I have been seeing this girl on and off for the last 5 months. It has NOT gone well because of her ex-bf who she keeps going back to. The last time we were seeing each other her bf showed up to where we were, we were going to fight but security broke it up and threw him out, we had to be escorted to our cars, he followed us so i drove like an IDIOT on Hollywood Blvd and almost hit a cop car purposely to get his attention and get him to follow us then had to do it again, parked in themiddle of the street got out of my car and ran towards the cops told them what happened and they went after the ex. He is CRAZY. She is not without her problems and is not actually seeing help and is on meds for the next 3 months.
They broke up a 6 weeks ago and her and i started talking again 3 weeks ago, i has been going great and even though we were not trying to date and technically aren't, it sort of is, and i have been practically living at her place for the last 2 weeks.
Now her EX is trying to come around again, and i know he was over her place 5 days ago cuz she told me.
I wanted to go to the movies tonight but she said she was having dinner with a friends.
here comes the stupid and embarassing part, 30 mins ago almost 3am i decided to go out for food and i got this stupid idea to go by her place, i did and as i passed by (you can see into the parking garage on the 1st floor) i thought i saw a car parked behind hers in her spot, where i normally park. I park and walk over and yup her ex's car is parked there and i know he is spending the night because she worked today and needs to get up at 5am (she is a nurse)
we are not technically together but were working towards it, also it isn't so much the fact that his car was actually there but that i did somethign as stupid as actually go by and check. i mean how crazy is that, that is on the level of checking someone's emails or going through their phone.
i am hurt and mad at myself, and the situation.
Pic Of Us
-Update
I ended up writing her last night before I went to bed and told her i came by etc. this is the response i just received
"That is how we are different, I would not drive by your house. I never drove by Dirk's even while we were together. This behavior scares me. I don't know what to say. "
she is referring to the the fact that i said she claims we are almost exactly alike and how she continues to check her ex-bf's email accounts and myspace messages to read messages form other girls. she totally went ont he defensive, didn't explain anything, and didn't apologize for anything
-Update - 1-9-07
I got a txt message this morning from her saying "friends fvck up and friends forgive crazy acts.... so friends?"
=\ and after i txt back "yeah" she txts "so what are you getting me for my birthday
"
WTF man.
-Update - 1-11-07
I have not been on anand for over a day before..... Wednesday morning 1:35 I get a phone call from Karen, i pick up and no response. hung up and tried to call her but she called me at the same time so my phone locked. then i get a txt saying "HELP!!!!!!!!" so i call again and this time it goes through and i hear a struggle between her and her ex of course and the phoen goes dead. I get dressed and rush to her house calling the whole way and txting with no answer. I get there and there are 4 cop cars so i run to the door and i see they are talking to her ex. Police right away ask what i am doing etc and i tell them and they get all my info and next thing i know there is an ambulance there for the ex-bf. 4 cop cars turn into 7, 14 cops, and no one knows if she is ok cuz they have not even entered the building yet! they tell me to stand off by the bus stop and they will let me know when they find something out. 15 mins go by and they come to ask me how to get in the building! where the entrances are, etc etc. They finally get in and another 15 mins later come to tell me she is ok. I stand out in the 47° weather for a total of an hour before one of the cops comes and tells me i can wait int he lobby of the buiilding. The ambulance took away the ex who was holding up his shirt and very slyly flipped me off as he left. After waiting int he lobby another hour they finally let me go up to see her after taking pics etc. She was crying, her apt was a mess, blood everywhere. Turns out he came over drunk, wouldn't leave, started verablly harassing her, when she tried to leave her wouldn't let her, slammed her against the wall, threw her down on the marble floor of her kitchen twice (she has 3 huge bumps on her head), when she tried calling for help she was only able to get the last person she txt (me) before he took the battery out of the phone and hid the phone. She ended up grabbing a knife and threatning for him to leave and he walked into it and stabbed himself. We don't think it was bad but cops said it was 3", not sure if 3" deep or just 3" long. he ended up stomping on her laptop when she tried to use it to get help so that's broken, broke her phone, broke her new 2gb nano, and after being stabbed started throwing food and dishes all over. I helped clean up, stayed the night, and took her to the courst house after 4 hours of sleep for her to get her retraining order (cops gave her a 5 day one). Last we know of him was he was supposed to go to jail after the hospital. His car is still parked outside her building (with a parking ticket) and it has been about 30.5 hours since he was taken away. I spent last night too cuz his car was still there, i left this morning when she had to leave for work.
fun times =\
They broke up a 6 weeks ago and her and i started talking again 3 weeks ago, i has been going great and even though we were not trying to date and technically aren't, it sort of is, and i have been practically living at her place for the last 2 weeks.
