At the risk of sounding just like everyone else, go with #1. I'm not saying you can't date a girl with a daughter, even one that takes a little more work, but you sound like you are planning on avoiding that aspect of the relationship. And trust me on this, no matter what the girl says, you won't be able to. If you are ok with that, fine, but it doesn't sound like you are, so you'll be going in there with goofy expectations, and that never turns out well.