YAGT: Finished

[Gamingphreek]

Right now we aren't going out, but i might ask the person in question out as friends. When/If that happens, who pays??

If i pay (which i dont mind), then it may come accross that i think we are going out (which is false, but hey, that may be the eventual plan).

If she pays, i feel ackward because traditionally the guy does that sort of thing.

To close this:

1. NO PICS (Perhaps at a later date, perhaps a pun )

UPDATE:
See latest post

Update 2:
Must have the worst luck ever

Well today i went up to work to get my schedule, and for some reason unbeknownst to me at the time, she was there. So i took my time making copies, but she never walked by. SO, i was like ill just catch her some other day. I walk out, and talk to one of my friends for like 10mins, and begin to get in my car. AS I GET IN MY CAR, she walks out. Doh!

So im thinking for a second, and i see that she is yelling at someone on her cell-phone. Immediately, i say to myself: "Nope not a good time". As i pulled away it hit me that she wasn't getting along to well with a particular manager (this manager in question i dont particularly like either).

Im tellin' ya that didn't work out like planned...at least i doesn't directly affect me. I guess ill just call her and ask (Even though i kinda know) how the talk went with one of our managers.

See the last post of mine for the, possibly, last update.

LAST UPDATE. Just look at the latest and last post..it went as well as it could have given the outcome

-Kevin

 

[MAME]

she would never pay you for sex

 

[Yossarian]

each pay half. not a tough one.

 

[jjzelinski]

Originally posted by: MAME
she would never pay you for sex

lol

 

[Whoozyerdaddy]

Whenver I ask someone out I always expect to pay. If they ask me I assume they are paying. (Even though I'll always offer to pay my share)

 

[anxi80]

split the tab. 50/50.

edit: yep, what yossarian said above

 

[stringcheeseincident]

Originally posted by: Yossarian
each pay half. not a tough one.

/thread

 

[Gamingphreek]

Well, if we each pay half for a movie or dinner or something, we might as well buy our own stuff. Not sure why i feel ackward if i dont pay, but i dont want to screw this up........err again (Long story, but my ony other YAGT should explain it )

I know you guys are messing around with the sex comment, but just to make it clear right now....No. Laugh all you want but im a christian. Not to mention i have way too much respect about this girl to even think about it...yeah, once again, its probably only me that has too much respect lol; but hey what can ya do?

-Kevin

 

[anxi80]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well, if we each pay half for a movie or dinner or something, we might as well buy our own stuff.

sounds like a plan and sets a nice standard for the relationship. good luck.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: anxi80

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well, if we each pay half for a movie or dinner or something, we might as well buy our own stuff.

sounds like a plan and sets a nice standard for the relationship. good luck.

Thanks, so far i like my chances

Ill let you guys know what happens.

-Kevin

 

[spidey07]

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well, if we each pay half for a movie or dinner or something, we might as well buy our own stuff. Not sure why i feel ackward if i dont pay, but i dont want to screw this up........err again (Long story, but my ony other YAGT should explain it )

I know you guys are messing around with the sex comment, but just to make it clear right now....No. Laugh all you want but im a christian. Not to mention i have way too much respect about this girl to even think about it...yeah, once again, its probably only me that has too much respect lol; but hey what can ya do?

-Kevin

You can buy her way and get sex in return.

That's how it works. You know...dating.

 

[KarenMarie]

if you ask, you pay.

if she offers to pay for the movie, tell her to buy the popcorn. If she offers to pay for the meal, tell her to leave the tip.

This way you dont look like you are looking for something and she doesn't feel obligated that you paid. you also will not look cheap, but that you respect and appreciate her offer to pay without taking advantage.

if she doesnt offer to pay, consider it a date.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
if you ask, you pay.

if she offers to pay for the movie, tell her to buy the popcorn. If she offers to pay for the meal, tell her to leave the tip.

This way you dont look like you are looking for something and she doesn't feel obligated that you paid. you also will not look cheap, but that you respect and appreciate her offer to pay without taking advantage.

if she doesnt offer to pay, consider it a date.

Excellent

 

[Gamingphreek]

God i feel like a wimp. I never have problems talking with people, but im just wary about asking her back out.

Last time i HAD to because Prom was coming up, i wouldn't have so soon, as she had just gotten out of a serious relationship. But, we have been talking for some time now, and last night i stayed 2...thats right 2 HOURS past my shift at work. We just stood on the front line and talked, and then i helped out off the clock. And she expressed a longing to be back into a relationship (I was like..Oh well that is good).

If you guys have seen the friends episode where they say dont say "I like spending time with you" just say "I like you". Yeah, well i got about every variation of that possible "I love working with you" ; "Your so sweet" ; "Omg, You remembered!!!". Im like ARG just say it so i can stop being such an idiot.

*Sigh* .... now that i have got that off my chest (no matter how pathetic it sounds, because believe me i know i sound like a little kid or something ) i feel much better. Any advice before ask her out (as friends for now) for the second time?

