I guess a lot depends on the circumstances...if your breakup was a big nasty fight, why would you want to go back, you know?
That said, I might give it another shot with my last girlfriend, if she ever wanted to try again. Our breakup was not a bad one by any stretch of the imagination; in fact we are still friends. But we have gone and are still going through some really rough times in the last few months (depression on my part earlier this year, which I think scared her; She graduated this summer and is now looking for both a job and a way to stay up here in St. Louis so that she doesn't have to go down to Atlanta and live with her parents). When things ease up a little, who knows? But I'm not going to get my hopes up. In the mean time though, I'm off in search of other fish. Speaking of which, one of the guys here at work beat me to the punch on one girl I wanted to ask out, so it's back to the drawing board
Nate
That said, I might give it another shot with my last girlfriend, if she ever wanted to try again. Our breakup was not a bad one by any stretch of the imagination; in fact we are still friends. But we have gone and are still going through some really rough times in the last few months (depression on my part earlier this year, which I think scared her; She graduated this summer and is now looking for both a job and a way to stay up here in St. Louis so that she doesn't have to go down to Atlanta and live with her parents). When things ease up a little, who knows? But I'm not going to get my hopes up. In the mean time though, I'm off in search of other fish. Speaking of which, one of the guys here at work beat me to the punch on one girl I wanted to ask out, so it's back to the drawing board
Nate
Originally posted by: Kwan1
Thats like 15 no's in a row, no one had a good experience or everyone here is pessimistic and bitter
You just now figured that out?
Nate
yeah, that's called rationalization. Its her way of saying "i'm boinking somebody else but don't want to tell you so I'll just call it "I'm confused" and hope you don't call anymore."
nice to hear a good comment once in a while, even its its just me giving myself false assurance.
I was nasty cause i was caught off guard, but the reason wasn't really that bad in my book.
I was nasty cause i was caught off guard, but the reason wasn't really that bad in my book.
thats possible. Thats why she should not expect us to be where we used to be.
It would be more what we could be, not we used to be i guess.
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Originally posted by: Kwan1
Thats like 15 no's in a row, no one had a good experience or everyone here is pessimistic and bitter
I'm not pessimistic (well, maybe I am pessimistic) but I'm not bitter. I still talk to my ex every now and then. We ended our relationship on a good note. We just weren't compatible with each other. We just grew to like/want different things in life. No problem with that. If nothing else our relationship made us more aware of what we wanted in a relationship. This was a good thing.
In that case, getting back together might be tougher than you think. Women have excellent memories, but they can also be selective about what they remember.
That last relationship (really, the only quote-unquote "real" one I've been in - lasted a year and a half) taught me quite a bit, including the fact that I had to approach the relationship, and everything concerning it, with a level head - mostly because she tended not to, a lot of times. There was a legit reason for that though, so I took it in stride, and things got better as time went on and she realized that this stereotypical "guy" that she had built up in her brain really isn't the way that all guys act.
Nate
I got back together with my ex. It was a pretty amicable break-up caused by long-distance relationship. When we started back up again, we lived closer than previous but was still long distance. The courtship the second time was more serious and shorter - courted for 4 months and engaged for 3 months.
We are approaching our one year anniversary and have never been happier. But from the above posts, it doesn't sound as if we are in the majority.
We are approaching our one year anniversary and have never been happier. But from the above posts, it doesn't sound as if we are in the majority.
each situation is different. why do you want to get back together with her if you already broke up before? what's different this time around??
I got back with an ex once. I was drunk when I called her. I just wanted to get laid. She came over and I got what I wanted. We stayed together for another 3 months until I got bored with sex and then I broke up with her for the same reasons I did before.
Just curious - how long were you apart? This sounds almost identical to my situation, except that it looks now like she *might* not have to move. Not sre about that though.
Nate
Well here are more details in cliffnotes, it would take pages to type it all out.
1. dated for 9 months.
2. She doesn't have a car, so i drove her to and from work for 9 months, 5 days a week.
3. we saw each other everyday for 9 months, only time apart was when we worked.
4. from the sentence above, it took a toll on our relationship, and confusion kicked in since SHE doesn't know if thats what she wants. We been seperated for almost 2months.
5. during the two months time, she dated other people and realized that she made a mistake and realize what she wants.
6. during those two months, i wasn't very happy, but i did go out on a few dates.
7. there are things that happened that i ommited and don't feel necessary to post them
1. dated for 9 months.
2. She doesn't have a car, so i drove her to and from work for 9 months, 5 days a week.
3. we saw each other everyday for 9 months, only time apart was when we worked.
4. from the sentence above, it took a toll on our relationship, and confusion kicked in since SHE doesn't know if thats what she wants. We been seperated for almost 2months.
5. during the two months time, she dated other people and realized that she made a mistake and realize what she wants.
6. during those two months, i wasn't very happy, but i did go out on a few dates.
7. there are things that happened that i ommited and don't feel necessary to post them
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