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would you pay for your SO birth control if she asked?

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Originally posted by: SupaDupaPan
Originally posted by: halik
no...that's weird imo. Thats like me saying help me pay for my allergy pills because otherwise we can't hang out because i can't leave the house. Personal responsibility...

Any girl that will ask you for that is a cheap ass ho...
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(Yeah, 20 co-pay isn't bad) she should be able to afford that herself ... but then again there's other insurance plans that don't cover that much... Where you pay say $500 out of your pocket and THEN they cover the rest (or something like that) So I guess depending on what the copay is.

But with your reasoning (above quoted statement), say a girl has a baby (your baby), she should pay for it and you should have no part in it because she had it and all the medical bills are hers?

The logic goes both ways 😉
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no,
having a kid is a completly different story. First of all BOTH of you are legally responsible for it, so you can't make that argument either way.


It's the girl's problem whether she want's the pill or not and besides i wouldn't have anythign to do with any woman that asks me to pay for that. That or I'd ask her to drop $ on my gym member ship because both of us benefit from me being ripped :roll:
 
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
A responsible adult will pick up half the cost of birth control for his/her steady partner. Birth control pills/shots/patches aren't "medicine" in the sense that they cure or prevent illness, they are for the prevention of pregnancy, which affects both partners. Same goes for condoms (though they have the added benefit of helping prevent transmission of STDs.) If your partner says "don't worry about it" when you offer to pay half (and you know it's not a hardship for him/her financially), then let it go. But you should offer to pay half and put the ball in his/her court.

Cliffs for the immature kiddies: Grow the hell up. He/she shouldn't have to ask, YOU should offer to pay half.
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or maybe find a girl that is financilly self-sufficent enough that it would be below her to ask? But ya know if that's not your type, feel free to bankroll her monthly business as well
 
This is pretty pathetic. A man would show respect and offer to help pay. A man wouldn't assume that she was lazy or just out for his money if she asked. Some of you guys need to grow up.
 
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
A responsible adult will pick up half the cost of birth control for his/her steady partner. Birth control pills/shots/patches aren't "medicine" in the sense that they cure or prevent illness, they are for the prevention of pregnancy, which affects both partners. Same goes for condoms (though they have the added benefit of helping prevent transmission of STDs.) If your partner says "don't worry about it" when you offer to pay half (and you know it's not a hardship for him/her financially), then let it go. But you should offer to pay half and put the ball in his/her court.

Cliffs for the immature kiddies: Grow the hell up. He/she shouldn't have to ask, YOU should offer to pay half.
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Wrong. A mature woman can take care of herself.

Personally I would be offended if a woman asked me to pay. I'd be like fine - you get to pay for dinners and entertainment from now on.
 
Originally posted by: spidey07
Wrong. A mature woman can take care of herself.

Personally I would be offended if a woman asked me to pay. I'd be like fine - you get to pay for dinners and entertainment from now on.
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So if she didn't want to take it would you wrap it? Would she have to buy those too?
 
Originally posted by: konichiwa
anyone who's ever had sex with a rubber and without knows the answer to this question...
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Yes - I always did in college for my GF. I even carted her to the GYN appointments. Condoms are only good for one-night stands or prostitutes - at least that's the only time I've used them. :evil:
 
Originally posted by: halik
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
A responsible adult will pick up half the cost of birth control for his/her steady partner. Birth control pills/shots/patches aren't "medicine" in the sense that they cure or prevent illness, they are for the prevention of pregnancy, which affects both partners. Same goes for condoms (though they have the added benefit of helping prevent transmission of STDs.) If your partner says "don't worry about it" when you offer to pay half (and you know it's not a hardship for him/her financially), then let it go. But you should offer to pay half and put the ball in his/her court.

Cliffs for the immature kiddies: Grow the hell up. He/she shouldn't have to ask, YOU should offer to pay half.
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or maybe find a girl that is financilly self-sufficent enough that it would be below her to ask? But ya know if that's not your type, feel free to bankroll her monthly business as well
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A responsible adult with some class would say right off the bat, "I'd be glad to help pay for the condoms/pills/whatever" and give his/her partner the choice.

With previous partners, I always paid for my own birth control, but I appreciated having mature partners who took some responsibility and offered to help pay. I never asked for help or took help (other than when they might pay for condoms, if I didn't already have them.)
 
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: halik
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
A responsible adult will pick up half the cost of birth control for his/her steady partner. Birth control pills/shots/patches aren't "medicine" in the sense that they cure or prevent illness, they are for the prevention of pregnancy, which affects both partners. Same goes for condoms (though they have the added benefit of helping prevent transmission of STDs.) If your partner says "don't worry about it" when you offer to pay half (and you know it's not a hardship for him/her financially), then let it go. But you should offer to pay half and put the ball in his/her court.

