on your own. Funny as it may seem...I am exactly in the same family situation as you...doctor dad, housewife mom (thats the worst, they have nothing to do but worry about you and drive you up the wall), and a bro who is 15.

I suggest you talk to you brother; he will be the best one who can advise you..Bastula, right? I talk with my bro all the time and keep our communications open so if he needs advice he knows he can come to me because we both know we can't go to our parents with these type of stuff. He actually does have a girl friend and has managed to keep it hidden for now, than again she is couple of states away so it is not as hard.

Btw, as a older sister, I say defenitely have gal friends and what not but there really is no rush for being in a relationship and what not. Chill..enjoy life. IF a girl comes along..then become friends and see where things go from there. Don't be out to get a girlfriend JUST to defy your parents. 😉
 
its just a phase, when u get to ~17-18, they'll let u do whatever the hell u want. At least thats how my parents are. But then again my parents aren't indian🙂
 
Originally posted by: BastulaJr
unfortunately, i can't move out till college... but i will say that they aren't in India anymore.

thanks for all the help so far! keep the ideas coming!
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hahahha...

wait a sec...

HHAHHAHAHHAHAHA....

if only that really worked. Cumon dood..your bro's been through it..what did he do??? I am serious..you two know your parents best, you know how to handle them best. I suppose your bro didn't really break them in..you do realize; your job is going to be five times harder now. Did your bro just not tell them he had a girl??
 
thanks kalpana.

well, you're right, i shouldn't go out and rush into relationships. But even if i just hang out with a girl, or talk to them online casually, they get mad/pissed off. so i dont know what to do there...
 
Tell them you met a cute guy on the intraweb and ask them if you can borrow a few bucks for condoms and ky.

Other than that, you're screwed. Wait til you're 18 and then run as far away as you can. Sorry.
 
Originally posted by: Kalpana
Originally posted by: BastulaJr
unfortunately, i can't move out till college... but i will say that they aren't in India anymore.

thanks for all the help so far! keep the ideas coming!
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hahahha...

wait a sec...

HHAHHAHAHHAHAHA....

if only that really worked. Cumon dood..your bro's been through it..what did he do??? I am serious..you two know your parents best, you know how to handle them best. I suppose your bro didn't really break them in..you do realize; your job is going to be five times harder now. Did your bro just not tell them he had a girl??
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bah, i replyed to your earlier post...

anyway, he eventually told them, but still, they let him do whatever...now when it comes to me, they're like stupid about it.
 
Originally posted by: BastulaJr
thanks kalpana.

well, you're right, i shouldn't go out and rush into relationships. But even if i just hang out with a girl, or talk to them online casually, they get mad/pissed off. so i dont know what to do there...
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I know this doesn't help..but it just so reminds me of my house it is insane.

I personally just throw my guy friends in her face over and over and over again until she HAS to realize that they are just friends and then are good guys. Now she trusts my high school friends with my life...
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but she still freaks out about my college guy friends. Go figgure..I gave up on her a long time ago.

But my bro went out to walk around the neighborhood last summer with two of his friends...so these girls are in their normal american get up..tank top and a shorts. So he comes in and my mom sees their outfits..and FLIPPS OUT. I kid you not..I was so shocked. She usually has a little bit more decorum than that..but no. She doesn't mind seeing girls in those outfits but the fact that my brother alone was walking around with two girls around the neighborhood (btw, our neighborhood is filled with indians, muslims, and jews) just blew her top.

But at the same time, I know we sit here and bash our parents out in fifty different ways; but we must at least try to understand what perspective they come from. It is defenitely a very different cultural change. Cumon guys...all you americans out there...if your great grandmas saw what you the people in america in are doing now they would flip over in their graves. The society has changed a lot in the last fifty years...dating..something we take so casually was really not even prevalent seventy years ago.

Arranged marriages, something that indians get so much crap for. Dude...just look at your own history a hundred years ago. What do you think happened during hte victorian era? Free dating..heck no.

🙂


EDIT: Of if your bro gets his way, I would say it must be easier for you. Or they might really try to make you into a good indian boy, since the older one went "bad"
 
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