YAGT: How do I break things off with a girl I work with?

[JDMnAR1]

Tell her about the married woman - see if she is up for a 3-way. It's a win/win situation.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89
yea im a horrible guy i know. blah blah blah, i'll get what i deserve, blah blah blah.

sorry but i never thought i would kiss a married woman. stuff happens. i do regret it

youre not horrible. you just need to get straight before you blow off what may be a good thing, or ruin a marriage because someone elses wife is looking to stray for whatever reason.

I know it cant be a good thing. "its" just not there. so im not worried about blowing off a good thing b/c to me its not good right now. As for the married girl, i have no intention of getting her to leave her husband. We were just really close and since she got married she wasnt allowed to see me.

sounds like for good reasons.

just be honest with the girl at work.

now the male comes out in me.........but shes reaaaaaaaaaallllllly hot. lol

life can be tough like that, i know.:evil:

did you ever date this woman?

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89
yea im a horrible guy i know. blah blah blah, i'll get what i deserve, blah blah blah.

sorry but i never thought i would kiss a married woman. stuff happens. i do regret it

youre not horrible. you just need to get straight before you blow off what may be a good thing, or ruin a marriage because someone elses wife is looking to stray for whatever reason.

I know it cant be a good thing. "its" just not there. so im not worried about blowing off a good thing b/c to me its not good right now. As for the married girl, i have no intention of getting her to leave her husband. We were just really close and since she got married she wasnt allowed to see me.

sounds like for good reasons.

just be honest with the girl at work.

now the male comes out in me.........but shes reaaaaaaaaaallllllly hot. lol

life can be tough like that, i know.:evil:

did you ever date this woman?

dated on and off, but never kissed or anything. we both chickened out. then everytime one was single the other wasnt etc. so this kiss has been brewing since 97

 

[casper114]

Post a pic of either or both

 

[ZOOYUKA]

Originally posted by: Billzie7718

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: dquan97
pic?

of the married girl or the co-worker?

Both ... geez.

 

[shimsham]

that makes it even tougher for both of you. do you personally know her husband?

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: casper114
Post a pic of either or both

i decided against all that. one b/c i didnt break up with one yet and dont need her finding out beforehand and second the married one is just stupid.

 

[tikwanleap]

Originally posted by: UDT89
we both started dating right after getting out of serious relationships. we actually broke up with our exs on the same day with out prior knowledge. We found this out at a work party two days later. Started dating a month ago, and actually went away for the weekend, labor day. We had sex for the first time down there. Now a week later i'm just done. she beautiful, smart, older...shes 30 im 25....and is very successful.

I dont know what it is, i just know this isnt "the one" and i dont think its right to waste her time at this point in the game. If she was like 20 i'd keep her around for kicks, but i respect this one too much. But how do i keep things cool? just be really honest and blame it on the rebound thing and unsettled feelings etc? needing to be single?

Help.......

*Edit*

I guess i should give a reason for how i feel....... i saw an old crush from 5 years ago. Shes married and stuff, and she asked me to dinner saturday night. And well we ended up making out in the parking lot. Soooo thats that.

What's wrong with her? She has huge....... tracts of land.

Just saw your edit.

Let me sum it up so far...

1. Date a girl in the workplace.
2. Make out with a married woman.
3. ???
4. Profit?

You are violating every rule in the book. Good job! :thumbsup:

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: shimsham
that makes it even tougher for both of you. do you personally know her husband?

he worked with us back in the day. different department.

thanks shim for taking an interest, i really needed someone to talk to that doesnt know either of them.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: shimsham
that makes it even tougher for both of you. do you personally know her husband?

he worked with us back in the day. different department.

thanks shim for taking an interest, i really needed someone to talk to that doesnt know either of them.

np. theyll be enough people in here flaming you soon.

i never condone breaking marriage vows. but, people are human. its tough when missed oppurtunities that you regret passing up come knocking again. i can almost understand her coming after you.

but in the end, she is married. if she truly loves her husband, she needs to quit being a tramp. even if shes unhappy with him, thats no excuse for her to cheat on him. she needs to be honest too.

im sure you know all this anyway. its a sucky spot to be in, but i bet you like having 2 women after you. so maybe its not all bad

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: shimsham
that makes it even tougher for both of you. do you personally know her husband?

he worked with us back in the day. different department.

thanks shim for taking an interest, i really needed someone to talk to that doesnt know either of them.

