YAGT: Do you worry about ending up alone?

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erub

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I'm only 23 but I sometimes worry about ending up alone. It probably doesn't help that I still like an ex-gf from more than a year ago, but yeah. I've had an interesting time with dating since we broke up and whenever it doesn't work out with a new girl for whatever reason (including eating rice, wtf) and I wish it was back to being so easy with her, but I also know that that is not possible (at least at this time) because of the distance involved and her/mine future career goals.

Then again I know people who are older (and in some cases, much older) who don't seem to be in too much of a rush to find someone. Maybe I'm just looking for someone to hang out with..I get pretty unhappy whenever I end up spending a weekend night by myself, which doesn't happen all that often but happens more than I would like (probably because in the last city and the city that I've lived in now, I was there for 3 and 4 months respectively)
 
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What's so bad about being alone?

You do get to leave the toilet seat up all the time, after all. :p
 
foghorn67

foghorn67

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Yes. Sometimes I do. It's hits me pretty hard sometimes. But most of the time I am just content.
 
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Orsorum

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Yes, I do. I have cried, alone, for all the loneliness and fright I felt then and will feel in the future. I cannot escape it, and I cannot ignore it. I had to face it and accept it, or else it would have shaped every decision I make for the worse.

I am afraid for the years I will spend alone in my bed, with no one to talk to, no one with whom to share myself, and in whom I can share. I am terrified of being old, rich, and abandoned. But I must realize that life is grander and larger than tomorrow, and the day after, and that to enjoy what comes next I must take solace in the knowledge that what comes after those random days will be what I seek.
 
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Yes and no. I feel that in this modern world we can never be as truly alone as people once were..... but I also feel that we are never as truly together as people once were...
 
TallBill

TallBill

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I really worried about it when I was younger. Heck, I never even kissed a girl until I was 18. Then I decided to stop being a loser and went on a good streak, and now I'm married.
 
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Aimster

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I worried about it when I was 18-22 and I had no balls and women controlled my life.
I also didnt love myself.

Now I love myself and dont care if I am single
 
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If you are old and rich you can never be completely alone Orsorum. It's the old and poor who are really alone :(
 
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cyclistca

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I do sometimes. I'm currently in a relationship but have had some thoughts about breaking it off. However I'm in my forties and I'm not sure if I want to start over again. Even though I'm an independent person I like being in a relationship.

A buddy of mine has given up and plans to be single for the rest of his life. It works for him.

 
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OneOfTheseDays

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You people really make me sick. Sick and tired of being alone, go out and do something about it. Go to some local bars/clubs, join social groups, whatever it takes to meet people. Nobody is going to magically come to your damn doorstep and be the girl of your dreams. Your gonna have to work for it.

If you showed this kind of lousy attitude towards anything else in life, like say your job, you'd never make it anywhere. So get off your damn computer and go outside and meet people. It's NOT THAT HARD.

 
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NanoStuff

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I'm worried I won't end up alone. So far I've been avoiding long term commitments successfully, with a bit of luck it will stay that way.
 
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Shadowknight

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I have my hobbies, and my cats, and so no, I don't need to be with someone to validate my own existence.
 
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kmrivers

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Originally posted by: Aimster
I worried about it when I was 18-22 and I had no balls and women controlled my life.
I also didnt love myself.

Now I love myself and dont care if I am single
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QFT. This is the way to go. Learn to love yourself. Not only does it make you happier it allows you to see past the bull and not settle for someone so you arent alone.

It allows you to look at a woman and say "Nah." And not "Well I will have someone to spend time with"

Work on this and you won't have to worry.
 
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Koing

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Not really. It use to be the case but not anymore.

I'd like to be married around about 25-26 but if it doesn't happen f0ck it. I'm really happy with my life.

Once you go through some rough patches it is very very refreshing to know you will be okay :thumbsup:

Koing
 
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homercles337

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Yea, i do. And i have worried about this for a long time. Since my teens i suppose. Im a mess though. In my past i have been with some really great women and could probably still be with any of them if i didnt fsck up. My life is a constant "boy meets girl. boy gets girl. boy fscks up. boy looses girl. boy cant get girl back" story. Fortunately i probably wont live past my 50s so i dont have a lot of time to wash/rinse/repeat.
 
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miniMUNCH

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I've been married almost eight year now... the only thing I worry about every now and then is my wife and/or son dying.

I'd probably want to end my life if my wife and son died.
 
TallBill

TallBill

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Originally posted by: AgaBoogaBoo
Originally posted by: Shadowknight
I have my hobbies, and my cats, and so no, I don't need to be with someone to validate my own existence.
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sounds like denial to me :p
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Sounds miserable to me. Males and females are supposed to mate. Its how nature works. Nature isn't wrong.
 
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Originally posted by: homercles337
Yea, i do. And i have worried about this for a long time. Since my teens i suppose. Im a mess though. In my past i have been with some really great women and could probably still be with any of them if i didnt fsck up. My life is a constant "boy meets girl. boy gets girl. boy fscks up. boy looses girl. boy cant get girl back" story. Fortunately i probably wont live past my 50s so i dont have a lot of time to wash/rinse/repeat.
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Why do you think you won't live past your 50s?
 
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