Cliffs for the immature kiddies: Grow the hell up. He/she shouldn't have to ask, YOU should offer to pay half.
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or maybe find a girl that is financilly self-sufficent enough that it would be below her to ask? But ya know if that's not your type, feel free to bankroll her monthly business as well
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A responsible adult with some class would say right off the bat, "I'd be glad to help pay for the condoms/pills/whatever" and give his/her partner the choice.

With previous partners, I always paid for my own birth control, but I appreciated having mature partners who took some responsibility and offered to help pay. I never asked for help or took help (other than when they might pay for condoms, if I didn't already have them.)
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I don't know how old you are, but this will not even be as issue to a "responsible adult". That is, this topic wouldn't get brought up period because it's completly pointless and a non issue.

Women I date know how to take care of themselves and honestly noone i've dated in past would lower themselves to the point of asking to help out in that. It's just just plain weird and kinda trashy.



 
How can any man answer yes for condoms, but no on birth control.

Get a blood test for the paraniod, cough up some dough for the pills. If you don't know for the experience using condoms is 1000x worse than her on the pill.

As long as she has half a brain and remembers to take them you are good. If she isn't responsible enough to remember, and you don't use a condom. Enjoy the kids...
 
Originally posted by: halik
I don't know how old you are, but this will not even be as issue to a "responsible adult". That is, this topic wouldn't get brought up period because it's completly pointless and a non issue.

Women I date know how to take care of themselves and honestly noone i've dated in past would lower themselves to the point of asking to help out in that. It's just just plain weird and kinda trashy.
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Most of the kiddies on here are around college age, and I was answering the questions based on the audience. I remember being in college, broke all the time, and it being a stretch to afford the pill every month. For young people, it can be a problem, and if a girl is on the pill because she's having sex with her boyfriend, I don't see anything wrong with the boy offering to pay for half. At what point did I suggest that a woman should have to ask for help with paying for it?

I'm 36 now and married, but if I wasn't married, I wouldn't imagine that the money issue would come up at all. It would be a non-issue at my current stage of life.
 
Wasn't there some OT drama involving this kind of issue in the past. Some poster paying for his gf's birth control and finding out later she'd been sleeping with another guy.
 
Originally posted by: armatron
this girl im dating has asked me if I'll help her pay for birth control... she's only doing the deed with me.. noone else.
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hehe there is a sucker born every minute 😉


Ausm
 
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: halik
I don't know how old you are, but this will not even be as issue to a "responsible adult". That is, this topic wouldn't get brought up period because it's completly pointless and a non issue.

Women I date know how to take care of themselves and honestly noone i've dated in past would lower themselves to the point of asking to help out in that. It's just just plain weird and kinda trashy.
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Most of the kiddies on here are around college age, and I was answering the questions based on the audience. I remember being in college, broke all the time, and it being a stretch to afford the pill every month For young people, it can be a problem, and if a girl is on the pill because she's having sex with her boyfriend, I don't see anything wrong with the boy offering to pay for half. At what point did I suggest that a woman should have to ask for help with paying for it?

I'm 36 now and married, but if I wasn't married, I wouldn't imagine that the money issue would come up at all. It would be a non-issue at my current stage of life.
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I'm 21 and I have yet to find anyone that can't afford basic things like that...
But either way, the question on hand is "would you pay if the girl asked for birth control" ... the real question is why would you date a girl that has to ask you to pay for that ...
 
Originally posted by: halik
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: halik
I don't know how old you are, but this will not even be as issue to a "responsible adult". That is, this topic wouldn't get brought up period because it's completly pointless and a non issue.

Women I date know how to take care of themselves and honestly noone i've dated in past would lower themselves to the point of asking to help out in that. It's just just plain weird and kinda trashy.
Click to expand...

Most of the kiddies on here are around college age, and I was answering the questions based on the audience. I remember being in college, broke all the time, and it being a stretch to afford the pill every month For young people, it can be a problem, and if a girl is on the pill because she's having sex with her boyfriend, I don't see anything wrong with the boy offering to pay for half. At what point did I suggest that a woman should have to ask for help with paying for it?

I'm 36 now and married, but if I wasn't married, I wouldn't imagine that the money issue would come up at all. It would be a non-issue at my current stage of life.
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I'm 21 and I have yet to find anyone that can't afford basic things like that...
But either way, the question on hand is "would you pay if the girl asked for birth control" ... the real question is why would you date a girl that has to ask you to pay for that ...
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At least somebody else sees my point.
 
Originally posted by: jndietz
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: jndietz
what age do you have to be to buy BC
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I got it at 17 or 18, without parental involvement.
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good to know thanks 🙂
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keep in mind any girl can go into a planned parenthood and get them confidentially, at any age.
 
Originally posted by: LolaWiz
Originally posted by: jndietz
Originally posted by: Bryophyte
Originally posted by: jndietz
what age do you have to be to buy BC
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I got it at 17 or 18, without parental involvement.
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good to know thanks 🙂
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keep in mind any girl can go into a planned parenthood and get them confidentially, at any age.
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i'd rather not have a son/daughter :roll: i'd rather finish college and have some bank before that :laugh:

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