Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
First, I must make it totally clear that I'm not bragging. These three girls are all cute and nice but they're not supermodels and I'm not the "man" for having them in my life. I'm just lucky and lost weight so I'm more confident than I usually am. But, yeah, I'm not bragging - I'm just confused right now and could use some advice. I had like 2 years off from dating after a long relationship so I'm friggin' clueless and pathetic, so make fun of me - just don't accuse me of e-bragging since I have nothing to brag about.
Here's the situation. There are three girls who are in my sights, but I'm not sure how to balance this. In fact, I don't wnat there to be three, it's way too stressful.
Girl #1 - A friend of mine from highschool who I had a crush on way back when. She emails me out of nowhere (after 7 years!) and mentions hanging out with a mutual friend. We begin emailing back and forth and end up meeting up for drinks. but our first meeting turned out very different then I thought it would - i spent the night and... well.. i didn't expect that at all. Part of the attraction is nostalgia - the cute girl from high school wants me for a change! But she's also a sweet girl and I do like her... She's just kinda irresponsible (lives with her parents still) and doesn't ahve a real job yet. She's been calling /texting me to hang out and we will eventually, just feel weird because of how our last meeting ended.
Girl #2 - Total myspace ho. We've been e-flirting and I'm pretty sure she'll be an easy lay, she actually invited me to her place on Saturday but I'm having reservations because of girl #1 and my feelings for girl #3. She's really pushy and has been emailing me a lot and it's getting on my nerves. She also doesn't interest me as a person and we'd just be using each other, which i'm honestly fine with..I'm thinking of just cutting her off but my dryspell in the past makes such a move seem stupid... What do you think?
Girl #3 - the girl who complicated things. We had our first date last night and we had a wonderful time. She's intelligent ( a web designer who codes by hand!), well off, cute, and very mature. Relationship material, for sure. But the newly cautious me wants to take things slow with girls I really like so, even though she invited me home, I passed and just asked her out on a 2nd date. I see this going somewhere but my problem is with the other 2.
NOW, my problem seems like a simple one but I don't; want to keep all of my eggs in one basket. I would cut out or change the relationship with the other girls if I had something more invested in girl #3, but it's only been one date (as wonderful as it was). I feel guilty if I did anything behind her back because I respect her, but I also don't want to screw up 2 other fun opportunities... Since I'm supposed to hang out with all 3 this weekend I'm kinda banging my head on the table to figure this out... Thoughts?