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Would you marry this woman?

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Go for it.

7 months isnt that long, but many have married on much less. your in your 30's, a lot of the 20's bull has been cut to a minimum. If you enjoy each others company have a good time, go for it. I think you've got something very positive here... you've found someone who you love for the right reasons, not for lust. In the end beauty fades...what you have can last a lifetime.
 
You might have some issues in learning whether or not you're sexually compatible with each other. 33 years is a long, long time to hold on to an ideal, yet if that's all there is to it to her, then great. Other than that, I'd say she sounds like a really nice person.
 
7 months isn't that much time. I would give things a bit more time and see what happens before popping the question. She sounds great, and you should definitely keep her happy. You may even want to talk about marriage with her, without actually asking her to marry you. See how she feels, and go from there. At any rate, it sounds like you made a list of all the "features" she has. However, ultimately you have to ask yourself if you are in love. Also, you have to ask if you are compatible. It sounds like you two will be compatible, but I would want to date a person longer than 7 months. I second the suggestion of taking the opportunity to see her when she gets really upset. Don't intentionally pick a fight like one of my ex's did, though.

Also, pics would be really nice.

Ryan
 
Originally posted by: Shantanu
You should do it with her at least once before proposing marraige, just to check things out. Some girls are hot, but down there, they're not all that hot.
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heh heh very true.
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
You might have some issues in learning whether or not you're sexually compatible with each other. 33 years is a long, long time to hold on to an ideal, yet if that's all there is to it to her, then great. Other than that, I'd say she sounds like a really nice person.
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I'd have to agree with Astaroth. What if you're not sexually compatible? If she can go 33 yrs without sex, then how often will you have it when you are married. 7 months is a little early to be thinking about marriage. It does you no harm to wait it out another year or two... or three... good luck
 
well if you want to marry her because you get sex only after marriage... (just a guess, she 33 virgin, you horny) (no offense meant, i'm horny all the time)

she sound great as person. but question is how stable she is (has she tasted the big freedom?).

pick up a fight, then in the middle of it ask her to marry you and then get the reconciliation-sex 😉

but siriosly... what is the real difference if you ask her to marry you now, or if you ask her when you know her even better? (and be honest to yourself and to her)

if nothing bothers you... you're choice. do as you wish and whatever that'll be "good luck":heart:
 
Originally posted by: Medellon
I have been seeing Julie for about 7 months now and I am considering asking her to marry me. She is 33 which is about 2 years younger than me and she has never been married and has no kids...she is still a virgin in fact! I on the other hand have been married once and I have a 10 year old boy from that marriage. Julie and I get along great and she is very kind and giving. She loves to cook and is always cooking for me. I have yet to see her get mad and she enjoys doing anything I want to do. She grew up in poverty so she is no used to much and is happy with what she has or is given. My brother was in town the other day and he and a friend were talking about going to this happening club. I remarked softly saying I wish I could go because Julie was right next to me. She heard me and said that I could go if I wanted. This was not the same go and I'll cut your b**ls off when you get home that some girls use to pretend that they don't care. I said no that I wanted to spend time with her and as we were leaving the restaurant she asked if I was sure I did not want to spend time with my brother. She is an accountant but does not make a whole bunch of money, just enough to support herself well. I think I have quite a catch on my hands, what do you all think?
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I already have all the facts I need out of this post to answer: No, not yet.

1. You've been seeing her for 7 months, and you're already going to ask her hand in marriage.
2. You've been married once before.
3. You have a 10 year old boy.

Statistically as a divorcee, you are more likely to get divorced a second time. Plus, your risk increases since you have a child. I suggest you wait another 17 months before popping the question. This will save both your child and your girlfriend unneeded heartache.

Pick up yourself one of Dr. Laura's books...

My dad was married 4 times... he ruined my childhood and it took a lot of time for me to recover psychologically...
 
Originally posted by: Medellon
True I was married before but I've been single for almost 6 years which I think is a good amount of time.
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If she's been a virgin that long, and she truly loves you, then she'll hold out for another 17 months. Can you?
 
I say marry her. You are very lucky to have found her. I think it is pretty cool that she is still a virgin at age 33 (assuming that it is for religious reasons). I hope I meet someone like this some day.

And what is this about absolutely having to have sex with someone before you marry them? If you love the person, why does the sex need to be absolutely amazing for the marriage to work?

You guys seem to get along well, and she seems to be very nice and caring. Go for it.
 
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