Would you send your parents to an old folks home...

[jinduy]

if the other option was for them to live with you until the end of their days?

 

[zimu]

i don't think they'd want to. i can picture them at home with a nurse in the far future.

 

[zimu]

i don't think they'd want to. i can picture them at home with a nurse in the far future.

 

[MithShrike]

I couldn't stand having my mom living with me. Can't stand living with her now. Just need the $$$ to move out. Slowly getting there.

 

[Dragnov]

Er, well in most asian cultures the parents live off on their own...
Child is supposed to pay for everything though and you're supposed to visit and such

 

[apoppin]

Yes . . . eventually . . . when she can no longer tell where she's at and needs more care than home-care.

 

[Orsorum]

I'm going to put them in the crooked home I saw on 60 Minutes. : )

 

[jjones]

Nah, when they get that old I'll just take them out back and shoot them.

 

[SherEPunjab]

FVCK NO. its not part of my culture.

 

[TitanDiddly]

Yes, I love to change diapers and deal with people who don't recognize me as their son.

 

[SherEPunjab]

here is my thinking: they took care of me, they raised me, they changed my diapers. i can either put them in a nursing home and pay for that, or hire a full time or part time nurse and build a big house and they live with me and play and supervise their grandkids when the time comes. I choose the latter. I will trust very few people to babysit my children when they come, and I will trust very few people to take care of my parents when they get old. I, for one, do not trust nursing homes. Didn't you guys see Happy Gilmore (j/j).

 

[Gooberlx2]

We put my gramps in a home when it became apparent that he needed full-time care. But the atmosphere was just so downtrodden with death. Illness was everywhere and many people were disgruntled. Patrons are dealing with the fact that they'll die at some point in the near-er future and/or might only be half-sane anymore and basically vent off at the workers. (mad props to care staff people, as I've had several friends who do that and they always come home with multitudes of horror stories....not mention any bonds they do develop with their "favorites" that get shattered when they die).

So anyway, yeah....we decided to not put my grams in a home...even in her last days.

It's a tricky question though.....some people just can't care for someone all the time, and can't afford to hire full-time in-home help. And so then, at the risk of seeming like an uncaring family member, you may have to decide to put that person into a home. There's no doubt in my mind that homes are about the last place on earth I would want to be. Death, boredom, loneliness. But sometimes they're also the last resort.

...personally I think I'll choose to forego full-time care when/if I get to the point where I can't do remedial things anymore, and probably die a happier person for it.

but to have to make that decision for someone else.....I can't imagine having been in my dad's shoes.

 

[Yossarian]

no, i'll just kill them in their sleep.

 

[eakers]

if i could provide the care they needed then i would at least try.

 

[Viperoni]

Depends.

 

[kenshorin]

Originally posted by: Viperoni
Depends.

(insert witty adult diaper joke here)

 

[GalvanizedYankee]

My sister and I have been taking care of our mother for 3 years. That includes, bathing, feeding and yes,
Depends.

Ten years ago I was actively involved as my father wasted away with cancer.

I have a much deeper appreciation for life as a result. Some call it unconditional love :sun:

 

[SherEPunjab]

Originally posted by: galvanizedyankee
My sister and I have been taking care of our mother for 3 years. That includes, bathing, feeding and yes,
Depends.

Ten years ago I was actively involved as my father wasted away with cancer.

I have a much deeper appreciation for life as a result. Some call it unconditional love :sun:

:beer::beer::beer: this drinks on me*














*besides, its free.

 

[z0mb13]

NEVER! I love my parents to death... they will not go to a retirement place