YAGT: Finished

[jjzelinski]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: jjzelinski
One bit of advice I'd like to offer is not announce yourself as Mr Gamingphreek upon arrival.

Lol, she knows that i know a lot about technology, but in know way do i look like a nerd or anything guys lol (Just in case you had a picture of some little pale kid walking up to someone really nice or something. I have no problem talking or anything, its just im not good at this deep, feelings sorta thing).

But it may be amusing to tell her this quote and see what she says.

If she takes you as you are you can't ask for anything more in woman.


Aside from not being fugly.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Well, i will go in tomorrow, gotta get my schedule anyways.

First off, i would like to say thanks for any adivce given. Anymore from experience or simply anymore advice PLEASE give.

Second, i think now would be good time to tell how i managed this thing last time.
Well, i left about 10 mins earlier for somewhere i had to be and stopped by. By chance, she was the only person supervising so she could stand and talk until someone needed something. So we sat there and talked, and then i brought up prom and asked if my other friend had asked yet. She said no, and she wouldn't go with him, and then said that she didn't want to go. Well, i started walking away, stopped turned around and said (somewhat meekly) "Ill go with you". She said, "I dont really want to go anymore", and then i said, "its your senior year, ill go with you". She said "Do you want to" "Sure!" "Alright then " Well i began to go make it appear that i had another purpose for driving in there, she said went into the rest of the particulars ("You do know when it is right" .... "Ummm no, but i know you do ")
And there you have it. It wasn't pretty, but it was pretty slick. I dont think she knows, nor have i told her yet what i really came in there for. I wish things could go that well again.
Whats more, her brother, whom i have the greatest respect for, took me aside the next day at work when we were going to a forlift, and said "Just to let you know, if you guys are going out I give you my approval". He had never done that to her other dates. I told him that it meant a lot. He then said that she was in, and if i were going to ask her out, peel off real quick find something to do and ask her out. He also told me that she had come back because she sort of wanted me to ask, but was sort of dismayed when i didn't (I didn't because she had some friends with her and didn't think the time were appropriate). So i went did all that, we went out and then the thing caved in. I called apologized for anything i might have done, and she said that i am "really sweet for doing that" and all. Now we are back at this endless flirting torture again.
Kinda wierd since she isn't childish that this would be happnening and all. I guess my stupidity and humor affect all

Once again guys, thanks for all the advice and help...it really helps to just speel this all out.

-Kevin

 

[Gamingphreek]

Well today i went up to work to get my schedule, and for some reason unbeknownst to me at the time, she was there. So i took my time making copies, but she never walked by. SO, i was like ill just catch her some other day. I walk out, and talk to one of my friends for like 10mins, and begin to get in my car. AS I GET IN MY CAR, she walks out. Doh!

So im thinking for a second, and i see that she is yelling at someone on her cell-phone. Immediately, i say to myself: "Nope not a good time". As i pulled away it hit me that she wasn't getting along to well with a particular manager (this manager in question i dont particularly like either).

Im tellin' ya that didn't work out like planned...at least i doesn't directly affect me. I guess ill just call her and ask (Even though i kinda know) how the talk went with one of our managers.

-Kevin

 

[xirtam]

Sounds to me like you're expecting her to be blunt about where she sees your relationship going when you're not ready to be blunt about it yourself.

 

[shimsham]

youre making it way too complicated. just ask her. if she accepts, then pay for the date. its really simple.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well, if we each pay half for a movie or dinner or something, we might as well buy our own stuff. Not sure why i feel ackward if i dont pay, but i dont want to screw this up........err again (Long story, but my ony other YAGT should explain it )

I know you guys are messing around with the sex comment, but just to make it clear right now....No. Laugh all you want but im a christian. Not to mention i have way too much respect about this girl to even think about it...yeah, once again, its probably only me that has too much respect lol; but hey what can ya do?

-Kevin

Good for you! :thumbsup:

Don't think about it too much and go 50/50. But if you want to pay for her, do that. As long as you aren't worried about it, she won't either (at least if she is old/mature enough to not read into every minor detail).

 

[Gamingphreek]

Well i didn't think walking up to her when she is yelling at someone on the cell phone was the best time

Sounds to me like you're expecting her to be blunt about where she sees your relationship going when you're not ready to be blunt about it yourself.

Errr...good point

-Kevin

 

[xirtam]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well i didn't think walking up to her when she is yelling at someone on the cell phone was the best time

Sounds to me like you're expecting her to be blunt about where she sees your relationship going when you're not ready to be blunt about it yourself.

Errr...good point

-Kevin

I can spot it because I've been there myself.

As far as the other issue... the best way to deal with the paying issue is to not make it an issue. The girl needs to know that you've planned everything out and that you're willing to pay for the event in its entirety. She also needs to know that you'll respect her wishes to pay her own way if she's uncomfortable with the idea of you paying for everything. So just assume that you're going to pay, and if it works out that way, fine, and if she pays for part of it, hey, no big deal.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Well i text messaged her because i think she was going to class simply saying: " I guess it didn't go well with the manager"

-Kevin

 

[SMOGZINN]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well i didn't think walking up to her when she is yelling at someone on the cell phone was the best time

Sounds to me like you're expecting her to be blunt about where she sees your relationship going when you're not ready to be blunt about it yourself.

