If it's a friends thing, you pay your own way. If you're so worried about it, let her pay for her own meal and movie ticket, but you can pay for the hookers and booze for both of you afterwards.
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That would probably work well since i am a very humorous person (more through actions than just flat out jokes).
-Kevin
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Alright...well she wasn't in today (expected) so im still asking on Wednesday.
Suprisingly, i am not the least bit worried anymore. All the encouragement i have gotten, shoot if anything i am excited, and can hardly wait.
I go straight to work from class tomorrow, so any last minute advice?
-Kevin
Suprisingly, i am not the least bit worried anymore. All the encouragement i have gotten, shoot if anything i am excited, and can hardly wait.
I go straight to work from class tomorrow, so any last minute advice?
-Kevin
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Well didn't go quite as planned :
My friend came and told me the reason she broke up with me last time (The same as what i suspected). Im like....excellent, what a night to hear this.
So i went to her, and mentioned it, and she said she cried afterwards, because she didn't want to hurt my feelings
. I told her its all good, and she said, that no one came to her, and was acting like we were going out. She had just gotten out of a 1.5 year relationship, and was worried that after prom i would want something more (dating). She didn't want me to buy all the stuff for prom and then let me know that she wasn't ready.
Which is when i was going to ask (didn't directly ask after that), until she said it....oh yeah...the i just wanted to be friends thing (argh). The only thing though, she said "at the time"; so im going to either call or go in and say "Awkward question, do you still want to be friends?".
While it really stinks i didn't get what i was hoping for, and even if i still didn't, at least she is happy. It hurts a little bit, but at least pretty much everything got cleared up, and still i would rather her be happy.
Should i have asked anyways? Im thinking no. Ill still be an idiot and ask the awkward question, but dont think it has changed that much (Be nice if it did though).
Thanks for all the help. On the outside chance that something does come up ill update again.
-Kevin
My friend came and told me the reason she broke up with me last time (The same as what i suspected). Im like....excellent, what a night to hear this.
So i went to her, and mentioned it, and she said she cried afterwards, because she didn't want to hurt my feelings
. I told her its all good, and she said, that no one came to her, and was acting like we were going out. She had just gotten out of a 1.5 year relationship, and was worried that after prom i would want something more (dating). She didn't want me to buy all the stuff for prom and then let me know that she wasn't ready.Which is when i was going to ask (didn't directly ask after that), until she said it....oh yeah...the i just wanted to be friends thing (argh). The only thing though, she said "at the time"; so im going to either call or go in and say "Awkward question, do you still want to be friends?".
While it really stinks i didn't get what i was hoping for, and even if i still didn't, at least she is happy. It hurts a little bit, but at least pretty much everything got cleared up, and still i would rather her be happy.
Should i have asked anyways? Im thinking no. Ill still be an idiot and ask the awkward question, but dont think it has changed that much (Be nice if it did though).
Thanks for all the help. On the outside chance that something does come up ill update again.
-Kevin
Hmmm..Well, you know we could analyze for a long time, but sometimes if it doesn't work out it just doesn't work out. All my relationships have been initiated easily, without all the second guessing and doubt.
Look around, there are other women out there.
Look around, there are other women out there.
Pepsei
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er, i'm very confused after reading this thread over and over...
"My friend came and told me the reason she broke up with me last time (The same as what i suspected). Im like....excellent, what a night to hear this. "
what, i thought you two weren't even dating at all? er, and what did you suspect was the reason???
"My friend came and told me the reason she broke up with me last time (The same as what i suspected). Im like....excellent, what a night to hear this. "
what, i thought you two weren't even dating at all? er, and what did you suspect was the reason???
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We were going to prom, and about a week and a half before prom she said she decided against it.
I suspected, that my friends who kept asking "Where is your girl" (I kept saying, stop; your going to get me in trouble) reached back to her, and she got overwhelmed. While i still think it had a little something to do with that, she was sincere. And when she said she cried after she called about prom, i felt horrible. At least she is happy right now, or so she says. Maybe we will just go out as friends, no harm in that.
Ah well, ill ask my question, if the response is what i think it is (still just friends), then we are just friends and ill leave it alone.
-Kevin
SMOGZINN
Lifer
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Oh good god damn! Just stop playing games already, and tell her how you feel. Tell her that it is now up to her to decide how she feels, and walk the fvck away all Humphrey Bogart style. If she understands anything at all, she will come running to you.
Let me give you some serious advice that could save you a hell of a lot of pain, you are getting very close to the unrequited love problem (or are already standing knee deep in it.)
You keep saying, 'at least she will be happy' Bullship. You are not there to make her happy at the expense of your own. That is unrequited love, and it is stupid and it sucks. The goal in a relationship is to make YOU happy, and in so doing make the other person happy. Your joy fuels your mates joy, and vice versa. If you are not doing that then there is something wrong.
A good person can not be happy knowing that their actions, or very existence, is making someone else unhappy. This is why unrequited love is so damn tragic, because it is the exact opposite of the normal response of love, your sorrow feeds your partner?s sorrow.
So here is the question, if you know that the two of you can NEVER be together, do you really want to be her friend? Will YOU be happy with that relationship, putting aside all the respect and friendship you have, will you be happy seeing her with another man?
