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YAGT: I just cut my Girlfriend off

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She's just 'cut' ? You should've THROWN her to the curb.

And here's a big F U to that "other guy" in all our girl's relationships.
 
yeah time to move on. There is a lot of garbage out there....its harder and harder to find someone that isn't scrap metal the older you get.

 
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
While what she did is entirely wrong, she feels justified because you broke up with her and she has no moral values.
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Originally posted by: Mentat
then she breaks up with me.
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She did the breaking up. Hence the reason why I feel she left me for him. Thus the reason why I feel betrayed
 
Originally posted by: fbrdphreak
You should've had sex one last time, and left her a note saying something like "Thanks for the wham-bam-thank-you-m'aam, enjoy your "brother" "
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lol
 
I left her a note before I left the night of, basically saying:

-Hope you guys have a fruitful and wonderful relationship together
-I dont appreciate being lied to, I never treated you dishonestly
-Have a good life

She Texts me back today saying "i will have you know. I left you for no one except myself. The new guy is a new development. Believe what you want"

I want to text her back saying "new development...bullshit! you guys went on a long walk by the beach...(speculation: and probably even kissed then)...according to my friend that was at the da*n Thanksgiving dinner."

So what...if you guys decided to be together TODAY that would be too soon. Give yourself some F'ing time to recuperate. my god!
 
Originally posted by: Mentat
I left her a note before I left the night of, basically saying:

-Hope you guys have a fruitful and wonderful relationship together
-I dont appreciate being lied to, I never treated you dishonestly
-Have a good life

She Texts me back today saying "i will have you know. I left you for no one except myself. The new guy is a new development. Believe what you want"

I want to text her back saying "new development...bullshit! you guys went on a long walk by the beach...(speculation: and probably even kissed then)...according to my friend that was at the damn Thanksgiving dinner."

So what...if you guys decided to be together TODAY that would be too soon. Give yourself some F'ing time to recuperate. my god!
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So you didn't cut her off at all. Heh, good luck.
 
Mentat,

You'll find that many women out there will just hop from relationship to relatinoship, marriage to marriage with no time between them at all. Learn to recognize this behavior early and stay the heck away from these kinds of people.
 
It would be much easier to simply head on down to China and pick a wife. It should take no more than a couple weeks, a month if you aren't exactly a looker.
 
Originally posted by: Mentat
I left her a note before I left the night of, basically saying:

-Hope you guys have a fruitful and wonderful relationship together
-I dont appreciate being lied to, I never treated you dishonestly
-Have a good life

She Texts me back today saying "i will have you know. I left you for no one except myself. The new guy is a new development. Believe what you want"

I want to text her back saying "new development...bullshit! you guys went on a long walk by the beach...(speculation: and probably even kissed then)...according to my friend that was at the da*n Thanksgiving dinner."

So what...if you guys decided to be together TODAY that would be too soon. Give yourself some F'ing time to recuperate. my god!
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she sounds like a selfish high maintenance whore .....good riddence
 
Originally posted by: Mentat
Originally posted by: Howard

So you didn't cut her off at all. Heh, good luck.
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but did I do it, wanting to say stuff and actually doing it are two different things 😛
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When you cut contact with them you also prevent them from contacting you. Like they literally no longer exist.
 
Originally posted by: Mentat
Originally posted by: lokiju
Hold strong and keep her cut off.

You did the right thing IMO.
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thanks. the hard part now comes to keep my mind of of her (esspecially the thoughts of her with someone else, b/c I know she is kissing, hugging, being with another guy)...any suggestions????
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Go hug, kiss and be with another girl.
 
To quote one of our greatest philosphers of our current times, Jeff Foxworthy, "if she says she needs some time away, then what's she really telling you is that if she hasn't already riden the pony then she has at least cut one from the herd and has the saddle out and ready! " end quote!:shocked:

thanks. the hard part now comes to keep my mind of of her (esspecially the thoughts of her with someone else, b/c I know she is kissing, hugging, being with another guy)...any suggestions????
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Go to a strip club! that will cure you for about an hour.
 
