Writing a letter to someone in prison

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Gooberlx2

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If you're inclined, putting some money on his commissary, along with the letter, would be a generous gesture. A few $$ can really make a difference to an inmate...like being able to buy extra toilet paper, or toothpaste.
 

Regs

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10 steps to the left, 9 steps forward, 10 feet up the steam shaft but 10 seconds just before the pressure release (and you only have 20 seconds to climb out before being severely burned), take the drainage ditch 300 yards north, and there should be a boat waiting for you with clean cloths.
 

TechBoyJK

Lifer
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If you're inclined, putting some money on his commissary, along with the letter, would be a generous gesture. A few $$ can really make a difference to an inmate...like being able to buy extra toilet paper, or toothpaste.

thanks. good idea
 

TechBoyJK

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10 steps to the left, 9 steps forward, 10 feet up the steam shaft but 10 seconds just before the pressure release (and you only have 20 seconds to climb out before being severely burned), take the drainage ditch 300 yards north, and there should be a boat waiting for you with clean cloths.

HAHAHAH would be funny but i wonder if they would see the humour in that. Im pretty sure they read all letters before the inmates get them.
 

TechBoyJK

Lifer
Oct 17, 2002
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Do you see the location under my username? Much like honesty, I know reading isn't a strength of yours, but come on dude its not that hard is it?

Your current location doesn't say anything about where you come from. If reading was a strength, you would have read where I acknowledged I didn't even know exactly why he was in prison. Yet you still went off calling me a liar and acting you pwned me or some crap. pretty juvenile. like a jersey shore fist pumping brat.. lol
 

TheVrolok

Lifer
Dec 11, 2000
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If that part is true then it's a great example of why you should never, ever, ever talk to the police if you're suspected of anything. Unbelievable how some people will talk their way right into prison. If the cops even suspect that you've done something, regardless of whether you're innocent or guilty, the only word that you should say to them is "lawyer."

Very true ^^. If I were ever involved in an incident where the police were called and I was even remotely suspected of doing something, I wouldn't say a damned word.
 

wwswimming

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Jan 21, 2006
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A guy I grew up with, and have known my whole life, is basically spending 6 years in prison. He may get out in 4 if he is lucky.

He's been in for almost a year and short of a small one page letter, I haven't really sent him anything. I'm brainstorming right now on things to talk about. Questions to ask him without being insensitive, etc.

Anybody have ideas of things to ask, talk about, etc.. ?? I want some of it to be funny, etc.

he might like copies of the 4 Ocean's Eleven movies. the original, and then the remake, and then the 2 sequels.

since it's about the "ultimate crime", i figure some of those inmates might like it.

i would say, give him things that score brownie points with his cellmates so he doesn't get gang-raped. cigs, rolling papers, maybe no-doz, i don't know what guys in prison want.

copies of Maxim magazine ?

or just print this thread out, he might enjoy reading it.
 

rockyct

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Jun 23, 2001
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he might like copies of the 4 Ocean's Eleven movies. the original, and then the remake, and then the 2 sequels.

since it's about the "ultimate crime", i figure some of those inmates might like it.
The group in the original
got owned when the widow burned the body. Not exactly a happy ending for criminals.
;)
 

darkxshade

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Mar 31, 2001
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write about how you found out the other 14 year old he slept with before he went to jail now has a son... then visit him on April 1st and laugh behind the glass window. :awe:
 

BurnItDwn

Lifer
Oct 10, 1999
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Illinois prisons really really suck.

I went down state to visit a friend at one a few weeks ago. There's almost as much security there as at the airport!!!! And they pretty much the prisoners are stripped of their rights and forced to sit in a cell with nothing to do but think and stew....

If he went in "clean", he'll probably come out a criminal.... I'm pretty sure at the very least he'll lose a piece of his sanity....

Prison doesn't help reform, it just punishes, and teaches bad behavior.
 
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Illinois prisons really really suck.

I went down state to visit a friend at one a few weeks ago. There's almost as much security there as at the airport!!!! And they pretty much the prisoners are stripped of their rights and forced to sit in a cell with nothing to do but think and stew....

If he went in "clean", he'll probably come out a criminal.... I'm pretty sure at the very least he'll lose a piece of his sanity....

