YABT (the first?): Conflicted - who to chose?

[Jetblade]

Originally posted by: isaacmacdonald
Not exactly a plethora of romantics here. I think too many posters are afraid that when they finally get a gf she'll cheat and they'll be left all alone for the rest of their lives. My feeling is that if you're looking for passion rather than a stable long term relationship, you should go where your heart leads. As pointed out above, you wrote 2x as much about good ol' gabe, and you referred to the other one as adorable. This says gabe to me.

Sometimes the heart makes the wrong choices. I don't recommend trusting your heart 100%

 

[PeeluckyDuckee]

Ditch the cheater. You really think you're the exception in this case? Don't set yourself up to be hurt if the relationship does get deeper and more emotionally attached.

You don't have to choose either. That's an option as well.

 

[Mathcop]

Come on everybody! The monkey has over 20 votes and I'm the only one cheering for the little primate? Let's hear some love for the monkey.

 

[isaacmacdonald]

Originally posted by: Jetblade

Originally posted by: isaacmacdonald
Not exactly a plethora of romantics here. I think too many posters are afraid that when they finally get a gf she'll cheat and they'll be left all alone for the rest of their lives. My feeling is that if you're looking for passion rather than a stable long term relationship, you should go where your heart leads. As pointed out above, you wrote 2x as much about good ol' gabe, and you referred to the other one as adorable. This says gabe to me.

Sometimes the heart makes the wrong choices. I don't recommend trusting your heart 100%

If you don't take risks, you're not likely to get high returns. In this case, the worst case scenario sounds like "loved and lost" which as they say is better.

 

[Wuffsunie]

I said neither.

Gabriel is an admitted chronic cheater, and since you know that fact it'll colour your entire relationship from this point forward, especially at the first year mark. All women I know store nuggets like that in the back of their heads and let it eat at them from time to time. I agree with those who say that if you choose him expect a universal pimp slap from the lot of us if you come back complaining that he "accidently" slipped and stuck it in another woman. Really, you wanted a cuddle buddy and since that's what he answered for you shouldn't let it go beyond that. Actually, looking over your post about him, how he demonstrated "if it's on the Internet, I can find it" coupled with his self-destructive relationship tendencies and all the attention he's showering you with, not to mention the fact that he wanted you to commit to him and him only, I'm seeing shades of potential stalker. Really not good.

As for Kyle... bad move there also. 19, frosh in college, no real place of his own, and not of legal age for the more fun things down there. Also, you're how old again? Just want a number to really balance my assessment of this. If you really want a cuddle buddy, Kyle is the better option, because in his world, relationships such as yours are very rarely permanent.

In the end, I don't either them or you are ready for a real realtionship at this point.

-- Jack

"Why do we see each other?"
"It beats being lonely."
-- Garfield

 

[Aquaman]

Once a cheater always a cheat.............. no matter how he makes you feel that will always be in the back of your mind.

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[Konigin]

I guess it depends on what kind of relationship you want, but Gabriel sounds like a loser. Kyle sounds like the best choice of of the two.