Originally posted by: Mentat
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
While what she did is entirely wrong, she feels justified because you broke up with her and she has no moral values.
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Originally posted by: Mentat
then she breaks up with me.
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She did the breaking up. Hence the reason why I feel she left me for him. Thus the reason why I feel betrayed
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No, what I'm saying is she likely started to move and/or met this guy when you broke up with her. You're reasons for breaking up with her, while they were your own personal ones and not really about her, are irrelevant at this point.

Whenever a guy initiates a break up and then he ends up back with the girl there is ALWAYS some resentment on the girls end no matter what she says. It's a sure bet that shortly thereafter the guy will be dumped and/or cheated on (assuming the girl is mentally immature, which in this case she is).

remember, hell hath no fury.......



Originally posted by: Mentat
I left her a note before I left the night of, basically saying:

-Hope you guys have a fruitful and wonderful relationship together
-I dont appreciate being lied to, I never treated you dishonestly
-Have a good life

She Texts me back today saying "i will have you know. I left you for no one except myself. The new guy is a new development. Believe what you want"

I want to text her back saying "new development...bullshit! you guys went on a long walk by the beach...(speculation: and probably even kissed then)...according to my friend that was at the da*n Thanksgiving dinner."

So what...if you guys decided to be together TODAY that would be too soon. Give yourself some F'ing time to recuperate. my god!
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As for this new development, you just screwed yourself. You made first contact, that's a big no no in this situation. I was proud of you up until this point. Now you've got her on the defensive, and you'll get neither what you want OR the truth from her.

I know you have that need to feel vindicated in all of this and have her come back groveling telling you how sorry she is, that she didn't mean it, or to tell you the entire truth, but that RARELY happens. It definetly doesn't happen when you leave notes like that, that just gives her more fodder for her screwed up brain to rationalize that what she did was right. In her shoes she's got the ex boyfriend (you) accusing and being the wounded puppy vs. the new guy she's having fun with and getting doted on by.......who do you think she's gonna pick.

If you wanna salvage anything at all (I'd focus on saving your manhood and not the relationship, but that's up to you), then you HAVE to cut all communication. When, and if, you ever feel strong enough to respond to her in a mature manner then do so. If she cannot respond in kind then she's not meant to be in your life.
 
Wow...I remember when I was 18...I was all emotional and stupid, just like the OP.

It is indeed a rough time, OP...a rough time. There's no advice, no cliff notes, no speeding up the DVD to get to the end. You must go through this on normal 1x speed and later, once you pull your testicles down from your abdomen back to their original postion, you'll be a smarter, more bitter, more cautious man for your troubles.

You think you've got troubles now? Wait until you're in your late 20's (if you are still single) and all the women you meet are divorced, have ex husbands that still "just hang out at the house once or twice a week" and they have KIDS. :Q Oh, enjoy this easy time while you can.
 
Her reply tells me that she's a stone-cold liar and will never admit she was playing you. As long as she doesn't admit it, she can convince herself that she wasn't doing anything wrong.

This is the type of person it's best to stay far away from.
 
Originally posted by: stockjock
To quote one of our greatest philosphers of our current times, Jeff Foxworthy, "if she says she needs some time away, then what's she really telling you is that if she hasn't already riden the pony then she has at least cut one from the herd and has the saddle out and ready! " end quote!:shocked:
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Ha! funny and knowledgeable. nice quote.
 
Originally posted by: MisterJackson
If you wanna salvage anything at all (I'd focus on saving your manhood and not the relationship, but that's up to you), then you HAVE to cut all communication. When, and if, you ever feel strong enough to respond to her in a mature manner then do so. If she cannot respond in kind then she's not meant to be in your life.
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QFT. Listen to this man
 
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