YAGT - Best thing about Breaking up is never talking to them again

[DaShen]

Depends on why you broke up and if you two were really freinds to begin with. But yeah, any girl I go out with and then break-up can talk to me, as long as they don't try to play mind-games.

 

[archiloco]

Originally posted by: MichaelD

Originally posted by: archiloco

Originally posted by: MichaelD

basically i decided i did not want to lead her on because she was not the one, was not going to keep on trying to see if things would get better, sometimes there is a good spark at the beginning and that's it. this was the case, she did not deserve me leading her on if i was not going to take the next step.

I don't know how old you are, so I'm not trying to pat you on the back for being "like a big person."

That was a very adult thing of you to do. :thumbsup: I wish I had that wisdom years ago.

Being that you're not interested at all, it was good that you didn't buy into the small talk and you kept the convo short and sweet.

thanks i think that's my downfall i think thing thru so much, could experience life a bit more if i did not weigh all options before doing something, was last year i was 26 she was 25, she was really starting to hint into starting a family "now"

In early 1995, I did NOT think things through. I went on my 4th, 5th or 10th...can't remember...booty call with my ex-gf.

I hated her. I REALLY did. But, it was an easy piece of @ss. No strings, no questions.

Guess what? She stopped taking the pill and didn't tell me. REALLY.

9 months later I had a son adn 18 years of child support. Really.

Think things through, my friend. For the sake of your sanity and wallet, think it through. Though I do love my son very much, the agony I've been put through over the past 11 years was not worth it in my opinion.

That said, I'm now engaged to a wonderful woman, and I'm looking forward to a second shot at fatherhood with her. The right way.

whoa, but a happy ending still kinda hard way to get there, but glad you did. right now i am in looserville population me, hehe need to go out and meet chicks

 

[Conky]

Originally posted by: BD2003
Unless I am absolutely forced to, I'll never say another word to any of my ex's, and be all the better for it.

This is the best approach. :thumbsup:

 

[ryan256]

I still talk with my last 2 ex's. The last one and I are still in the same social circles. We have alot of friends in common. For the first few months I ignored her completely and wouldn't even acknowledge her presence. Yes, she dumped me. Apparently this really got to her. We have since talked and agreed to patch things up on a sense. We're friendly and courteous to each other but thats about it.
The one before her I still talk with as she calls me on occasion. In a way the two of us have still be able to remain friends. Its kinda weird as she and my sister happen to be good friends. This one I dumped. Mainly because I couldn't see the relationship going anywhere and it wasn't fair to her to string her along.

 

[QuEeNyGuRl]

We didn't talk for 4 years until recently. Not talking help us get over each other. Now that we do talk, it's merely a friendly relationship.

 

[moshquerade]

It's a waste of energy to try and avoid them. I'll say "hi, how ya doin'" if we meet in passing, but not get into it any more than that.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
It's a waste of energy to try and avoid them. I'll say "hi, how ya doin'" if we meet in passing, but not get into it any more than that.

It really does depend on the situation and how and why you broke up.

 

[zebano]

I would say you handled that well. There is no reason to be spiteful and deny her the info, and you did the right thing in avoiding the small talk.

 

[CKent]

1) People who make their thread question and poll question opposites should be shot. With a paintball gun (I'm not that insane... yet).

2) The best part of breaking up is the friends with benefits status afterward. All the nookie, none of the incessant nagging, blabbing and money devouring.

 

[CrazyHelloDeli]

The best part of breaking up, is Folgers in your cup!

 

[Lonyo]

I don't talk to any of my exes unless I'm drunk.