YAGT: is she just being nice?

[dakata24]

okay, here's the story. this girl is a friend of a friend. hung out with her a few times. somehow, she gets ahold of my cell # but doesnt call. today, my friend has people over and this girl is over. i didnt go since i was busy. well, somewhere int he convo my name gets mentioned as to why she hasnt called me.

so she ends up calling me. we talk for 3 hrs. but i have to say im up there as being one of the most un-interesting people to talk with. i have a hard time making conversation.. always thinking about what im going to say beforehand.. shy.. etc. all that good stufff. i think i bored her to death imho.. but she did most of the talking anyways.

anyways. end of the conversation, she asks i want to talk to her again tomorrow night after i get off work. alittle befuddled (is that a word), i get really uncomfortable. more so than before. im thinking, why the hell would she want to talk with me somemore after these 3 agonizing hours.. im quite surprised she stayed on the phone this long..

so my question is, was she just being nice or what could be the reason she would ask me if she wanted to chat after work with boring old me??

help!

 

[gopunk]

tell her you prefer to talk to people in person and ask her to do something... i dunno, maybe she just wants to use you for your body

 

[Siddhartha]

Do not worry about it. She will call you if she wants to.

Oh yeah, you might want to go get dressed in your nomex flame retardent suit and matching helmet...

 

[dakata24]

Originally posted by: gopunk
tell her you prefer to talk to people in person and ask her to do something... i dunno, maybe she just wants to use you for your body

lol. i wish. she's hot and i consider myself average. though she says im cute (being nice again?)..

ive been out of the dating pool too long. im clueless when it comes to girls.

 

[Kenny]

I'm in the same boat as you man. I'm probably really boring to girls too, but I'm a good listener. There are some girls out there that just like talking. I remember talking to a girl on the phone for three hours a night, and she probably did 4/5ths the talking. We ended up going to prom together and got really close (more than friends). Sadly she went to a college far away from me so we decided to end it.

Anyway, in your situation, I think it depends on what you guys talked about. If it was about her old boyfriends and how they screwed up, I wouldn't talk to her again. Just run. But, if she's the type of girl that wants someone to listen, just get to know her more. Be blunt, just ask her if she really likes talking to you or not, even though you think you're really boring.

Whatever you decide to do, good luck.

 

[z0mb13]

maybe *GASP* she thinks ure cute??!?!?!

 

[Thegonagle]

She's interested, I think. Ask her for a date tomorrow and go out somewhere.

Edit: And don't wait to make a move, or she'll move on before you even know it. <-- That's a lesson I learned the hard way a few too many times.

 

[dakata24]

thanks for the words of encourgement t60. i even told her i thought i was boring her to death.. but, hm. her ex-bf did come up in the convo, but only after she asked me about my past relationships.. she talked about a wide range of stuff. when she has children, how she'd like to raise them, kind of pornos she doesnt like., etc.. that sorta stuff.

She's interested, I think. Ask her for a date tomorrow and go out somewhere.

Edit: And don't wait to make a move, or she'll move on before you even know it. <-- That's a lesson I learned the hard way a few too many times.

i could only hope. well, if she does call me after work (1am in the morning might i add), ill see if she would like to do something together sometime..

 

[dakata24]

 

[Kenny]

Originally posted by: dakata24
i could only hope. well, if she does call me after work (1am in the morning might i add), ill see if she would like to do something together sometime..

Keep us posted.

 

[Eli]

Don't think about things too much, just go along with them.

 

[DanTMWTMP]

wtf..dude if she wants to talk to you again....just talk to her...don't think too much about it....i'm sure the convo wasn't taht bad unless u have a transcript of it....and that shows otherwise..

 

[AnyMal]

Originally posted by: Eli
Don't think about things too much, just go along with them.

Good advice. Go with the flow.

 

[oLLie]

Make sure you get her one of the porno's she likes.

:Q!

 

[Siddhartha]

Call her!

 

[Mill]

No, it actually seems like she is interested.

 

[chin311]

seems interested to me, and act quick before you are doomed into teh "FRIEND ZONE"!!!1

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh, worst thing ever.

 

[isaacmacdonald]

attn all people: from now on please place polls in yagt thread, so a democratic response can be ascertained without having to read every response.

yes she's just being nice-

 

[gigapet]

you dont deserve anything from chicks.........

 

[Ernieb]

go ahead make a move go ask her out..... before it's too late
be yourself.....listen to her....things will be great

 

[Izzo]

Originally posted by: dakata24
i even told her i thought i was boring her to death.. but, hm.

Don't sound like you are unsure of yourself. If you keep telling her you are boring then before too long she will believe it. Pointing out your own weaknesses (or perceived weaknesses) doesn't help with getting teh gurls.

 

[isaacmacdonald]

Originally posted by: Izzo

Originally posted by: dakata24
i even told her i thought i was boring her to death.. but, hm.

Don't sound like you are unsure of yourself. If you keep telling her you are boring then before too long she will believe it. Pointing out your own weaknesses (or perceived weaknesses) doesn't help with getting teh gurls.

***CONFIRMED***

You don't have to talk about yourself. Most girls just crave attention anyway, so asking probing questions should more than suffice for your apparently lackluster character.

 

[Azraele]

It sounds like she's interested. If she wasn't, she'd never have brought up talking again tomorrow.

 

[clamum]

You would think if she was just being nice that she'd of said "Nice talking to you" or "Talk to you later" or something along those lines but after a three hour phone conversation she asked if you would like to talk to her again. I'd say that she's interested. Don't be too shy to make a move!

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

Originally posted by: Azraele
It sounds like she's interested. If she wasn't, she'd never have brought up talking again tomorrow.

Maybe she is looking for 'a friend' to talk to...

(Ask her on a date before you become just that!)