YAGT: Did I creep her out?

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CaptainKahuna

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I've been going out with this girl for around a month, and I'm absolutely crazy about her. I was talking with one of her female friends and she told me that the feeling is mutal. Anyway, two days ago, on AIM (it was late, couldn't use the phone), we got into this weird conversation in French (I don't know French, used a translator, she only knows a bit). At the end, I told her I loved her, and she returned the complement. So I see her last night, and before she left, I kissed her and told her that I loved her, "in real life, in english". She kind of chuckled and gave me another hug, but never said anything back.

OK, this may seem kind of dumb. I'm trying to go slow with this girl, b/c I'd really like this to last, and I don't want to scare her off. Do you think a month is too early for "those three small words", or was I appropriate. And when I said those words, I was serious, not just saying 'em. If I wasnt appropriate, how do I recover?

THERE WILL BE NO NEFFING OR "JUST WHIP IT OUT" REPLIES

Ah, I should clarify, we've been dating for 1.5 months, but I've known her as a friend for about 6 months.
 
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isekii

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THERE WILL BE NO NEFFING OR "JUST WHIP IT OUT" REPLIES"[/quote]

lol

Um... I think you should slow down by a lot.
It seems as the feeling isn't mutual for her ... you can love somebody as a friend or such
but there is a whole other level of love. and I doubt you've reached that yet.

are you guys dating exclusively ? friendship with benefits ? what exactly is it ?
 
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isaacmacdonald

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probably didn't "creep her out", but slow the fuct down. Most people don't want to here clingy stuff at the onset of a realtionship.
 
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AgaBoogaBoo

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Originally posted by: CaptainKahuna
Originally posted by: WinkOsmosis
You creeped her out in French AND English! Good going. Best I can manage is English.
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Then what do I do to recover?
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Do it over in Spanish and Japanese. Also, When In Doubt, Whip It Out! ;)
 
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Frankly it's impossible to tell without being in your predicament. However since she did not reciprocate this time I WOULD NOT say it again for a while. Let things work up that way. Do not say it again for a while. And a while isn't 5 days. It's like months. Give it time.
 
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WinkOsmosis

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Maybe you should tell her you are sorry about saying something that made her uncomfortable... I don't know jack sh!t about women though.
 
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Lonyo

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Just don't mention it again, kinda brush it under the carpet (the one on the floor :p) and just act like it was never said, unless it's something that is talked about or whatever.
 
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dpm

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Just relax. You've said it, you mean it, and she knows it. Some people take longer than others to get to that stage. Just give her a bit of time to come to terms with it, and see if she doesn't bring it up herself soon.
 
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Gage8

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You seem to be doing fine. Keep going and see what her reaction is. It is hard to tell girl's reactions so don't take it as a negative thing unless it is obvious. Most girls like a guy who doesn't give up easily
 
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brigden

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My current girlfriend told me she loved me after only a month or two of dating. It went like this:

Her: I have something to tell you, but I'm afraid to say it.
Me: That's OK. Go ahead.
Her: I love you, and I always have loved you.
Me: Wow. I don't know what to say. I don't think I can say that back just yet.
Her: It's OK. I know, but I wanted to say it.

We'd known each other for two years at this point and she's always had a mad crush on me. Anyway, the point is, she told me long before I could, but I was flattered, not creeped out. I told her when I was ready and truly felt it. We've been together for a year now. It's awesome.

Give it time.
 
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Encryptic

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I'd say you went a little too fast (for this girl, not in general). I would just take it easy for now and see if she reciprocates your feelings. Hope it works out for the best....
 
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DDCSpeed

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not necessarily but give her time to be comfortable...

its the situation where you love her and she doesnt know yet....usually its the other way around
 
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Anghang

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only been with her for a month?...yea...your moving quick...sloooooooooooooooow doooooown......right now you both are just in the honeymoon phase...usually lasts several months, maybe longer...but after it's over and after all the sparks settle down..that's when the true test will be of whether you two are really compatible with each other....

if she doesn't say it back..dun worry bout it...she'll say it when she's ready...and for you...don't say it too or just don't say it at all from here on...cuz if you say it too much, it'll lose it's meaning...
 
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MercenaryForHire

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Originally posted by: BDawg
Originally posted by: guyver01
Originally posted by: FrustratedUser
Just whip it out.
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I disagree...you should just st@...wait...never mind. :)
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What if he whips it out and st@bs her with that? :Q

BTW, "nef" also.

Come on, you can't post YAGT without expecting this kind of response. :p

Oh, and for the actual advice?

If you have to ask if you creeped her out, you did. "I love you" after a month? Give her some time to think about it, mull you over as a potential long-term mate, uNf your best friend a few times to get it out of her system ... you know, the usual.

- M4H
 
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Lager

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I don't think you creeped her out. At least you were open with your feelings. Maybe she is just letting it all sink in. It's not like she said "Don't tell me you love me" or anything.

 
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