YAGT: Do you worry about ending up alone?

[The Stigenator]

i rather be alone.. ****** women!

 

[Journer]

ive got a g/f (of 4yrs) but i dont worry about being alone. if she leaves me or dies...yah it would suck, but time heals all and life moves on. i could live my life alone or with a mate, i'm just l337 like that, lol

 

[Stumps]

Originally posted by: sixone

Originally posted by: Stumps
I never used to worry about it, but after recent events, I'm beginning to wonder how I start again....I got so used to have my Fiancee about and now she isn't here any more.

You have a lot on your plate right now. Don't be in a hurry - things have a funny way of working out when you least expect it.

I'm not in any hurry..the thought of starting again scares me a bit, I just got so used to having somebody around that now I have all of this free time(when I'm not with Emily)now I don't know what to do with it...and it will be a month before I can return to work...so it's pretty boring ATM , most of my friends a 400km's away in Sydney.

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: Stumps
I'm not in any hurry..the thought of starting again scares me a bit, I just got so used to having somebody around that now I have all of this free time(when I'm not with Emily)now I don't know what to do with it...and it will be a month before I can return to work...so it's pretty boring ATM , most of my friends a 400km's away in Sydney.

I know what you mean. Change is scary, but in a few months, you'll look back and wonder what you were worried about.

 

[Suspicious-Teach8788]

Originally posted by: sixone
What's so bad about being alone?

You do get to leave the toilet seat up all the time, after all.

Gosh, I got yelled at on DAY #1 on vacation with 3 girls =P

 

[nightowl]

I look at it this way. I have accomplished so much already in my time here (I'm 24). All, I would like to do is meet that special girl and things would be about as good as it could be. Until that happens I continue to do things to make myself better and will continue to do this if/when I meet someone. I do things outside of work to meet other people and they do not always work out. However, the key is to not be discouraged and keep on moving forward. I do find myself feeling like this sometimes but the key is to keep looking forward and not back.

 

[JulesMaximus]

No, but then again...I've been married for the past 14 years.

Just be honest with yourself and with your mate and you'll end up with the right person. One word of advice, don't settle for someone you have serious problems with thinking that marriage will solve your problems because they won't change and the issues you have will only get worse in marriage and even moreso if you have children...I've seen it happen many times with friends/family.

You'll never meet the perfect person because that person does not exist. The trick is finding someone you can live with and who can live with you. If you can't accept the other persons idiosyncrasies or he/she yours the relationship is doomed to fail.

 

[FoBoT]

nope, 18 years married and two kids, i am good to go

 

[StormRider]

We should start developing "companion" robots -- like that Asimo robot -- only with boobies.....

 

[Amused]

No, I worry I wont be left alone.

 

[Fritzo]

I worry about not ever being left alone. I just know someone's going to annoy me until I hit the grave :|

 

[Amused]

Originally posted by: Fritzo
I worry about not ever being left alone. I just know someone's going to annoy me until I hit the grave :|

My brother! :heart:

 

[natep]

i dated a very bipolar girl for over 2 years. she just found out she was literally bipolar, but i had a hunch a while ago.

anyway, i'm not in a hurry to find anyone new. the experience left me with a bad generalization of women that i'm slowly shaking off. i'd rather be lonely at this period in my life, and be oblivious of future relationships.

 

[Aikouka]

Originally posted by: sixone
What's so bad about being alone?

You do get to leave the toilet seat up all the time, after all.

Am I the only guy who actually puts the toilet seat down? :Q

Personally... eh, I donno. Sometimes you look at society and try to fit in... you think you're weird for not having a girlfriend to go out with, but you're not weird in any way.

The one poster is right about having to care for yourself... if you don't like yourself, there's no way you'll ever think someone can care for you (you'll go around with thoughts like, "Oh, how can she really like me... I'm such a (insert things here)") It ain't healthy. I know I'm not perfect and I do have the tendency to think in the same manner. It isn't easy to get over, but you have to at least try .

So, all in all, just cheer up, bud. You'll be fine.

 

[BMdoobieW]

Nope. Not even when I was single. I had faith that everything would turn out ok, and it has!

 

[Orsorum]

Originally posted by: JEDI
:Q

accept the fact that being alone is a possiblity and you'll be happier.

rich and old-> see my above post about mailorderbrides.com

This is not a function of physical or emotional loneliness, this is a deep-seated insecurity, an unwillingness to be content with who I am and where I am. I am coming to terms with that, but it has taken a long time. I am coming to a point in my life where I can say I am honestly proud of who I am, but being able to admit that is an arduous process.

 

[Rogodin2]

You're ultimately alone in birth, life, and death. The sooner you realize that the sooner you'll be able to find wives and divorces.

Rogo

 

[Viperoni]

I'm having a great time being single, couldn't care less.

 

[LS20]

there will always be fat girls to fall back on

 

[dbk]

You need to get in the "friend zone" and boost that self-esteem up a bit.

 

[judasmachine]

we all die alone.

 

[doze]

I'm getting close to 30 and mom asks me when I am going to get a girlfriend and settle down all the time. I have been in a LTR and even got engaged, but I only saw myself getting married as an excuse not to be alone. My married friends and those in a LTR all have to consult with the SO before they can do anything. Other guys my age have kids and wives, PTA meetings and soccer practice blah blah blah... I like to sleep late on Saturday then wake up and have a few beers while I eat a bacon sandwich, play video games, and watch football. If I don't feel like taking a shower, washing the car, doing the dishes etc... I don't have to. If I decide to go out in the middle of the week I can simply get in the car and go, and if something interesting happens then I don't have to worry abotu being home at a certain time.

 

[Soybomb]

I'm 25 and kind of sort of but not really. I enjoy my time alone very much and will always want a large amount of it. I do think I would like having someone to share life with, to buy a house with, to take trips with...just some basic companionship for life. I'm a fairly unconventional guy though and I'm not sure how well I'll match up with other people in the long term. I'm not sure I like monogamy. I'm not sure I'll even like long term. I'm planning to move soon and someone to move with would be kind of comforting. I'm planning to just take life as it comes and if something happens, it happens.

 

[LordNoob]

"no"

 

[chowmein]

the universe will sort itself out