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Would you marry this woman?

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Medellon

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I have been seeing Julie for about 7 months now and I am considering asking her to marry me. She is 33 which is about 2 years younger than me and she has never been married and has no kids...she is still a virgin in fact! I on the other hand have been married once and I have a 10 year old boy from that marriage. Julie and I get along great and she is very kind and giving. She loves to cook and is always cooking for me. I have yet to see her get mad and she enjoys doing anything I want to do. She grew up in poverty so she is no used to much and is happy with what she has or is given. My brother was in town the other day and he and a friend were talking about going to this happening club. I remarked softly saying I wish I could go because Julie was right next to me. She heard me and said that I could go if I wanted. This was not the same go and I'll cut your b**ls off when you get home that some girls use to pretend that they don't care. I said no that I wanted to spend time with her and as we were leaving the restaurant she asked if I was sure I did not want to spend time with my brother. She is an accountant but does not make a whole bunch of money, just enough to support herself well. I think I have quite a catch on my hands, what do you all think?
 
I think a) you're here looking for everyone to pat you on the back or b) you shouldn't marry her if you need to ask strangers on the internet if you should.

If it's a; good job, have a good life.

If it's b; don't take the advice of anyone here. Dumb way to make life decisions.
 
Is she into computers and video games? 😛

I honestly think this is the wrong place to ask. After-all you and her are hopefully mature people given your age. You are also the person who knows her best. Follow your heart? Good luck =)

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I say go for it, you know if she is right or not, if you have spent alotof time with her then 7 months is plenty of time to know if its right or not....

GL to you and Julie, may you two be very happy togather.

Just treat her right 🙂

Josh
 
I wouldn't call it a catch. What is this poverty she lived in? Is she carrying any "baggage" from her past? How are her relationships with her family? Don't forget, you're not just marrying her, you're becoming part of her family as well. Also, is she a virgin for religious reasons? Or personal? You will be intimate with her one day...is inexperience what you want to deal with?

I would wait it out longer.

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<------been with my girl for 3 years.
 
Why on earth would you ask such a question on a forum where many people haven't even had a girlfriend yet?
 
she sounds nice 🙂

but, IMO, you don't truly know someone until you've seen them really pissed off 😉
 
I can see it now...

Honey, I took a poll on ATOT, and they all said to marry you, so would you marry me?


Seriously, go for it. She sounds nice, and if you guys get along well, then I don't see what the problem is.
 
i'd wait till i get her mad first. That way you can really see what a person is about. Other than that, she sounds cool 🙂
 
Originally posted by: Medellon
She loves to cook and is always cooking for me.
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Ummm... if you don't ask her to marry you based on that fact alone, you are a bonefide idiot. She sounds awesome!
 
Originally posted by: dabuddha
i'd wait till i get her mad first. That way you can really see what a person is about. Other than that, she sounds cool 🙂
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One of my buddies took his long-time g/f down to the lake after a nice dinner. He had never seen here really get mad. She was in a very nice dress, and when they got to the pier, he bumped her in. She came up laughing, and pulled him in, so he asked her to marry him. They are married and happy!

BTW...I don't recommend this method, especially on the first few dates. I think he got really lucky.
 
Damn! How young are people on here? I know I wouldn't make a decision like this based on some posts, I was just interested in the responses.
 
Originally posted by: RgrPark
Yeah...go through some big fights...see how she really is under pressure/ hard times...
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lol, be careful what kind of fights you initiate 🙂 you don't want her to hate you and then say, "but i just wanted to see how mad you'd get" 🙂

you could talk to ther friends and family, and jokingly ask how she gets when she's peeved.
 
Originally posted by: MogulMonster

One of my buddies took his long-time g/f down to the lake after a nice dinner. He had never seen here really get mad. She was in a very nice dress, and when they got to the pier, he bumped her in. She came up laughing, and pulled him in, so he asked her to marry him. They are married and happy!

BTW...I don't recommend this method, especially on the first few dates. I think he got really lucky.
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Good thing she knew how to swim...
 
Time doesn't matter. You know if you really love some or not pretty quickly otherwise you're just searching for things.

Although marriage is a big step, you have to way the pros and cons...
 
Originally posted by: Kevin
Time doesn't matter. You know if you really love some or not pretty quickly otherwise you're just searching for things.

Although marriage is a big step, you have to way the pros and cons...
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I think time does matter. When people first meet, they put their "best foot forward". New couples usually show each other their best sides. After time passes and their guards are down, do people show their good and bad sides. Marriage isn't about "just knowing" that you love someone. It's loving the good and bad of a person.
 
Originally posted by: iamme
she sounds nice 🙂

but, IMO, you don't truly know someone until you've seen them really pissed off 😉
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I agree. Before you ever consider marrying someone, have a really good fight with them. You haven't seen her at her worst. Other than that, you sound like a really lucky guy.
 
My only question is-- why is she still a virgin if you've been dating her for 7 months? I couldn't ask a girl to marry me who I hadn't had sex with but that's me.
 
Originally posted by: KC5AV
Originally posted by: iamme
she sounds nice 🙂

but, IMO, you don't truly know someone until you've seen them really pissed off 😉
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I agree. Before you ever consider marrying someone, have a really good fight with them. You haven't seen her at her worst. Other than that, you sound like a really lucky guy.
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also, you want to know that you guys can work out problems. Not only seeing her pissed off, but in the aftermath you want to know that you guys can settle down and figure things out rationally.
 
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