YAGT: How to make that "move" and what exactly is that "move?"

[pyonir]

you make skywalker look like a man-whore.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: purbeast0
lol if you have been with a girl for 7 years and don't know how to 'make a move' , then i really feel sorry for you bro .

I'm talking about the first move... The one I made 7 years ago, not the post hook up moves..

 

[gUEv]

Originally posted by: MacBaine
Make a crappy movie about it

ahahahhahahahahahhaa...so wrong....but...still

ok now to offset that negative karma, some light advice.... touch her! not in a sick way, just get physical contact going before it is too late (it already might be). Hug her, put your hand on the small of her back when crossing the street/going through a crowded place etc. Hold her hand!

all of these things need to seem nonchalant and natural though. gauge her response, if it seems positive...

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: gUEv

Originally posted by: MacBaine
Make a crappy movie about it

ahahahhahahahahahhaa...so wrong....but...still

ok now to offset that negative karma, some light advice.... touch her! not in a sick way, just get physical contact going before it is too late (it already might be). Hug her, put your hand on the small of her back when crossing the street/going through a crowded place etc. Hold her hand!

all of these things need to seem nonchalant and natural though. gauge her response, if it seems positive...

good advice man.. we did hug last night and our hands met at a few points as well.. I just gotta be a tiny bit more aggressive... she's cute too!

 

[PingSpike]

Drop your pants and do the hot dog dance.

 

[PingSpike]

Believe it or not, I've had good luck with simply asking "Would it be alright if I kissed you?" Some people say it isn't aggressive enough and doesn't show confidence or some crap...but if you aren't acting like a weiner beforehand she will probably just take it as being gentlemanly.

If she says no, push her out of the car and scream "Slut! Ho-Bag! Go screw a dog!" and peel out of her driveway.

 

[jayoung]

Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
its not about the action, its about the moment. best thing you can do is put yourself in a situation that lends itself to "closeness". i think watching a movie at home may be the best idea. you just gotta check the little things. like, how close she sits to you and her body language. it really should come naturally, if not, then you are A) trying too hard B) on the friends ladder

I agree with HardcoreRobot. You have to see how she reacts to your flirting and active pursuit. If she encourages it, you can try to make a move, otherwise, you may have to wait a bit longer to figure it out.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: jayoung

Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot
its not about the action, its about the moment. best thing you can do is put yourself in a situation that lends itself to "closeness". i think watching a movie at home may be the best idea. you just gotta check the little things. like, how close she sits to you and her body language. it really should come naturally, if not, then you are A) trying too hard B) on the friends ladder

I agree with HardcoreRobot. You have to see how she reacts to your flirting and active pursuit. If she encourages it, you can try to make a move, otherwise, you may have to wait a bit longer to figure it out.

I'll try on friday - wish my luck guys! I know I sound like a social retard.. I'm not - I have a lot of freidns both male and female.. But the fact that i was in a relationship so long kinda made me rusty.

 

[cyclistca]

I was in the same situation recently. I met a girl while on vacation in July. We live in the same neighborhood so decide to hook up for diner. At this point we were in friends mod but I was doing the classic things like open doors, wait for her to sit down ex. Anyway things went very well but no clear sign that it was going to go past the friends stage.

We then went out again and things went great. Still no big signs. It was certainly getting to the point were I was going to ask her what the situation was. Anyhoo when I walked her back to her place she invited me up. Not soon after we entered her place she grabbed me and gave me the most amazing kiss. Well that certainly cleared things right up. We've been going out ever since.

Good luck dude

 

[pulse8]

When in doubt, whip it out!

 

[gotsmack]

here is what you do

http://forums.anandtech.com/messageview.cfm?catid=38&threadid=1345156

"Janet... (short pause cause my mind blanked).. Umm, i'm gonna try something now, but if you don't like it, let me know." ~ you

"Uh ok..." ~ Her

"Stick out your left hand." ~ you

thne you move on to mopre advanced stuff

Originally posted by: Yossarian
you're a smooth one!

cut to 2 months from now... both in bed naked.

