YAGT: Cancel date?

[Triforceofcourage]

I just asked this girl out for Saturday night and she said she probably could go out if she doesn't get tickets for a Halloween party with her brother because if she does then she is going. She said she will let me know later today.

Should I just cancel with her even if she does say yes later today?

Triforce

Update1:

Bitch never called me back tonight........

Update:2

Called me up just now, apologized for not calling me last night and said she can get tickets but would prefer to see me tonight and she will see her family tomorrow. So I am picking her up at 7

Update:3

Took her out to dinner, then mini golf, then finished off the night at the beach. It went pretty well. I took her home and kissed her goodnight on the lips. Nothing to crazy, but still on the lips. I am going to call her tomorrow and invite her over to watch a movie Saturday night.

 

[MisterJackson]

It's with her brother, no big deal. You're plan B though

 

[SmoochyTX]

Just wait and see what happens. You asked her out too late in the week for a Saturday night date anyway so you should have assumed going into it that she might have plans.

Next time, give her another couple of days in advance for Saturday night. If she says she can't go tomorrow night with you, ask her if she'd like to get dinner or something on Monday or Tuesday night.

ETA - Or dinner Sunday night since Tuesday is Halloween.

 

[hypn0tik]

My gf of slightly less than 3 years prioritizes her family over me. I end up being plan B sometimes. I find it completely understandable and nothing to worry about. Family > *

 

[sixone]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Just wait and see what happens. You asked her out too late in the week for a Saturday night date anyway so you should have assumed going into it that she might have plans.

Next time, give her another couple of days in advance for Saturday night. If she says she can't go tomorrow night with you, ask her if she'd like to get dinner or something on Monday or Tuesday night.

Good advice.

 

[JDMnAR1]

If you cancel after she has worked you in to her weekend schedule on short notice, you may have just blown your only chance.

 

[krunchykrome]

Meh, if she was really interested, you would come before her brother and the party. Sorry, you are the backup plan, which means you're more interested than she is.

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Originally posted by: JDMnAR1
If you cancel after she has worked you in to her weekend schedule on short notice, you may have just blown your only chance.

I know, I just don't like the idea of being this girls backup plan. Plus on our first date she was kind of quiet and I didn't feel any sparks with her but she seems shy. Since she is shy I figured I would give her another chance to open up a bit.

Something rubs me the wrong way about her basically wanting to do something else and I am the concellation prize for obvious reasons.

 

[theknight571]

I agree more with the "you asked late in the week" line of thinking.

If she says she can't go, mention that you realize you asked a little to close to the weekend, and see if she'd like to do something later in the week or next weekend.

That way you show understanding, and you'll then find out wether she's interested or not.

BTW... I was plan B for awhile when my wife and I started dating... I eventually worked my way up to plan A.

 

[Wapp]

Originally posted by: theknight571
I agree more with the "you asked late in the week" line of thinking.

If she says she can't go, mention that you realize you asked a little to close to the weekend, and see if she'd like to do something later in the week or next weekend.

That way you show understanding, and you'll then find out wether she's interested or not.

This guy knows what he is talking about.

 

[Baked]

She's in love with her brother, you need to look else where.

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Originally posted by: theknight571
I agree more with the "you asked late in the week" line of thinking.

If she says she can't go, mention that you realize you asked a little to close to the weekend, and see if she'd like to do something later in the week or next weekend.

That way you show understanding, and you'll then find out wether she's interested or not.

BTW... I was plan B for awhile when my wife and I started dating... I eventually worked my way up to plan A.

She did suggest we do something in the afternoon if she can't at night. I always thought that day dates weren't a good sign though??

 

[Wapp]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage

Originally posted by: theknight571
I agree more with the "you asked late in the week" line of thinking.

If she says she can't go, mention that you realize you asked a little to close to the weekend, and see if she'd like to do something later in the week or next weekend.

That way you show understanding, and you'll then find out wether she's interested or not.

BTW... I was plan B for awhile when my wife and I started dating... I eventually worked my way up to plan A.

She did suggest we do something in the afternoon if she can't at night. I always thought that day dates weren't a good sign though??

Not at all. Try taking her out someplace besides dinner if you want her to open up. Try mini-golf or something interactive besides dinner and a movie.

 

[Billzie7718]

He who cares the least wins.

If she blows you off on Sat., wait for HER to call YOU. If she doesn't ... move on.

