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YAGT - A friend's first adventure in love (RANT/LONG READ)

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she's 200 lbs... mopes around the house in animal excrement... and a complete b*tch.

what do you think................?
 
It sounds like the GF is comfortable with the Psycho Hose Beast role, and Friend gets something out of being a doormat. Some people are like that; trying to understand or change them is an exercise in futility.
 
Originally posted by: PanzerIV
Good Lord this is one of the worst cases of whimpdom I have ever perused. Does he have a backbone? Self esteem issues perhaps? It's so glaringly obvious she's extremely unstable and will never amount to anything and is definitely not a match for him.

If he won't listen to anyone he deserves the misery he gets. Hopefully sooner rather than later he will wake up and see there are better women out there who won't try to make him feel like sh!t.
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haha whimpdom,
So sad that it's true.
 
It seems pretty apparent that your friend has self-esteem issues and feels that a fat, controlling bitch is the best he can do. He needs to realize that she's a cancer that's consuming him slowly, and the best thing to do with cancer is remove it completely. If he lets her stick around even in a friend capacity she'll likely continue to berate him and keep his self-esteem low.

He needs to realize that he met one girl online and he should just use this same venue to meet another (less psychotic) girl. That seems to be one good way to approach this, since he doesn't seem like someone that has the balls to go to a club and pick up a woman.
 
Your friend has some SERIOUS psychological issues to not only put up with but actively seek out a person like that. Your hints that his family is "not the best" indicate that he probably grew up in a fvcked up environment and is consequently seeking to recreate the chaos.

Clearly he needs to get this woman out of his life and seek counseling as well. I really don't know how you should approach this situation, as he may interpret your concern as "betrayal" and isolate himself from you, plunging himself further into the destructive relationship. Best of luck, and I hope you can convince him to do the right thing.
 
The GF is right, he is a retard. He must be for wanting anything to do with a girl like that in the first place, and worse yet, wanting to remain friends with it.
 
Originally posted by: dabuddha
Originally posted by: cKGunslinger
Does she have sort of "magical vagina" that would make your friend want to stay with her? 😕
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BWHAHAHAHAHA sorry that one made me laugh. She is "over weight" but according to Friend, she's lost about 15 pounds or so.
One of her famous lines which I liked was GF would tell Friend that she knows when she's ovulating so she knows when to stop having sex so they don't have to use protection.

I set him straight on that one real fast. I'm hoping reading these comments will help him realize what kind of person she really is. He's been doing real good for himself. He's almost done with his masters and has almost enough money to purchase a house for himself in cash. He's worked so hard to get where he is (his family is not the greatest)
He tells me he has a fear of being alone but I always say it's better to be alone than to be in a relationship like this.
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Yeah, it's a lot easier for us to sit back and tell him that he should leave, without knowing the full details of his relationship. That said, it's hard to imagine any "good things" that could overshadow all the negative ones.

Leaving something "stable" for the unknown is often scary, especially for certain people, but in this case, I suggest he buck-up and take the plunge.
 
For Friend:
Run, run, far, far away. Avoid all contact. Change phone numbers, email addresses, and screen names. Move if feasible.
 
How long do you have to live together to count as common-law? B/c he better get moving and kick that woman out before that happens, otherwise it'll be a lot harder to get rid of her.
 
Originally posted by: Kalbi
as much as i hate the bitch gf, i think she's right about your friend being retarded
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I agree. She may be evil incarnate, but he's the one choosing to stay with her. He's been warned, now he deserves whatever he gets.

 
I have asked him to talk to a counsellor. I told him it couldn't hurt and he will probably learn a lot. He did grow up in a "troubled" home. In his family, everyone tends to shout at each other all the time. You'd have to be there to understand.
He does try to avoid conflict whenever possible which could be a result of this.

As for GF, she's already left him and went back to her home. He's been tempted to call her a few times and I've talked him out of it so far. I'm going to push the idea of talking to a counselor. I've told him that it's her loss and I guarantee that she'll come crawling back. I tell him that he's worked hard to get where he is and he deserves respect from others. I've told him that no one has the right to talk to him that way and even if he doesn't mind, he shouldn't allow it.
 
Your friend must really be desperate for some action, has a codependency problem or both.
The bitch is right, he is a retard.
 
ahh, first love. I'm glad i'm not there any more.

couldn't you have given "friend" a name? sally and jane have names.

steps to solve the problem:
help "friend" clean his apartment.
set up "friend" on a date with jane.

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