Now her EX is trying to come around again, and i know he was over her place 5 days ago cuz she told me.
I wanted to go to the movies tonight but she said she was having dinner with a friends.
here comes the stupid and embarassing part, 30 mins ago almost 3am i decided to go out for food and i got this stupid idea to go by her place, i did and as i passed by (you can see into the parking garage on the 1st floor) i thought i saw a car parked behind hers in her spot, where i normally park. I park and walk over and yup her ex's car is parked there and i know he is spending the night because she worked today and needs to get up at 5am (she is a nurse)
we are not technically together but were working towards it, also it isn't so much the fact that his car was actually there but that i did somethign as stupid as actually go by and check. i mean how crazy is that, that is on the level of checking someone's emails or going through their phone.
i am hurt and mad at myself, and the situation.
Pic Of Us
-Update
I ended up writing her last night before I went to bed and told her i came by etc. this is the response i just received
"That is how we are different, I would not drive by your house. I never drove by Dirk's even while we were together. This behavior scares me. I don't know what to say. "
she is referring to the the fact that i said she claims we are almost exactly alike and how she continues to check her ex-bf's email accounts and myspace messages to read messages form other girls. she totally went ont he defensive, didn't explain anything, and didn't apologize for anything
-Update - 1-9-07
I got a txt message this morning from her saying "friends fvck up and friends forgive crazy acts.... so friends?"
=\ and after i txt back "yeah" she txts "so what are you getting me for my birthday
" WTF man.
-Update - 1-11-07
I have not been on anand for over a day before..... Wednesday morning 1:35 I get a phone call from Karen, i pick up and no response. hung up and tried to call her but she called me at the same time so my phone locked. then i get a txt saying "HELP!!!!!!!!" so i call again and this time it goes through and i hear a struggle between her and her ex of course and the phoen goes dead. I get dressed and rush to her house calling the whole way and txting with no answer. I get there and there are 4 cop cars so i run to the door and i see they are talking to her ex. Police right away ask what i am doing etc and i tell them and they get all my info and next thing i know there is an ambulance there for the ex-bf. 4 cop cars turn into 7, 14 cops, and no one knows if she is ok cuz they have not even entered the building yet! they tell me to stand off by the bus stop and they will let me know when they find something out. 15 mins go by and they come to ask me how to get in the building! where the entrances are, etc etc. They finally get in and another 15 mins later come to tell me she is ok. I stand out in the 47° weather for a total of an hour before one of the cops comes and tells me i can wait int he lobby of the buiilding. The ambulance took away the ex who was holding up his shirt and very slyly flipped me off as he left. After waiting int he lobby another hour they finally let me go up to see her after taking pics etc. She was crying, her apt was a mess, blood everywhere. Turns out he came over drunk, wouldn't leave, started verablly harassing her, when she tried to leave her wouldn't let her, slammed her against the wall, threw her down on the marble floor of her kitchen twice (she has 3 huge bumps on her head), when she tried calling for help she was only able to get the last person she txt (me) before he took the battery out of the phone and hid the phone. She ended up grabbing a knife and threatning for him to leave and he walked into it and stabbed himself. We don't think it was bad but cops said it was 3", not sure if 3" deep or just 3" long. he ended up stomping on her laptop when she tried to use it to get help so that's broken, broke her phone, broke her new 2gb nano, and after being stabbed started throwing food and dishes all over. I helped clean up, stayed the night, and took her to the courst house after 4 hours of sleep for her to get her retraining order (cops gave her a 5 day one). Last we know of him was he was supposed to go to jail after the hospital. His car is still parked outside her building (with a parking ticket) and it has been about 30.5 hours since he was taken away. I spent last night too cuz his car was still there, i left this morning when she had to leave for work.
fun times =\
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