• We’re currently investigating an issue related to the forum theme and styling that is impacting page layout and visual formatting. The problem has been identified, and we are actively working on a resolution. There is no impact to user data or functionality, this is strictly a front-end display issue. We’ll post an update once the fix has been deployed. Thanks for your patience while we get this sorted.

YABT (the first?): Conflicted - who to chose?

Page 2 - Seeking answers? Join the AnandTech community: where nearly half-a-million members share solutions and discuss the latest tech.
Trust would be a huge issue with Gabriel. He has a history of cheating.

Youth is the issue with Kyle.

Who does your heart want?
 
Since when does a person ever have to choose between two people. It's not like it's a dating game and they are forcing you to choose between suitor #1 or suitor #2.

If you don't feel completely comfortable about either of them, then choose neither. Stop jerking them around.

One's young and you almost seem like you treat him like a novelty. The other is a self admitted womanizer.

 
I would definitely go with Kyle.

Doesn't anyone think it's weird that Gabriel FOUND your xanga? (hello cyber stalker???) 😛
Plus he's a cheater. Sounds like he knows how to sweet talk too. Can't trust those!

Kyle on the otherhand, sounds like a sweet and fun guy. But yeah..age will probably be a problem at some point (or maybe not, depends on you reallly). I don't think either relationship will last but if you are just looking for some fun....stick with Kyle. It's skiing season. 🙂
 
How about tell both of them you are not ready yet, and if they want to be with you, they will have to be patient. I think if they really like you, they would understand your circumstances.

If one of them bows out, then you have your answer.

I will say though, walking around with a monkey on your shoulder would make me turn my head. Any girl who appreciates a monkey, is someone I will take home to meet mom.
 
I would have given you a valid answer. But you put a monkey option in there! I had to vote for the monkey... it just wouldn't have been right otherwise.

Let me pretend this is a yagt for a second. Well.... I wouldn't be able to trust girl1 with a known history of cheating. The relationship would have to advance slowly. I'd probably enjoy spending time with girl2 because she seems to have more fun and doesn't need to get sloshed at a club to be enjoying herself.

I am not much help...
 
Originally posted by: Dezign
I spoke to Gabriel about my concern re: the cheating issue, and he said he felt those times occurred because the girls started to "close in on his space". He said because I give a lot of space, he doesn't think he'll cheat on me, and that he believes he's "grown out of it." But from past experience, I'm aware of the "once a cheater, always a cheater" philosophy.

Thanks for your thoughtful feedback... after thinking about things some more, I'm leaning strongly towards Kyle. Plus, Kyle lives 5-10 minutes away, and Gabriel lives about 40 minutes away.
Click to expand...
Yeah, I'm sure Gabriel won't cheat on you. Your relationship will definitely be different.
rolleye.gif


Pick Kyle. Unless you are significantly older than him and enjoy going to clubs and bars where he can't get in.
Click to expand...
 
Originally posted by: weezergirl
I would definitely go with Kyle.

Doesn't anyone think it's weird that Gabriel FOUND your xanga? (hello cyber stalker???) 😛
Click to expand...

Google makes finding anything easy. I once found 2 pictures of myself on the web that were like 5 years old. I bet you could find Dezign's Xanga by either typing in "Dezign" or "Her Real Name".
 
spoke to Gabriel about my concern re: the cheating issue, and he said he felt those times occurred because the girls started to "close in on his space".
Click to expand...


I'd never trust someone who claims their cheating was the other persons fault.
 
Hmm since Gabriel has cheated on all his girlfriends, you might not be the exception. Stay away from that pr0n star. Kyle seems like a kool kiddo, but maturity is still a big issue. In my observation, definitely girls are more mature then males and the maturity might make things complicated, besides the monkey sex.

The whole situation depends on what you want. You want a geeky friend to hang around with, or a young guy with no experience?

Do you want a relationship or do you just want to date? You don't seem the type to have problems meeting people and so its my opinion that you should wait, and look for the perfect guy to get into a relationship with and just date those fools. Besides, they don't even know you to be asking you to be their girlfriend so soon.

Peace.

EDIT: oh also, forget about the friends with benefits. Sure the initial monkey sex is great but it never works and usually one will end up being the emotional wreck. Believe you me.
 
You know half the guys here are gonna vote for Kyle because they're also college freshman that think Dezign is hot 😀
 
BEST ADVICE HERE:

Gabriel is starting to play you. He knows how to work women and he seems very good at it. You will feel special and have a good relationship until he gets sick of it and cheats and/or leaves you.

Kyle sounds like a lot of fun but seeing how he is still in college will probably end up bored with you after a while (or vice versa) and he will want to do typical college stuff like dating around.

To sum it up: Neither "Gabe" (can I call him that, I feel like I know him already😉 ) nor Kyle seem like they are exactly what you are looking for so you should tell them both that you are not ready for an exclusive relationship (at least it sounds like you are not ready) with either one and would like to continue to date both of them for the time being. If one pushes you to be exclusive or says he can't do that and threatens to leave you if you don't decide then you know which one is actually looking out for your interests and is willing to work with and wait for you.
 
um. no offense but they both have major problems w/ maturity.
1) the dude has issues cheating. once a cheater, always a cheater. (ask me how i know.) and no your not the one exception.
2) The other dude is too damn young. yes he's legal, but I bet anything he will show maturity issues.

attention when he offers repeated excitement.
 
The monkey is still ahead!

[chant] Mon-key, Mon-key, Mon-key ....... [/chant]

BTW, has anyone considered the fact that Gabriel, the cheater, could be cheating right now? On another g/f? With Dezign?
 
Not exactly a plethora of romantics here. I think too many posters are afraid that when they finally get a gf she'll cheat and they'll be left all alone for the rest of their lives. My feeling is that if you're looking for passion rather than a stable long term relationship, you should go where your heart leads. As pointed out above, you wrote 2x as much about good ol' gabe, and you referred to the other one as adorable. This says gabe to me.
 
I just know a lot of guys are voting "neither" because they don't want you to date anyone, thinking they have a chance or something...

Anyways, I voted monkey but going out with the freshman isn't so bad just to have fun. You're only young once.
 
Kyle. Since Gabriel has cheated and will cheat again. Age can be an issue with Kyle but there are plenty of fun things to do besides clubbing and drinking.

Knowing nothing of their personalities, go with the person, you feel more comfortable around.

I voted neither because its too early to make a decision on going out exclusively.
 
I chose neither.

Gabriel: Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't you think he has done those sweet nothings before with his former girlfriends that he has cheated on? Once his fire for you burns dimmer, he'll be back to his old self again. Stay friends with him but nothing more. Oh and I think it's kind of bothersome that he didn't finish high school but that's just me.

Kyle: Too young, imo. Not 21 yet, so that limits him to many things. I think he's still in his "fun" stage and I doubt it'll be wearing off anytime soon. I don't know him so I can't make an honest judgement of his character but I can't see him taking the relationship too seriously, especially being in a frat exposed to all these girls.
 
I think the real question is whether or not you will take any of our advice and actually do it. Most often then not, you will follow your emotional instincts or animal instincts.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

TRENDING THREADS

Back
Top