YAGT: anyone ever had a succesful long distance relationship
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Yes, working great so far...
Have been at least 3 hours away from each other the whole time... Just had our 2 year's on the 18th...
Works fine as long as both people are willing to make it work.
Have been at least 3 hours away from each other the whole time... Just had our 2 year's on the 18th...
Works fine as long as both people are willing to make it work.
I've had two experiences with long-distance relationships. The first was actually with the second woman I'd ever been involved with and still had feelings for. We hadn't dated for a while at this point, but when she was off at college, she decided that I was really the one she wanted to spend the rest of her life with.
We had a pretty serious correspondence going on (by written mail; this was before email was ubiquitous) and fun little packages and thinking-of-you trinkets going back and forth. It was a lovely time, like something you'd have in a romantic novel, and finally she came back from college and promptly decided, "oh, never mind." So, we never did manage to live out any of the various romantic moments I'd been planning for real.
The second one was quite a few years later, and it started with someone writing to me in email. It was just friendly at first, but it grew from there. She was very enthusiastic, writing me long letters several times a day and pushing for more of a relationship, while I was dragging my heels, telling her that I think we really needed to meet for real before getting too far into these things.
She made plans to come out and, abruptly, about ten days before the trip, suddenly didn't have time to write any more. She did show up and I ended up giving her a place to stay and driving her around, but she'd made plans to be with someone else. She was nice enough, but obviously it didn't turn into a relationship in person. The guy she did hook up with on the trip seemed like a great guy, though it didn't end up going beyond a fling for the two of them. He even came to a few of the parties I hosted in the years after she'd gone on her way.
We had a pretty serious correspondence going on (by written mail; this was before email was ubiquitous) and fun little packages and thinking-of-you trinkets going back and forth. It was a lovely time, like something you'd have in a romantic novel, and finally she came back from college and promptly decided, "oh, never mind." So, we never did manage to live out any of the various romantic moments I'd been planning for real.
The second one was quite a few years later, and it started with someone writing to me in email. It was just friendly at first, but it grew from there. She was very enthusiastic, writing me long letters several times a day and pushing for more of a relationship, while I was dragging my heels, telling her that I think we really needed to meet for real before getting too far into these things.
She made plans to come out and, abruptly, about ten days before the trip, suddenly didn't have time to write any more. She did show up and I ended up giving her a place to stay and driving her around, but she'd made plans to be with someone else. She was nice enough, but obviously it didn't turn into a relationship in person. The guy she did hook up with on the trip seemed like a great guy, though it didn't end up going beyond a fling for the two of them. He even came to a few of the parties I hosted in the years after she'd gone on her way.
define successful. heh.
I had a long distance relationship in college with the person I had been dating in high school... it ended badly, but the breakup had nothing to do with the distance. I just woke up one morning and realized what an egocentric, neurotic schmuck he was
I had a long distance relationship in college with the person I had been dating in high school... it ended badly, but the breakup had nothing to do with the distance. I just woke up one morning and realized what an egocentric, neurotic schmuck he was
Don Vito Corleone
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I kinda like LD relationships, actually. I think in many ways they're easier than local ones, as long as there's light at the end of the tunnel (i.e., you will foreseeably end up in the same place before TOO long).
1st - this is a repost
2nd - yes she went to japan for 4 months and then 10 months later went to England for 3 months. There was an adjustment period, but we're happy.
2nd - yes she went to japan for 4 months and then 10 months later went to England for 3 months. There was an adjustment period, but we're happy.
how did you meet, and did you know the person for a long time before the relationship became long distance?
I maintained a long-distance relationship for 4 years. I was finally able to bring her into the states, and we are now going strong into the fourth year of marriage, and a kid under way!
Edit: quick story on how we met
We met in my home city, before I left. We were in a relationship for about a year before I left for the US. I thought, it was over, but a couple of weeks after I arrived into the US, I started calling her. Then we met in Prague. Then in Paris. Then all over Europe (I couldn't go back where I came from), and finally got married in Europe. We met every 3-4 months or so. I worked my @ss off to have money for the tickets and travel expenses. Finally, we married in Finland, and a year later, she came over here as well.
Edit: quick story on how we met
We met in my home city, before I left. We were in a relationship for about a year before I left for the US. I thought, it was over, but a couple of weeks after I arrived into the US, I started calling her. Then we met in Prague. Then in Paris. Then all over Europe (I couldn't go back where I came from), and finally got married in Europe. We met every 3-4 months or so. I worked my @ss off to have money for the tickets and travel expenses. Finally, we married in Finland, and a year later, she came over here as well.
Ahahahaha.
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Well, on... ahahaha. Yeah, she cheated on me within a month. Can't say I blame her, as I would've broken up with her within two months. I've seen one couple do it and they were definitely an exception.
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'scuse me.
Well, on... ahahaha. Yeah, she cheated on me within a month. Can't say I blame her, as I would've broken up with her within two months. I've seen one couple do it and they were definitely an exception.
JulesMaximus
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I had one that was 200 miles once. It didn't last more than 1 month or so.
Hell, I knew a couple who were married, he lived in San Diego, she in West Los Angeles (I worked with her). They had a great relationship while they both lived in different cities. As soon as she moved down to San Diego it was over in 6 months.
Your relationship is doomed. Might as well start looking for a new ghost...er I mean girlfriend now.
Hell, I knew a couple who were married, he lived in San Diego, she in West Los Angeles (I worked with her). They had a great relationship while they both lived in different cities. As soon as she moved down to San Diego it was over in 6 months.
Your relationship is doomed. Might as well start looking for a new ghost...er I mean girlfriend now.
I knew a couple that had a great long distance relationship--she was in California and he was in Texas. Her family was relatively rich so she flew back home to Texas relatively often (once or twice a month) and they seemed to be very happy and very much in love. She left LA and moved back home for him and to find a job. After moving back home for a month, she actually broke up with him because she said he was smothering her...
I guess this is one of those cases where the long distance was beneficial to the relationship...What's the saying?...Distance makes the heart grow fonder?
Cheers.
I guess this is one of those cases where the long distance was beneficial to the relationship...What's the saying?...Distance makes the heart grow fonder?
Cheers.
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Depends on what type of people you are. I am the kind of person who needs to be around their SO a lot, and I'm lucky I found a woman who felt the same way. We met on campus at my university, we celebrated our first year together a month ago, and we've been living together for 5 of those months. On top of that, our families live in the same small town, and we're always at each other's homes when we're not at our apartment near the university.
Prior to her, I had two serious relationships. One girl moved away (across the entire country) and we mutually agreed not to stay together, even though we still loved each other for years after the relationship ended.
The other ex was a needy b1tch, but the fact that we lived at different universities one hour away from each other put a lot of unneeded strain on me. Wasted a lot of gas that year.
Prior to her, I had two serious relationships. One girl moved away (across the entire country) and we mutually agreed not to stay together, even though we still loved each other for years after the relationship ended.
The other ex was a needy b1tch, but the fact that we lived at different universities one hour away from each other put a lot of unneeded strain on me. Wasted a lot of gas that year.
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