Errr...good point

-Kevin

Here is the best advice I can give you.

Decide what you want and go for it.

Nothing is more sad then missing an opportunity because you were not sure. You are not suppose to be sure, you are suppose to take risks.
All this 'the time was not right' stuff is bull. You are useing that as an excuse to not ask. The time does not have to be perfect. You do not need a fancy script, or a magic hollywood moment, all you need is the words, "will you go out with me." Call her on the phone, right now. Don't lose a good thing because you are afraid.

 

[Nutdotnet]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well i didn't think walking up to her when she is yelling at someone on the cell phone was the best time

Sounds to me like you're expecting her to be blunt about where she sees your relationship going when you're not ready to be blunt about it yourself.

Errr...good point

-Kevin

OOC....how old are you? I'm guessing 16-18 (just because of Prom)?

 

[ColdFusion718]

Originally posted by: Pepsei
don't go out with a load gun.

You mean, "Don't go out with a loaded gun"? lol, that's good advice right there. Empty the clip before you go out so you won't get nervous--people get hurt that way.

 

[Gamingphreek]

OOC....how old are you? I'm guessing 16-18 (just because of Prom)?

Im 17 and she is 18 (IIRC like 9 months apart)

Here is the best advice I can give you.

Decide what you want and go for it.

Nothing is more sad then missing an opportunity because you were not sure. You are not suppose to be sure, you are suppose to take risks.
All this 'the time was not right' stuff is bull. You are useing that as an excuse to not ask. The time does not have to be perfect. You do not need a fancy script, or a magic hollywood moment, all you need is the words, "will you go out with me." Call her on the phone, right now. Don't lose a good thing because you are afraid.

Well we dont talk much on the cell phone, so calling her on it to ask her out seems kinda impersonal. But you nailed it on the head. WHile today was not perfect, i think, in the back of my mind, i was looking for a reason to wimp out again. I dont think calling is a good idea, but i will make a special trip to see her on Wednesday (simply because she isn't working until then).

On wednesday, i promise i will have a definite answer. I dont know why i am so worried about this. I can talk to everyone just fine, but this deep emotion stuff, i really dont do well. I guess encouragement is what this is going to take.

-Kevin

 

[alm4rr]

1. asking out as friend /= askin her out

2. asking out as hot blooded male for a date where you can "put the moves" & charm on = askin her out

if you pick 1, may be reeeaall hard to get to 2
If you want 2, pick 2 and do it

pay 100% up front... gradually wind it down so it goes 50/50 (and if you are lucky 0/100% )

 

[SMOGZINN]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

OOC....how old are you? I'm guessing 16-18 (just because of Prom)?

Im 17 and she is 18 (IIRC like 9 months apart)

Here is the best advice I can give you.

Decide what you want and go for it.

Nothing is more sad then missing an opportunity because you were not sure. You are not suppose to be sure, you are suppose to take risks.
All this 'the time was not right' stuff is bull. You are useing that as an excuse to not ask. The time does not have to be perfect. You do not need a fancy script, or a magic hollywood moment, all you need is the words, "will you go out with me." Call her on the phone, right now. Don't lose a good thing because you are afraid.

Well we dont talk much on the cell phone, so calling her on it to ask her out seems kinda impersonal. But you nailed it on the head. WHile today was not perfect, i think, in the back of my mind, i was looking for a reason to wimp out again. I dont think calling is a good idea, but i will make a special trip to see her on Wednesday (simply because she isn't working until then).

On wednesday, i promise i will have a definite answer. I dont know why i am so worried about this. I can talk to everyone just fine, but this deep emotion stuff, i really dont do well. I guess encouragement is what this is going to take.

-Kevin

Well, here is your encouragement, right from you sig:

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek's sig
Do or Do Not... There is no try. -Yoda

I would still say call, just because you don't talk much on the phone is no reason not to use it. It will have a special feel to it because you don't use it often.

I would say good luck, but you don't need luck. All you just need courage

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: alm4rr
1. asking out as friend /= askin her out

2. asking out as hot blooded male for a date where you can "put the moves" & charm on = askin her out

if you pick 1, may be reeeaall hard to get to 2
If you want 2, pick 2 and do it

pay 100% up front... gradually wind it down so it goes 50/50 (and if you are lucky 0/100% )

I understand where you are coming from, but last time i think she got a bit overwhelmed. (Remember: She just got out of 2 relationships in which they didn't end the best). I think taking it slowly this time would be more beneficial.

-Kevin

Edit:

I would say good luck, but you don't need luck. All you just need courage

Yeah that would pretty much sum it up. I think i am looking for things to go as smoothly as last time, which more than likely isn't going to happen.
As for the phone, when i say we dont talk over it a lot, i mean we almost never talk on it. Just make up for it when we see each other i guess you could say.

-Kevin

 

[Nutdotnet]

Ok dude...two words:

CHILL OUT

No offense to you, or the others who have made "YAGT" threads that are similar but you're overanalzying EVERYTHING.

