YAGT: How do I break things off with a girl I work with?

[PingSpike]

After reading the update:

Oh man! This keeps getting better and better! Maybe you should try faking your own death.

 

[nakedfrog]

So you want to break up with this great single lady because you made out with a married chick you've been crushing on for years? Great guy, you are.

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
After reading the update:

Oh man! This keeps getting better and better! Maybe you should try faking your own death.

tell me about it. its been brewing for 2 days now. and i mean what am i thinking will happen with the married one?

 

[Rookie]

classic Weird Al tune!

 

[cherrytwist]

Originally posted by: UDT89
we both started dating right after getting out of serious relationships. we actually broke up with our exs on the same day with out prior knowledge. We found this out at a work party two days later. Started dating a month ago, and actually went away for the weekend, labor day. We had sex for the first time down there. Now a week later i'm just done. she beautiful, smart, older...shes 30 im 25....and is very successful.

I dont know what it is, i just know this isnt "the one" and i dont think its right to waste her time at this point in the game. If she was like 20 i'd keep her around for kicks, but i respect this one too much. But how do i keep things cool? just be really honest and blame it on the rebound thing and unsettled feelings etc? needing to be single?

Help.......

*Edit*

I guess i should give a reason for how i feel....... i saw an old crush from 5 years ago. Shes married and stuff, and she asked me to dinner saturday night. And well we ended up making out in the parking lot. Soooo thats that.

Wow, you sound like a quality individual who has a grasp on adult relationships.

 

[mitmot]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog
So you want to break up with this great single lady because you made out with a married chick you've been crushing on for years? Typical guy, you are.

fixed.

 

[Gibson486]

Originally posted by: UDT89
we both started dating right after getting out of serious relationships. we actually broke up with our exs on the same day with out prior knowledge. We found this out at a work party two days later. Started dating a month ago, and actually went away for the weekend, labor day. We had sex for the first time down there. Now a week later i'm just done. she beautiful, smart, older...shes 30 im 25....and is very successful.

I dont know what it is, i just know this isnt "the one" and i dont think its right to waste her time at this point in the game. If she was like 20 i'd keep her around for kicks, but i respect this one too much. But how do i keep things cool? just be really honest and blame it on the rebound thing and unsettled feelings etc? needing to be single?

Help.......

*Edit*

I guess i should give a reason for how i feel....... i saw an old crush from 5 years ago. Shes married and stuff, and she asked me to dinner saturday night. And well we ended up making out in the parking lot. Soooo thats that.

It is great to see that marriage is not really sacred anymore.

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: nakedfrog
So you want to break up with this great single lady because you made out with a married chick you've been crushing on for years? Great guy, you are.

no i just think by doing that it shows i need to be single PERIOD.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: PingSpike
After reading the update:

Oh man! This keeps getting better and better! Maybe you should try faking your own death.

tell me about it. its been brewing for 2 days now. and i mean what am i thinking will happen with the married one?

you bang her. she freaks, doesnt leave her husband. you already blew off the other chick. so youre alone and an asshole.

does the married woman have children?

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: PingSpike
After reading the update:

Oh man! This keeps getting better and better! Maybe you should try faking your own death.

tell me about it. its been brewing for 2 days now. and i mean what am i thinking will happen with the married one?

I dunno...they don't usually leave their husbands. Tell me the "and stuff" isn't a kid.

 

[UDT89]

yea im a horrible guy i know. blah blah blah, i'll get what i deserve, blah blah blah.

sorry but i never thought i would kiss a married woman. stuff happens. i do regret it

 

[UDT89]

the and stuff isnt a kid.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: arcas
Folks, this is why relationships between coworkers are a Bad Idea (tm).

Sorry, no advice to offer.

But his EDIT makes it seem like he doesn't know what he wants.

Don't date co-workers unless it is a sure thing
AND
Don't kiss a married person!!! :|

 

[Aharami]

which soap opera is this?

 

[nakedfrog]

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: nakedfrog
So you want to break up with this great single lady because you made out with a married chick you've been crushing on for years? Great guy, you are.

no i just think by doing that it shows i need to be single PERIOD.

Well, what I would suggest is not fooling around with the married gal again, and lay it all out for the other one.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: UDT89
yea im a horrible guy i know. blah blah blah, i'll get what i deserve, blah blah blah.

sorry but i never thought i would kiss a married woman. stuff happens. i do regret it

youre not horrible. you just need to get straight before you blow off what may be a good thing, or ruin a marriage because someone elses wife is looking to stray for whatever reason.

 

[habib89]

have sex with the coworker.. after you're done yell out "what was that?!" then put your clothes on and leave and never talk to her again....

honestly, you should be honest..

 

[Azraele]

Don't make out with married women. It's wrong.

As for the other, be honest. It's going to hurt her feelings, but she will appreciate your honesty, and it's better for you both in the long run.

 

[PingSpike]

Honestly, I don't look down on him much for the married girl thing. He's not married, she is. If it wasn't him it probably would have been some one else. Still...not a good idea though.

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89
yea im a horrible guy i know. blah blah blah, i'll get what i deserve, blah blah blah.

sorry but i never thought i would kiss a married woman. stuff happens. i do regret it

youre not horrible. you just need to get straight before you blow off what may be a good thing, or ruin a marriage because someone elses wife is looking to stray for whatever reason.

I know it cant be a good thing. "its" just not there. so im not worried about blowing off a good thing b/c to me its not good right now. As for the married girl, i have no intention of getting her to leave her husband. We were just really close and since she got married she wasnt allowed to see me.

 

[bigrash]

Originally posted by: Aharami
which soap opera is this?

Days of an ATOT playa'z life?

 

[Jzero]

Originally posted by: UDT89
We were just really close and since she got married she wasnt allowed to see me.

For good reason!

 

[casper114]

Originally posted by: PingSpike
Report her to HR for sexually harassing you.

 

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89
yea im a horrible guy i know. blah blah blah, i'll get what i deserve, blah blah blah.

sorry but i never thought i would kiss a married woman. stuff happens. i do regret it

youre not horrible. you just need to get straight before you blow off what may be a good thing, or ruin a marriage because someone elses wife is looking to stray for whatever reason.

I know it cant be a good thing. "its" just not there. so im not worried about blowing off a good thing b/c to me its not good right now. As for the married girl, i have no intention of getting her to leave her husband. We were just really close and since she got married she wasnt allowed to see me.

sounds like for good reasons.

just be honest with the girl at work.

 

[UDT89]

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89

Originally posted by: shimsham

Originally posted by: UDT89
yea im a horrible guy i know. blah blah blah, i'll get what i deserve, blah blah blah.

sorry but i never thought i would kiss a married woman. stuff happens. i do regret it

youre not horrible. you just need to get straight before you blow off what may be a good thing, or ruin a marriage because someone elses wife is looking to stray for whatever reason.

I know it cant be a good thing. "its" just not there. so im not worried about blowing off a good thing b/c to me its not good right now. As for the married girl, i have no intention of getting her to leave her husband. We were just really close and since she got married she wasnt allowed to see me.

sounds like for good reasons.

just be honest with the girl at work.

now the male comes out in me.........but shes reaaaaaaaaaallllllly hot. lol