If you really wanna creep her out, just tell her that you made her a topic of conversation for a bunch of computer nerds you don't know on the intarweb.
GTaudiophile
Lifer
- Oct 24, 2000
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Too soon for that four-letter word! For some people that word still has meaning and implies some scary sh!t.
just wondering but how old are you guys?
If you did indeed creep her out you must tread very lightly because nothing is worse than a clingy, desperate bf and saying i love you too soon can give a girl that impression. i suggest you be very sensitive to her actions in the next few weeks. are you always the one calling HER? are you wanting to spend too much time with her? if so, take it easy, let her do some of the calling or suggesting of going out. BUT you have to also be careful that if she wasnt' weirded out, if she sees you acting distant she'll get pissed and think you don't like her anymore.
see how complicated the mind of a girl works???? as a girl, i could totally tell you just by the things she does and the stuff she says how she feels, but i do not have that luxury to do that for you and since i'm guessing you are the average male, you prolly don't have that skill either and are quite dense as to reading a female. so i guess i'll just wish you good luck and suggest you just act normal (minus saying the i love you again until she says it first).
If you did indeed creep her out you must tread very lightly because nothing is worse than a clingy, desperate bf and saying i love you too soon can give a girl that impression. i suggest you be very sensitive to her actions in the next few weeks. are you always the one calling HER? are you wanting to spend too much time with her? if so, take it easy, let her do some of the calling or suggesting of going out. BUT you have to also be careful that if she wasnt' weirded out, if she sees you acting distant she'll get pissed and think you don't like her anymore.
see how complicated the mind of a girl works???? as a girl, i could totally tell you just by the things she does and the stuff she says how she feels, but i do not have that luxury to do that for you and since i'm guessing you are the average male, you prolly don't have that skill either and are quite dense as to reading a female. so i guess i'll just wish you good luck and suggest you just act normal (minus saying the i love you again until she says it first).
You told her you love her? The women always say that first. If the guy says it first it's just kind of needy or pathetic
yes, or else he's easily stomped on. I mean wtf, I got this guy all over me one one hand, and this other guy, wy not have both? He's so clingly I'm sure he won't break up with me even if he find out.
bah to that.
If you wait a while (particularly after you've had sex) it'll have far more impact.
Ask her how she feels. If you love her, be the man and ask her. Be prepared for her to tell you she doesn't love you... yet. It's a little early, but who are any of these guys to tell you you shouldn't have done it?
Oh yeah, and whip it out.
-geoff
Oh yeah, and whip it out.
-geoff
actually, even if a girl says it to early it's a little bit creepy or overly dramatic (IMO). Last year I was going through a rough time with my gf and we had faux affairs with other people. I met mine once (she lived a distance away from me) and had a decent time, met her a second time @ night and kinda pnwed her. When she dropped me off at the train station she was all "I love you" and shiet. I mean, obviously with some people it's a bit more casual than others, but still it creeped me enough that I stopped screwing around and worked everything out with my chick.
EvilYoda
Lifer
- Apr 1, 2001
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Dunno what else has been said...but yeah, a month and a half is pretty damn fast to be saying those 3 words. How old are you two? Has she acted differently after you said it [in English]? If you notice anything, be open with her, tell her that you feel strongly for her, but you just don't know where your mind is right now. Let her know that you don't want anything to change, and that you'll work on her time-schedule.
Or something. It's been almost 3 years since I had to tell someone those 3 words for the first time...and then it lasted for another 2 years, so I suppose my timing wasn't too bad.
Or something. It's been almost 3 years since I had to tell someone those 3 words for the first time...and then it lasted for another 2 years, so I suppose my timing wasn't too bad.
Pfft. You don't even know what love is. Wait a year or so before you say those words and then maybe then you'll know if you love her or even what love is.
a month later you proclaiming your love?! Are you in high school?
you should talk to her and then take it back.
you should talk to her and then take it back.
Dropping the L-bomb so soon is definitely a bad idea. In any case, you should always wait for the girl to say it first.
You have most likely creeped her out, but there is a good chance you can just brush it under the carpet for a while...
You have most likely creeped her out, but there is a good chance you can just brush it under the carpet for a while...
<devo>Crack that whip!</devo>
Seriously, I think you shouldn't get to hung up about that and just see what happens next. If she seems more distant than before, then maybe she did get creeped out. If not, then you're good.
Seriously, I think you shouldn't get to hung up about that and just see what happens next. If she seems more distant than before, then maybe she did get creeped out. If not, then you're good.
That's not true - a guy is not needy or pathetic if they say it first.
My current boyfriend said it first. I knew he loved me, but I wasn't expecting that, and I didn't say it back. I wasn't creeped out, though. I just hugged him harder and smiled at him. It would have been awkward to say it back to him right then because I was sort of caught off guard. A couple weeks later we were hanging out and I told him "I love you, too" and he said "I know." It was all fun, love isn't supposed to be creepy and awkward.
You said it, and you feel uncomfortable, just leave it alone for right now, just be yourself when you're around her and things will work themselves out. It's hard to respond to someone professing their love, and maybe it was a little quick, but if you've been having a whirlwind relationship, maybe it was appropriate, that's only for you and your girl to say really. I hope things work out for you!
Originally posted by: AgaBooga
Do it over in Spanish and Japanese. Also, When In Doubt, Whip It Out!
Muhahahahahah!!!
Well ok in different circumstances it's alright. A month after meeting her is a little extreme. How well can you really know someone in that short amount of time to say something like that? Judging by her reaction she's not the same place as he is. If you know you're in the same place then it's alright to say it. His situation sounds something like a high school crush or something (I don't know Kahuna's age but guessing from the fact that he refers to her as "girl", probably in HS)
True true, he does sound young, and a month is not enough time for someone to actually be IN LOVE with someone... I think after a month you can get some sort of idea whether or not you can love the person you're dating, but not be really in love with them. My boyfriend said it after 6 months or so... and he's 24, my situation was different.
Still, CK, I wish you good luck... think about how you really feel before you say lovey dovey stuff honey, and try to enjoy yourself!
6 months and being in your mid 20's is without a doubt quite a different situation. In that case it would definetly be appropriate. Having never had a relationship over 3 months, I'm not sure I'm qualified to say that though
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