YAGT: I'm single again...

Originally posted by: joshsquall
I feel your pain. My girlfriend and I just broke up for religious reasons. Sucks that "love is not enough" sometimes.

Where is your thread? Your story sounds interesting.

 

[Kadarin]

Originally posted by: Yax

Originally posted by: Astaroth33

Originally posted by: joshsquall

Originally posted by: Darthvoy

Originally posted by: joshsquall
I feel your pain. My girlfriend and I just broke up for religious reasons. Sucks that "love is not enough" sometimes.

OMG...My current G/F is threatening to break up with me if I don't go to church with her...

If you're not as religious as her, and don't think you ever will be, you should probably end it now. Especially if she's in a bible study or hangs out with a lot of other christian girls. They will eventually convince her that your relationship will never please God, if you aren't on the same spiritual level.

I agree, it's better to end it now. People who believe in God are typically either very much unwilling or otherwise completely unable to understand the thought processes of those who do not. And vice versa.

But if she's hot and she's giving it up, why give up a good thing? I'd rather ride it as long as I can. Eithier till I get tired of it or till she decides she's too good for me.

Well, then as long as you don't have any illusions about what you're getting out of the relationship, it's all good! :thumbsup:

 

[weirdichi]

It's not religion at all. It's culture. I personally think it all stemmed from something stupid, like a grudge. One side refuses to admit fault and the grudge is passed down from generation to generation.

I really did think about marrying someone from outside the culture, but then again, that wouldn't be fair to her because I'd be doing it out of spite, not love. Either way, I've gone through relationships before and I can deal with it. That doesn't mean that I don't care though. Just that this at this point, it sucks. But you know what, all I need are those three little words: LIFE GOES ON.

Thanks to everybody who posted with their thoughts on the matter.

 

[alm4rr]

Originally posted by: weirdichi
Never thought I'd post a YAGT thread, but I have to just let it out. Hard to explain, but it's about cultural/family diffrences, if that makes any sense at all. I know her209 will understand, since he is Hmong also. Basically we can't date/marry a certain clan because of some stupid reason our ancestors made up. Yeah, pisses me off. I don't know what to feel right now. It'll probably hit me hard later. Thanks for reading.

are you a pawn of your parents ?

 

[Gunslinger08]

Originally posted by: buck

Originally posted by: joshsquall
I feel your pain. My girlfriend and I just broke up for religious reasons. Sucks that "love is not enough" sometimes.

Where is your thread? Your story sounds interesting.

Dated for 6 months, she joined a bible study and a christian music group. I'm a believer, but no where as heavily involved. Her bible study/group girls tell her that if we aren't on the same level spiritually, the relationship will never be truely happy and pleasing to God. We discuss this for several months while still enjoying a happy, satisfying relationship. She goes away on a trip with her group this past weekend, and comes back on Sunday to tell me she's thought and prayed a lot, and talked to the girls in the group, and decided we can't be together because of spiritual differences. 13 month anniversary would have been next Monday. And here I stand, a cold and broken man. Not as interesting as you hoped, I'm sure.

 

[alm4rr]

Originally posted by: joshsquall

Originally posted by: buck

Originally posted by: joshsquall
I feel your pain. My girlfriend and I just broke up for religious reasons. Sucks that "love is not enough" sometimes.

Where is your thread? Your story sounds interesting.

Dated for 6 months, she joined a bible study and a christian music group. I'm a believer, but no where as heavily involved. Her bible study/group girls tell her that if we aren't on the same level spiritually, the relationship will never be truely happy and pleasing to God. We discuss this for several months while still enjoying a happy, satisfying relationship. She goes away on a trip with her group this past weekend, and comes back on Sunday to tell me she's thought and prayed a lot, and talked to the girls in the group, and decided we can't be together because of spiritual differences. 13 month anniversary would have been next Monday. And here I stand, a cold and broken man. Not as interesting as you hoped, I'm sure.

After reading that, congrats on getting out as soon as you did........

 

[AnyMal]

If you/her weren't willing to sacrifice for your love then it wasn't true. Personally, when I met my wife and we fell in love, and eventually decided to marry, I couldn't care less what my/her relaives thought about it. It's OUR life, OUR love, OUR happines. If nobody else wants to be happy for us, they can go f@ck themselves for all we care. We only have one life and it's too damn short to be dancing to the tunes of clans/relatives/culture/religion.

<-------ukrainian, married to a jewish girl.

 

[z0mb13]

what is Hmong?

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: weirdichi
It's not religion at all. It's culture. I personally think it all stemmed from something stupid, like a grudge. One side refuses to admit fault and the grudge is passed down from generation to generation.

I really did think about marrying someone from outside the culture, but then again, that wouldn't be fair to her because I'd be doing it out of spite, not love. Either way, I've gone through relationships before and I can deal with it. That doesn't mean that I don't care though. Just that this at this point, it sucks. But you know what, all I need are those three little words: LIFE GOES ON.

Thanks to everybody who posted with their thoughts on the matter.

I may not be an expert on the Hmong culture, but I know that if she follows you home, then her parents have to give her up to you or lose face. I don't believe you're helpless and you're giving it up because of parents. The truth is, you really don't want to go through this and you know it. You just won't admit it. I can't begin to imagine how she's feeling right now.

 

[her209]

Have a :beer: on me weirdichi. Its Friday night after all.

:beer::beer::beer:
:beer::beer:

 

[Pepsei]

i swear i read the same thread maybe 2 years ago... same subject, same clan hmong, different person.