np. theyll be enough people in here flaming you soon.

i never condone breaking marriage vows. but, people are human. its tough when missed oppurtunities that you regret passing up come knocking again. i can almost understand her coming after you.

but in the end, she is married. if she truly loves her husband, she needs to quit being a tramp. even if shes unhappy with him, thats no excuse for her to cheat on him. she needs to be honest too.

im sure you know all this anyway. its a sucky spot to be in, but i bet you like having 2 women after you. so maybe its not all bad

its definitely been an experience. not to mention the ex that still calls here and there. but for some reason its easy to say no to her, though at this point i might as well give in to say its 3 girls. Go for the gold.....know what i mean?

I just want it to end so im not so stressed anymore

 

[Lithium381]

Originally posted by: HumblePie

Originally posted by: bigrash

Originally posted by: acemcmac
stick it out and marry her anway. It's the american way.

I thought the american way was to get a girl pregnant before age 16, marry her, get divorced a couple of years later and NOT pay child support?
Fixed...

Fixed again....

 

[Sex Smurf]

As Eddie Murphy on SNL put it:

wookie pa nub. . .

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: Aharami
which soap opera is this?

The Old and The Toothless, it is on CBS

 

[FoBoT]

Originally posted by: tikwanleap

What's wrong with her? She has huge....... tracts of land.

i love that quote, i can hear it in my mind

so funny :laugh:

the pause is perfect


huge.... tracts of land

:laugh:

 

[EatSpam]

Originally posted by: UDT89
I guess i should give a reason for how i feel....... i saw an old crush from 5 years ago. Shes married and stuff, and she asked me to dinner saturday night. And well we ended up making out in the parking lot. Soooo thats that.

Do you really want to play the role of the homewrecker?

 

[MrDudeMan]

i call shens on you knowing the girl at work doesnt have "it". that is a lame excuse for not wanting to be commited. no one lists that many good traits about a person and then says something retarded immediately after. just date the girl from work, quit being a dickhole and kissing married women, and then go back to work.

 

[Ranger X]

Tell her you only see her as a "booty call" and nothing more. I know many before me have said this before but I can't stress it enough. Dating someone who works in the same company is a bad idea! If something goes bad, women can get downright nasty -- for example, she can slap you with a sexual harrassment lawsuit even though you did nothing wrong.

 

[EGGO]

I can see it now...

"I cheated on you I don't have feelings for you anymore."

"That's ok, I cheated on you for the past 2 weeks."

There is a lack of a lot of things in this relationship. Something tells me OP, you shouldn't have been with this girl relationship-wise, just a one night stand.

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: Bigsm00th
i call shens on you knowing the girl at work doesnt have "it". that is a lame excuse for not wanting to be commited. no one lists that many good traits about a person and then says something retarded immediately after. just date the girl from work, quit being a dickhole and kissing married women, and then go back to work.

you're telling me you've never dated someone with a lot of good traits but just werent into her?

 

[Mellman]

so do you just not have fun when you are around her anymore? or do you just not think that you could possibly be with this person that maybe someone else may be out there somewhere for you?

if its the second, go have a drink - talk to her about what kind of relationship she wants - if she wants sex and fun, then its no harm for you to stay in the relationship.

If its the first - break it off and tell her how you feel honestly.

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: Mellman
so do you just not have fun when you are around her anymore? or do you just not think that you could possibly be with this person that maybe someone else may be out there somewhere for you?

if its the second, go have a drink - talk to her about what kind of relationship she wants - if she wants sex and fun, then its no harm for you to stay in the relationship.

If its the first - break it off and tell her how you feel honestly.

yea im just not having fun anymore. its when we hung out last i just wanted to go home. i already brought it up today, so after work we're gonna talk.

 

[Sentinel]

Shes married and stuff

Yah, very much agree with previous- break it off w/the 30yr old and quit messing with the married one. IMHO sometimes relationships with coworkers is unavoidable.

 

[thirdlegstump]

Screw that. Bang em all. It's healthy.

 

[AbsolutDealage]

Originally posted by: UDT89
We were just really close and since she got married she wasnt allowed to see me.

Smart husband. I would be very careful if I were you. Something tells me that she will confess to this, or he will find out some other way. When that happens, have fun nursing that broken nose.

I can't imagine having a situation like that with my wife, but if it did exist... you better believe that whoever that guy was would be getting a trip to the hospital.