"Janet... (short pause cause my mind blanked).. Umm, i'm gonna try something now, but if you don't like it, let me know." ~ you

"Uh ok..." ~ Her

"Stick out your butt." ~ you

 

[lightpants]

The answer my friend is sweet, sweet booze. Just drink until it happens. If she pushes you away, then you have the "man, I was so drunk last night I don't even remember what happened" excuse.

 

[NFS4]

WTF???? I thought this was gonna be a thread about Seinfeld and Puddy

 

[Bryophyte]

Don't be corny and ask if you can hold her hand or kiss her. Just start out by touching her in innocent ways. Touch her upper arm or shoulder casually as you're walking along or talking or going through a doorway. Let your forearms touch as you sit together at the theater. Stand close enough for your body to brush hers occasionally. She'll either reciprocate and things will escalate to hand holding, or she'll distance herself and you'll know she's not interested.

 

[jjones]

Just act like being intimate with her is already a foregone conclusion; then during your date, your relaxed manner and body language will take care of everything.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

Originally posted by: lightpants
The answer my friend is sweet, sweet booze. Just drink until it happens. If she pushes you away, then you have the "man, I was so drunk last night I don't even remember what happened" excuse.

Or, she has the, im really sorry, i was drunk, i dont really feel that way about you excuse the next day

 

[Kibbo]

Originally posted by: jjones
Just act like being intimate with her is already a foregone conclusion; then during your date, your relaxed manner and body language will take care of everything.

Listen to the lady. If you can't pull off the natural thing, here's how to fake it:

Remember, if you're gonna end up in the Friend closet, she's already made that decision.
When you see her, make sure you often "end up' inside the personal space llne. But make sure that you're not always in there, don't want to seem needy. When standing next to her, at the bar getting drinks, or after you've held the door, casually place your hand on the small of her back. Do little things like that, just try to casually make contact with her throughout the night, touch her leg when you laugh at her jokes, etc. Don't try for sustained contact, like hand holding or arm over the shoulder at first, try to get comfortable just breaking that barrier. If she likes you, she'll dig it, if not you are creepy. But if she doesn't like you, who cares?

By the end of the night, with the barrier broken, and a couple drinks in your systems, the kiss will seem natural.

 

[gotsmack]

Originally posted by: HardcoreRobot

Originally posted by: lightpants
The answer my friend is sweet, sweet booze. Just drink until it happens. If she pushes you away, then you have the "man, I was so drunk last night I don't even remember what happened" excuse.

Or, she has the, im really sorry, i was drunk, i dont really feel that way about you excuse the next day

haha, that never happens.

 

[spidey07]

jeez,

do some physical touching, look her in the eye, etc. and at the evening kiss the woman.

 

[imported_Papi]

This guy I used to stalk once gave me a condom with his phone number on it. that seemed to work. good luck!

 

[slackerinabox]

OK guys,
She's waiting to see if she has work (she gets called in to work and does not have a set schedule) but said she'd love to go and will tell me for sure tonight... I'm not sure if that's a good sign or a dodge... Who knows? Women! Just kidding, I adore them and their dodges make life more interesting, right?

Anyway, thanks for all the suggestions...I'll post an update if anyone cares, I'm a bit nervous but, you know what, I took that first step... If she doesn't dig me then someone else will, right?

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
OK guys,
She's waiting to see if she has work (she gets called in to work and does not have a set schedule) but said she'd love to go and will tell me for sure tonight... I'm not sure if that's a good sign or a dodge... Who knows? Women! Just kidding, I adore them and their dodges make life more interesting, right?

Anyway, thanks for all the suggestions...I'll post an update if anyone cares, I'm a bit nervous but, you know what, I took that first step... If she doesn't dig me then someone else will, right?

heh, yeah...you'd better make that move otherwise she's assuming you're not interested and is checking out other options.

time waits for no one.