YAGT: How to get some space?

[Stunt]

So I've met this girl; she's home for the summer (last year of university), so we've been having some good old casual fun. She knows I'm not looking for a "girlfriend" as I'm still young, and don't like to be confined by a formal relationship. If I fool around with someone else, I just have to let her know and she's fine with that...it's a pretty good deal.

She's a pretty horny girl and likes spending time with me...a little too much time. I mean she messages or calls me daily and wants to know what I'm doing every day of the week. I've already said I'd be meeting other people and she's cool with that; but she's starting to get overly clingy. Is there a way I can tell her to back off a bit without saying I don't enjoy time with her?

For those of you who think I'm an ass...this is a casual/open relationship and it's mutual.

 

[apac]

Tell her you like dudes.

 

[KLin]

Tell her to back off.

/thread

 

[2Xtreme21]

Start spewing some Republican talking points like you do in P&N.

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: 2Xtreme21
Start spewing some Republican talking points like you do in P&N.

She's a conservative as well...

(Canadian Conservative...not the Republican garbage)

 

[Leeroy]

I broke up with her.

 

[AnthraX101]

Originally posted by: Stunt
[...]and it's mutual.

No it's not.

AnthraX101

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: AnthraX101

Originally posted by: Stunt
[...]and it's mutual.

No it's not.

AnthraX101

How do you figure?

 

[MX2]

Yeah, that wouldnt make any sense to just be upfront with her about it. Better to beat around the bush and play games.

 

[AnthraX101]

Originally posted by: Stunt
[...]

How do you figure?

I mean she messages or calls me daily and wants to know what I'm doing every day of the week. I've already said I'd be meeting other people and she's cool with that; but she's starting to get overly clingy.

AnthraX101

 

[Cdubneeddeal]

Don't beat around the bush, plain and simple. Be straight up and honest with her. She'll appreciate your honesty.

Tell her to please tone the phone calls and messages some. Tell her it's scaring you some. Also tell her that you're happy with how the relationship has been going and would like to keep it that way. Ask her if she wants more than that. If so, then most likely the both of you need to move on. Communication is key in any type of relationship. If you don't let her know how you're feeling and if you don't ask her how's she's feeling then you're doing harm to the both of you.

Good luck.

In addition, try to put yourself in her shoes. If she were you, wouldn't you want her to be straight up with you? Don't ignore her phone calls/messages. Nothing worse than being left in the dark. You two are having a somewhat adult relationship, act like one. No offense.

 

[datalink7]

Put on your Robe and Wizards Hat.

 

[JS80]

ignore messages/phone calls

 

[DrPizza]

uhhh, pic of casual gf?

 

[Alienwho]

if you really want to seal the deal, start acting clingly and obsessed with her. That'll scare her away in no time.

 

[SlitheryDee]

Originally posted by: Alienwho
if you really want to seal the deal, start acting clingly and obsessed with her. That'll scare her away in no time.

Or explosively backfire... :Q

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: DrPizza
uhhh, pic of casual gf?

I dunno if that's fair to her...

She's best described as auburn hair, looks like lindsay lohan before she went anorexic.

 

[Stunt]

Originally posted by: SlitheryDee

Originally posted by: Alienwho
if you really want to seal the deal, start acting clingly and obsessed with her. That'll scare her away in no time.

Or explosively backfire... :Q

I'm pretty sure it will backfire...