 

[snoopdoug1]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
I just asked this girl out for Saturday night and she said she probably could go out if she doesn't get tickets for a Halloween party with her brother because if she does then she is going. She said she will let me know later today.

Should I just cancel with her even if she does say yes later today?

Triforce

Either way, don't talk in run-on sentences

 

[rudder]

Are you in West Virginia?

 

[yowolabi]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage

Originally posted by: theknight571
I agree more with the "you asked late in the week" line of thinking.

If she says she can't go, mention that you realize you asked a little to close to the weekend, and see if she'd like to do something later in the week or next weekend.

That way you show understanding, and you'll then find out wether she's interested or not.

BTW... I was plan B for awhile when my wife and I started dating... I eventually worked my way up to plan A.

She did suggest we do something in the afternoon if she can't at night. I always thought that day dates weren't a good sign though??

This is a positive sign for her. A girl with low interest would just say, "i think I have plans". A girl with high interest says, "i have plans, but let's do this instead".

There's nothing wrong with a girl you just started dating not cancelling something with family on short notice. You would be sabotaging yourself to hold this against her.

 

[theknight571]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage

Originally posted by: theknight571
I agree more with the "you asked late in the week" line of thinking.

If she says she can't go, mention that you realize you asked a little to close to the weekend, and see if she'd like to do something later in the week or next weekend.

That way you show understanding, and you'll then find out wether she's interested or not.

BTW... I was plan B for awhile when my wife and I started dating... I eventually worked my way up to plan A.

She did suggest we do something in the afternoon if she can't at night. I always thought that day dates weren't a good sign though??

Why would that be?

I say go for the afternoon date, and while you're there, plan something later in the week.

The won't be the last time you compete with family for time.

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Originally posted by: theknight571

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage

Originally posted by: theknight571
I agree more with the "you asked late in the week" line of thinking.

If she says she can't go, mention that you realize you asked a little to close to the weekend, and see if she'd like to do something later in the week or next weekend.

That way you show understanding, and you'll then find out wether she's interested or not.

BTW... I was plan B for awhile when my wife and I started dating... I eventually worked my way up to plan A.

She did suggest we do something in the afternoon if she can't at night. I always thought that day dates weren't a good sign though??

Why would that be?

I say go for the afternoon date, and while you're there, plan something later in the week.

The won't be the last time you compete with family for time.

Sounds like a good idea, hopefully she opens up this time around otherwise it will be crazy boring. God damn, quit being so shy!!

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
I just asked this girl out for Saturday night and she said she probably could go out if she doesn't get tickets for a Halloween party with her brother because if she does then she is going. She said she will let me know later today.

Should I just cancel with her even if she does say yes later today?

Triforce

Why cancel?....

Just reschedule it for another night, and leave it open and tell her if plans change that she can call you on Saturday. If her plans change and she calls and you aren't busy with your other friends, why not just hang out?

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: SmoochyTX
Just wait and see what happens. You asked her out too late in the week for a Saturday night date anyway so you should have assumed going into it that she might have plans.

Next time, give her another couple of days in advance for Saturday night. If she says she can't go tomorrow night with you, ask her if she'd like to get dinner or something on Monday or Tuesday night.

ETA - Or dinner Sunday night since Tuesday is Halloween.

Good advice

**Moral of the Story**
When dating a girl and not going steady, plan, plan ahead. Don't tell the girl all the details of the plan, but let her know you have something planned out in advanced (be open to doing something spontaneous though).

When you are in a steady relationship, the planning will more than likely work itself out since you spend so much time together as it is.

 

[zebano]

The afternoon mini golf is an excellent idea. As an alternative or take here fishing, but don't be suprised if she doesn't like it (the former idea is way better than the latter).

 

[Triforceofcourage]

Update:

Bitch never called me back tonight........

 

[SmoochyTX]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage
Update:

Bitch never called me back tonight........

Then forget it. Sounds like you only went out on one date with her anyway and wasn't too impressed. No reason to get so worked up about it.

Go out and have some fun with your friends.

 

[DainBramaged]

Originally posted by: Triforceofcourage

Originally posted by: JDMnAR1
If you cancel after she has worked you in to her weekend schedule on short notice, you may have just blown your only chance.

Something rubs me the wrong way about her basically wanting to do something else and I am the concellation prize for obvious reasons.

WTF...what part of "she might have already had plans" do you not understand? She might even *want* to go with you but is honoring something that she previously committed to. With her *brother,* for Christ's sake. :roll:

Also, learn to spell "consolation."