Prison doesn't help reform, it just punishes, and teaches bad behavior.
What else is there left to do? These guys have been given their chances and prison is the end of the road. I myself have been to prison and it's horrible. It's the lowest a man can get. It taught me nothing except it's a place I don't want to sit and rot my life away with a bunch of hardened criminals. That in of itself was enough to straighten my ass up. Prison is there and like they say they'll always be a bunk their for you. It's up to the individual to decide if he wishes to sleep in that bunk.
 

TechBoyJK

Lifer
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What else is there left to do? These guys have been given their chances and prison is the end of the road. I myself have been to prison and it's horrible. It's the lowest a man can get. It taught me nothing except it's a place I don't want to sit and rot my life away with a bunch of hardened criminals. That in of itself was enough to straighten my ass up. Prison is there and like they say they'll always be a bunk their for you. It's up to the individual to decide if he wishes to sleep in that bunk.

Yea I agree. Part of why I haven't written this dude much even though I grew up with him was because at first, I felt like I didn't want to associate myself with him. Then I was just mad at him for getting locked up right after he got married and had a kid. Now I realize there isn't much I can do about it and he's not going to be in there forever.
 

keird

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Jan 18, 2002
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I had a buddy that went to jail for being a habitual offender for driving without auto insurance. I went to some bar with another buddy of ours and on the letter that I was going to send him I had all these chicks write something on it. Some attested to how great of a time they were having, others wrote well wishes, etc... I made certain that I left a ring of Guinness from my glass on each page. I also included reviews/previews of flight sims in the letter (he liked them, so I thought he wouldn't mind some news).

The commissary donation is pretty important, though.

I'll dig up an old thread to illuminate why.

Edit: FPMITA guide
 

TallBill

Lifer
Apr 29, 2001
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Your current location doesn't say anything about where you come from.

Yet we were supposed to know that you live in Illinois, and also know that your friend must have come from here as well?


I have a friend in jail for 6 years, and I was told it was from sleeping with an underage girl. That's all I know, and I don't want to ask.

Well, since you make up all of your stories, you can probably just change the words a little.
 

zinfamous

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Jul 12, 2006
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so OP, how long have you and zanejohnson been collaborating on ATOT troll threads?

this "situation" has his tendrils all over it.
 

moshquerade

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There has to be more to his story. Did he have priors? Being incarcerated for 6... maybe 4 years for that after that amount of time doesn't seem real.

Just curious, you said he's Mexican. Is he a legal citizen of the U.S.?
 

BurnItDwn

Lifer
Oct 10, 1999
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What else is there left to do? These guys have been given their chances and prison is the end of the road. I myself have been to prison and it's horrible. It's the lowest a man can get. It taught me nothing except it's a place I don't want to sit and rot my life away with a bunch of hardened criminals. That in of itself was enough to straighten my ass up. Prison is there and like they say they'll always be a bunk their for you. It's up to the individual to decide if he wishes to sleep in that bunk.

So, if somebody goes to prison for a few months for being a scumbag, the solution is for them to rot because it's the end of the road and should be so fucking horrible that they don't want to go there again.

The problem is, lots of people don't mind it, because they have no self worth after being in a place like that. It fucks them up for life and hurts their chances of recovery or of changing.


Personally, I think prison should indeed be a combination of punishment as well as rehab..
My opinion is this: It's cruel and unusual to take away somebody's liberty. It's cruel and unusual to restrict the rights of an individual. It's far less cruel to cause a little bit of physical pain to teach them a lesson.

For parents, spankings generally work a hell of a lot better than time out, why don't we grow up as a society and stop using "time out." Swift and painful punishment (but not so brutal that it causes irreversible damage) seems a lot more humane, and effective to me.

You smoked a bunch of crack and then stole a car and robbed a 7 11 .... You should be caned a bunch of times, in extreme physical pain .... but fully recover from your wounds shortly after, and then free to change your life around, or get the cane again ....
Now, repeat offenders, or people with long arrest records (say, arrested more than 5 or 6 times), obviously have some sort of psycological problems, and perhaps they would need to be locked up for life, for their safety as well as the safety of others ... But that's different than locking them up with the intent as that it will deter them from being bad again.....
 

IGBT

Lifer
Jul 16, 2001
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ask him if the bag lunches are any better. does he swap his oranges for oreos??
 

TechBoyJK

Lifer
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There has to be more to his story. Did he have priors? Being incarcerated for 6... maybe 4 years for that after that amount of time doesn't seem real.

Just curious, you said he's Mexican. Is he a legal citizen of the U.S.?

Yea, he had a record. The details of which I don't know. Yes, he's a citizen.