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Lonyo

Lifer
Aug 10, 2002
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I've been going out with this girl for >1yr, sorry, no pics.
Basically, there's nothing really there now, and we are two totally different people, so I want to end it, but we're in our last year of school, with our final exams coming up middle of June, so I don't want to upset her/cause problems with her exams. (I' m her first serious boyfriend, I'm 18, she's 17)

There's 2 weeks of school before we break up, then we're off school, so we wouldn't see each other, and then after exams and stuff, it's the summer holidays, with university next year.

Basically I have 3 choices:
Do it sooner rather than later and have an awkward last couple of weeks because we have classes together/similar friends. Might be most upsetting
Do it after we break up from school, then we won't have to see each other, she'll have a break from me, but still may affect exams.
Wait until exams are over and have a clean break for summer, might be best, but it's not fair to just leave it for that long (6 or 7 weeks)

Or there may be other options I haven't thought of. What's probably going to be the easiest on both of us? I need suggestions :(
 
DaTT

DaTT

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Tell her you want "different" sex.......she may dump you....OR.....keep her.
 
DaTT

DaTT

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Originally posted by: isekii
tell her you prefer to swing the other way
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Look, you never tell the truth when your breaking up.
 
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otispunkmeyer

Lifer
Jun 14, 2003
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i thought i wanted to do this with my girl....felt like it was going no where, didnt wanna be tied down, but a few weeks later here i am still with her, and so far its good. shes changed abit for me, i havent got lots of time or money to be travelling to hull uni all the time to see her and i got well hard mechanical engineering exams soon. i told her not to be on my back and for her not to hassle me about seeing her, and too let me just get on with what i need to do for uni first.

so maybe you could try this, i mean if u still feel like you like her (if not now you may in a few weeks) maybe sit down with her, ask her/ tell her what things she wants/ you want changing.

but if you dont want that....the the third option sounds best. if shes still really into you, id imagine she'll be upset for a while, and seeing you in class will hurt her, knowing that your not hers anymore, and you dont wanna screw up her exam preperation, its not really fair.

3rd option mate
 
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Czar

Lifer
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Originally posted by: otispunkmeyer
i thought i wanted to do this with my girl....felt like it was going no where, didnt wanna be tied down, but a few weeks later here i am still with her, and so far its good. shes changed abit for me, i havent got lots of time or money to be travelling to hull uni all the time to see her and i got well hard mechanical engineering exams soon. i told her not to be on my back and for her not to hassle me about seeing her, and too let me just get on with what i need to do for uni first.

so maybe you could try this, i mean if u still feel like you like her (if not now you may in a few weeks) maybe sit down with her, ask her/ tell her what things she wants/ you want changing.

but if you dont want that....the the third option sounds best. if shes still really into you, id imagine she'll be upset for a while, and seeing you in class will hurt her, knowing that your not hers anymore, and you dont wanna screw up her exam preperation, its not really fair.

3rd option mate
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Injury

Lifer
Jul 19, 2004
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Here's a hint: Don't let your school life govern your love life. The only time they should both be considered is in scheduling.

If you don't love her any more, why stay with her?
Even still, if you're breaking up with her just so you don't have to visit her when you are at college, what does it really say about you?

 
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frankgomez75

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Mar 23, 2004
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man,
just keep it real with her. Its easier. If exams are around the corner, then you could try to hold off, but it may difficult if she keeps trying to show you affection you don't respond. Trying to keep up a front for more than 2 weeks will be pretty obvious. In my experience talking about it and being honest is best. You'll both maintain repect for one another.
 
Fenixgoon

Fenixgoon

Lifer
Jun 30, 2003
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if you haveexams in 2+ weeks, do it now. if they are this coming week, wait until after. most importantly, though, is break up with her. nothing worse than not being interested and still dating!
 
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Adica

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Dec 11, 2004
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If the relationship is not so good as you say, chances are, she is feeling the same way.
Us girls have an instinct about these things too, so I'm sure if you do it now, it won't be much of a surprise.

If it is a surprise to her and upsets her terribly, she still has a few weeks to heal her emotional tragedy before exams, and in my experience that's plenty of time.

So most definetely break it off as soon as possible, but try to do it in a really nice way. Maybe you two can still be friends.(It is possible to stay friends)

BTW good luck!
 
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element

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just don't spend as much time with her and if she asks what's up tell her you're studying for finals, which is what you're supposed to be doing anyway numbnuts!
 
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tRaptor

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I would wait till after the exams. I know its a long time, but like you said, you where her first serious boyfriend, and this could really crush her.
 
sao123

sao123

Lifer
May 27, 2002
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Tell her its over unless she learns to swallow....
if she does... keep her...
if she doesnt...
have sex with her best friend and mail her the pictures on the first day of her next period.
 
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nageov3t

Lifer
Feb 18, 2004
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Three important rules for breaking up
Don't put off breaking up when you know you want to
Prolonging the situation only makes it worse
Tell him honestly, simply, kindly, but firmly
Don't make a big production
Don't make up an elaborate story
This will help you avoid a big tear jerking scene
If you wanna date other people say so
Be prepared for the boy to feel hurt and rejected
Even if you've gone together for only a short time,
And haven't been too serious,
There's still a feeling of rejection
When someone says she preferres the company of others
To your exclusive company,
But if you're honest, and direct,
And avoid making a flowery emotional speech when you brake the news,
The boy will respect you for your frankness,
And honestly he'll apeciate the kind of straight foward manner
In which you told him your decision
Unless he's a real jerk or a cry baby you will remain friends
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RedCOMET

RedCOMET

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Jul 8, 2002
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Good luck, but don't be suprised if she starts dating one of your friends after the breakup. It might happen.....


edit: spelling mistakes
 
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KarenMarie

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Sep 20, 2003
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you say it would be awkward if you broke up with her now... awkward for whom? is it really that you care so much for her that you dont want to hurt her and screw up her exams? or is it that you just dont want to have to face her ... and feel guilty?

if it is the former.. it seems you care for her more than you think...
if it is the latter... well... i wont say anymore.

:)
 
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