YAGT: Did I creep her out?

[Mustangrrl]

Whoa, why no relationships over three months?! Are you young?

 

[johnjohn320]

Heh, you wanna go slow but you tell her after 1 month that you love her? Jesus man...

 

[Jugernot]

I didn't even read your post, but if you are asking if you creeped a girl outk, you probably did...

 

[CaptainKahuna]

Ah, I should clarify, we've been dating for 1.5 months, but I've known her as a good friend for about 6 months, known as a loose aquaintance for like 4 years.

 

[SuepaFly]

Hmm, my bf said it to me after like 2 or 3 months and I sorta freaked out. Not in front of him or anything like that, but I really questioned the sincerity behind those words since I wasn't so sure I felt it yet. Depends on the person though, some freak out majorly and feel trapped, while others can handle it in stride. Just don't make it uncomfortable for her, like when you part don't say "I love you" then add that dramatic pause and the puppy dog eyes, that causes the extreme cases of freak out.

 

[Koing]

Well its probably too soon but if thats the way you feel........

Maybe you should have waited longer.........

As for me I dont' say I love you to my girl first. I knew I loved her ages ago though, but didn't want to say it to her because I wanted to know if she loved me. We knew each other for about 3 years. Started seeing each other for about a year before going in to a relationship. After about 3 months she told me she loved me in a special way. Dam it was good!

Now as a rule I tell my friends don't tell a girl you love her. Wait until she feels comfortable with it. She will tell you if she does. After she told me she loved me I told her I loved her ages ago. I just wanted to hear her say it first.

 

[xSauronx]

gah
if you feel that way you feel that way, and if youre comfortable enough to say it then bravo
hell, even if she feels that way she may not be comfortable saying it so soon, some people get .... oh, nervous, just dont press her to say it, or shell kill you

 

[hzl eyed grl]

I didn't say it until I knew I meant it. I've got a habit of saying it soon into relationships. (Not that I didn't mean it when I said it.) I said it kind of early this time, but I waited until I felt like I wouldn't be able to breathe unless I said it. Make sense?

Anyway, give her time. If she feels the same way, she'll say it. It just takes time.

 

[PCMarine]

How old are you? If you're under 20 I will laugh.

 

[Howard]

If you have to ask, you probably did.

 

[Angrymarshmello]

Originally posted by: Mustangrrl
Whoa, why no relationships over three months?! Are you young?

22 in 2 months Being shy sucks. I've met a LOT of women since the beginning of the year, a rather large step for myself, however: I can't reciprocate the feelings of the women who like me or the women I like can't reciprocate the same feelings towards me

 

[Angrymarshmello]

Originally posted by: Mustangrrl
Whoa, why no relationships over three months?! Are you young?

22 in 2 months Being shy sucks. I've met a LOT of women since the beginning of the year, a rather large step for myself, however: I can't reciprocate the feelings of the women who like me or the women I like can't reciprocate the same feelings towards me

 

[Mustangrrl]

Originally posted by: Angrymarshmello

Originally posted by: Mustangrrl
Whoa, why no relationships over three months?! Are you young?

22 in 2 months Being shy sucks. I've met a LOT of women since the beginning of the year, a rather large step for myself, however: I can't reciprocate the feelings of the women who like me or the women I like can't reciprocate the same feelings towards me

Ah, I see... well I went through the boyfriends every couple of months myself when I was your age, I just wasn't in any position to cultivate a real relationship with anyone, I wasn't settled or grown myself, I didn't want to start something that I had no intention of finishing (or maintaining).

You'll meet the right person, even though you're shy -- you'll meet someone who you have no problem opening up to, that's how you'll know she's someone you can stick with for a while