You're 17 years old, you have a WHOLE LOT more to experience and learn. You say you're Christian, you say you're not looking for sex, then what, exactly are you looking for? At your age sex, or sex-life activities, are what drive boys and girls together; to experiment.

You won't have sex until you're married correct? So is this chick potential marriage material? If not, why are you wasting your time? Certainly, sex isn't everything in a relationship, but at your age, honestly, it is.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet
Ok dude...two words:

CHILL OUT

No offense to you, or the others who have made "YAGT" threads that are similar but you're overanalzying EVERYTHING.

You're 17 years old, you have a WHOLE LOT more to experience and learn. You say you're Christian, you say you're not looking for sex, then what, exactly are you looking for? At your age sex, or sex-life activities, are what drive boys and girls together; to experiment.

You won't have sex until you're married correct? So is this chick potential marriage material? If not, why are you wasting your time? Certainly, sex isn't everything in a relationship, but at your age, honestly, it is.

No matter what, i will have an answer Wednesday then.

(As far as sex, i understand a lot of guys my age do it, but, i gotta say no on this one. That isn't changing (I say that now, i only hope i can remain that decisive))

-Kevin

 

[JEDI]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Right now we aren't going out, but i might ask the person in question out as friends. When/If that happens, who pays??

If i pay (which i dont mind), then it may come accross that i think we are going out (which is false, but hey, that may be the eventual plan).

If she pays, i feel ackward because traditionally the guy does that sort of thing.

To close this:

1. NO PICS (Perhaps at a later date, perhaps a pun )

UPDATE:
See latest post

Update 2:
Must have the worst luck ever

-Kevin

this thread is suck. not going to go hunting for updates.

"Gamingphreek
Diamond Member
Posts: 6654
Joined: 03/31/2003"

you;ve been here long enuf to know better and to update 1st thread.

 

[SMOGZINN]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

Originally posted by: Nutdotnet
Ok dude...two words:

CHILL OUT

No offense to you, or the others who have made "YAGT" threads that are similar but you're overanalzying EVERYTHING.

You're 17 years old, you have a WHOLE LOT more to experience and learn. You say you're Christian, you say you're not looking for sex, then what, exactly are you looking for? At your age sex, or sex-life activities, are what drive boys and girls together; to experiment.

You won't have sex until you're married correct? So is this chick potential marriage material? If not, why are you wasting your time? Certainly, sex isn't everything in a relationship, but at your age, honestly, it is.

No matter what, i will have an answer Wednesday then.

(As far as sex, i understand a lot of guys my age do it, but, i gotta say no on this one. That isn't changing (I say that now, i only hope i can remain that decisive))

-Kevin

I can understand, and respect, your decision on sex. It is not what I chose at your age, but I respect you for standing by your beliefs.
You are interested in a romantic relationship with her right?
If so, then be sure that that is clear. This should not be a outing with friends, but a date.
Trust me, if that is not clear you will not have a good time, and we will be replying to a new YAGT from you next week. Be assertive in what you are after, make it clear, especially since what you are after is noble, and let her know that you would like to take her out on a date. Use those words, ?Hi XYZ, I would like to take you out on a date. Would you go out with me?? She will say yes, and be amazed at how confident you are.

 

[Gamingphreek]

you;ve been here long enuf to know better and to update 1st thread.

Fixed

You are interested in a romantic relationship with her right?

Eventually. Ill wait if she needs time though is what im saying.

Use those words, ?Hi XYZ, I would like to take you out on a date. Would you go out with me?? She will say yes, and be amazed at how confident you are.

I can only hope it will go that way. I was planning on saying, after joking around a minute or two, "Are you doing anything Friday/Saturday, if not do you want to go out to a movie or dinner or something?"

-Kevin

 

[randomlinh]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

you;ve been here long enuf to know better and to update 1st thread.

Fixed

what about the first update...

 

[FoBoT]

the OP is incoherent

 

[Gamingphreek]

what about the first update...

Wasn't really an update. More like background info. Too long to post in the original thread, it would bore people.

the OP is incoherent

Why do you say that.

-Kevin

 

[SMOGZINN]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek

you;ve been here long enuf to know better and to update 1st thread.

Fixed

You are interested in a romantic relationship with her right?

Eventually. Ill wait if she needs time though is what im saying.

Use those words, ?Hi XYZ, I would like to take you out on a date. Would you go out with me?? She will say yes, and be amazed at how confident you are.

I can only hope it will go that way. I was planning on saying, after joking around a minute or two, "Are you doing anything Friday/Saturday, if not do you want to go out to a movie or dinner or something?"

-Kevin

No, don't hope it will go that way. Just ask her. If she says that she needs more time, then you can back off some and settle into a friendship. I personally would ask her if she thinks she will have had enough time by 7:00pm Friday, then put a big 'ol grin on my face. The thing to remember is, once you settle into a friendship there is almost no going back to romance.
Remember, you are not asking her to marry you, and since you are not expecting a sexual relationship right now, all you are really asking her is to spend more time with you, and to consider you as a potential mate.