-Kevin

 

[KarenMarie]

don't be nervous. be confident but not cocky. Ask in a nonchanlant way... like:

hey, wanna go to a movie this/next weekend?

nothing more complicated than that. if you are nervous, she will think you are a dork. if you are too cocky, she will think she doesnt matter. dont make it like the social event of the century or that marriage and kids are riding on how this get together will go.... just a couple of ppl getting together to see a movie, just has either of you have done numerous times, just not alone together.

just be natural and be yourself.

edit: if she says no... just smile, and say.. ok, maybe some other time.
then let it go unless she brings it up.

 

[AreaCode707]

Okay, first:
You don't sound cheesy or pathetic, so stop setting yourself up like that. There's nothing wrong with being a Christian, respecting a woman, and waiting for sex.

Now:
It's absolutely fine to go halves. If the girl is worth her salt, she's expecting and prepared to pay her half. If you want to be especially sweet, offer and be prepared to pay for her (as the one who invited her, it's appropriate and not too "date-like".) Only offer twice, at the end of the meal.
"I'll get it this time."
"Oh no, that's okay."
"No, please."
"Are you sure?"
"Yes, I invited you and I enjoyed the conversation, so let me get it this time."
"Okay, thanks."

But only if you want to. If you're just friends, she should be expecting to pay her way.

 

[ruffilb]

Originally posted by: stringcheeseincident

Originally posted by: Yossarian
each pay half. not a tough one.

/thread

Originally posted by: anxi80

Originally posted by: Gamingphreek
Well, if we each pay half for a movie or dinner or something, we might as well buy our own stuff.

sounds like a plan and sets a nice standard for the relationship. good luck.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Well not to get cocky (Although it comes across that way), but i dont think she will say no ... we have been flirting back and forth for a long time. And im always the first to hear about her problems, and stuff. Im not worried about the asking part...im more worried about what she is thinking. We haven't been out together in at least 6 months, and i dont want to sound desperate (because im not), or anything.

Last time we went out, we were going to the movies, but my retarded manager decided to keep us after close to do some sh!t. She was even more angry than I, and i was the person who planned it out. So we ended up going to dinner, and on top of that instead she drove; both of those things really caught me off guard. So, if/when i ask, i just dont want to screw it up again. I dont think either of us close friday, so maybe ill ask tomorrow or something.

Im telling you, it can be hard being a guy:
1. We pay
2. We Ask
3. We HAVE to be there
4. Women always right
5. Anything else....
(jk)

At any rate, thanks KarenMarie, just telling people helps a lot! I am definitely not emotionless, but i dont share my feelings with other people (even my closest friends) too much. I listen to theirs and help .... its easier to say something when it doesn't directly affect you .

-Kevin

 

[jjzelinski]

One bit of advice I'd like to offer is not announce yourself as Mr Gamingphreek upon arrival.

 

[sixone]

If she thinks it's a date, she may not offer to pay, for fear of offending you. Be sure you let her know what to expect when you arrange to get together.

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Okay, first:
You don't sound cheesy or pathetic, so stop setting yourself up like that. There's nothing wrong with being a Christian, respecting a woman, and waiting for sex.

Now:
It's absolutely fine to go halves. If the girl is worth her salt, she's expecting and prepared to pay her half. If you want to be especially sweet, offer and be prepared to pay for her (as the one who invited her, it's appropriate and not too "date-like".) Only offer twice, at the end of the meal.
"I'll get it this time."
"Oh no, that's okay."
"No, please."
"Are you sure?"
"Yes, I invited you and I enjoyed the conversation, so let me get it this time."
"Okay, thanks."

But only if you want to. If you're just friends, she should be expecting to pay her way.

We are only friends for now, but this endless flirting and stuff is tormenting. If she wants to date, im all for it. If not, then say so, i have no problem being friends; just let me know that i have nothing to really work for.

Oh yeah another question. (No pics) SHe is REALLY hot, but i guess in an effort to be modest or joking or something shell say shes ugly or something...you know the drill. Sometimes ill say that she isn't and joke around a little bit (she doesn't take offense or anything and will throw it right back given the opportunity), and sometimes i wont say anything. What in the world does a guy say in that situation. I would LOVE to say, "Are you crazy, anyone would be lucky to have you" but i dont want her to get overwhelmed or something. (Her past boyfriends, while nice people were not nice BF's, lame excuses to get their way, and wouldn't bend in their habits).

-Kevin

 

[Gamingphreek]

Originally posted by: jjzelinski
One bit of advice I'd like to offer is not announce yourself as Mr Gamingphreek upon arrival.

Lol, she knows that i know a lot about technology, but in know way do i look like a nerd or anything guys lol (Just in case you had a picture of some little pale kid walking up to someone really nice or something. I have no problem talking or anything, its just im not good at this deep, feelings sorta thing).

But it may be amusing to tell her this quote and see what she says.

 

[Pepsei]

don't go out with a loaded gun.

edit, fixed mistake

 

[chrisrod01]

You pay and she put in the tab lol
Then again Im just 16 and i dont work so in my case it be better 50/50 unless i had ask my parent for sum cash which most of the time i ask before i go anywhere

 

[mrrman]

I always make the gesture to pay...if she pays thats a bonus