If you can not answer a firm yes to that question, and believe it, then you need to tell her that you love her, and if she can not love you back you need to end the relationship.
I?m sorry if my language is a little stong in this post, I do not mean to be insulting. I hope you find the best solution, and I hope that my words have helped.
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No offense taken
Well i wont pretend that i dont really want to go out with her, but i absolutely see where you are coming from.
Like i said, today im going to call her and ask her if her feelings are unchanged. If so, GOOD. If not, of course it really sucks, and ill be sad that nothing will ever happen, but it isn't life and death, it would just REALLY be, i guess heartbreaking.
Ill let ya know what happens tonight after i call her. Right now she is in class, so i would rather not get her in trouble with a prof. by calling her, so ill wait until around 5. I should have a post up by ~8.
-Kevin
5 years from now he'll look back at how big of an idiot he was and laugh. Sorry, i have nothing constructive to say.
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I would rather look back at being an idiot, that looking back on something that could have worked though
-Kevin
-Kevin
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I would rather look back at being an idiot, that looking back on something that could have worked though
-Kevin
Whole new set of opportunities (chicks) will open for you when you get to college. You're better off not having a girlfriend as you graduate from HS.
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Well i called and asked her if she still felt that way. I wavered a little bit and she sounded a bit confused, but said "Yes i still feel that way". I said "Alright, its all good just making sure (ttyl and all that)". We were both laughing a little bit here and there, so that helped take a lot of pressure off as i said my peace.
It felt SO incredibly awkward. I know she wont take anything personally and stuff, but i just felt like a complete idiot saying that. I guess ill see when i see how she acts friday (Both of us are closing).
The weirdest part is, i have been wanting to ask her out for so long. Now that i have made sure of this, im not really sad. Im disappointed, and i definitely cant say im happy; but the words to describe how i feel are best summed up as "Eh, that stinks".
Thanks for all the advice and encouragement guys, i needed every ounce of it to call and do that.
-Kevin
It felt SO incredibly awkward. I know she wont take anything personally and stuff, but i just felt like a complete idiot saying that. I guess ill see when i see how she acts friday (Both of us are closing).
The weirdest part is, i have been wanting to ask her out for so long. Now that i have made sure of this, im not really sad. Im disappointed, and i definitely cant say im happy; but the words to describe how i feel are best summed up as "Eh, that stinks".
Thanks for all the advice and encouragement guys, i needed every ounce of it to call and do that.
-Kevin
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I would rather look back at being an idiot, that looking back on something that could have worked though
-Kevin
Whole new set of opportunities (chicks) will open for you when you get to college. You're better off not having a girlfriend as you graduate from HS.
Yea, this is good advice. New opportunities await.
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Originally posted by: Stretchman
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I would rather look back at being an idiot, that looking back on something that could have worked though
-Kevin
Whole new set of opportunities (chicks) will open for you when you get to college. You're better off not having a girlfriend as you graduate from HS.
Yea, this is good advice. New opportunities await.
But it still would have been nice to be going out with her lol
-Kevin
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: Stretchman
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I would rather look back at being an idiot, that looking back on something that could have worked though
-Kevin
Whole new set of opportunities (chicks) will open for you when you get to college. You're better off not having a girlfriend as you graduate from HS.
Yea, this is good advice. New opportunities await.
But it still would have been nice to be going out with her lol
-Kevin
Ok, the one thing you youngsters need to have ingrained in your brain is: You can go out with girls and NOT have them be your girlfriend! In fact, going out w/o a commitment is what you should all be doing at a young age.
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Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: Stretchman
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I would rather look back at being an idiot, that looking back on something that could have worked though
-Kevin
Whole new set of opportunities (chicks) will open for you when you get to college. You're better off not having a girlfriend as you graduate from HS.
Yea, this is good advice. New opportunities await.
But it still would have been nice to be going out with her lol
-Kevin
Ok, the one thing you youngsters need to have ingrained in your brain is: You can go out with girls and NOT have them be your girlfriend! In fact, going out w/o a commitment is what you should all be doing at a young age.
I had that in my brain until everyone was like, just as her out for real, none of this friends stuff. Look at the very first thing i posted lol!
GOOD TIMES
-Kevin
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Originally posted by: Stretchman
Originally posted by: Sex Smurf
Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
I would rather look back at being an idiot, that looking back on something that could have worked though
-Kevin
Whole new set of opportunities (chicks) will open for you when you get to college. You're better off not having a girlfriend as you graduate from HS.
Yea, this is good advice. New opportunities await.
But it still would have been nice to be going out with her lol
-Kevin
Ok, the one thing you youngsters need to have ingrained in your brain is: You can go out with girls and NOT have them be your girlfriend! In fact, going out w/o a commitment is what you should all be doing at a young age.
I had that in my brain until everyone was like, just as her out for real, none of this friends stuff. Look at the very first thing i posted lol!
GOOD TIMES
-Kevin
no no no young jedi. do NOT go out with a girl as friends, thats just a waste of time. When they said "for real", that means with the intentions of some action. Do not confuse going out with girlfriends. But anyway, good luck.
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