would you guys let your gram move in with you?

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WA261

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Now is your chance to become closer, you'll never get the chance later on.

I miss my grandparents & would give up everything to be able to spend even an afternoon with even one of them again. Do it.


Yeah, I hear ya.
 

Zebo

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Jul 29, 2001
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My first gram that died was a terrible experience. She had to come from her home in Louisiana to Utah. She lived with my parents and hated it. I was her only confidant. I did everything from feeding her to helping on the toilet...yeah, it sucked. But, when you love someone you kinda put everything aside. I am not as close with the gram that is moving in here, but there are many others to help her out if she goes down.

You da the man.:awe:
 

AreaCode707

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Sep 21, 2001
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Currently surviving gram, no way. She's a passive aggressive meddler who's raised two crazy-ass kids and my miraculously normal mother, and I max out on her invasive wheedling bossiness after a two day stay.

My dad's (now-deceased) mom? Absolutely! She was awesome and she did live with us for a while when I was growing up. She was a wonderful human being and everyone she ever met loved her.
 

Sealy

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Aug 4, 2002
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All my grandparents are dead, so if they want to move in with me I don't think I have much choice....
 

yhelothar

Lifer
Dec 11, 2002
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If she was still alive... heeell no..
Although she'd probably be less naggy if she lived under my roof.
 

BarkingGhostar

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Purchased a new home... it's 5000 sqft (it's way big). The down stairs is like a total different home. Kitchen, 2 bathrooms, 3 different rooms... etc. She is paying like over a grand a month to live in an apartment. I told her she can come live with me. I am getting a divorce so I am alone in the house. Her being her should not infringe on anything. May even be nice to know another is in the house. It is way to big for 1 person.
What do you guys think about this?
Alaskan vacation. Set her adrift on a chunk of ice.
 

her209

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Oct 11, 2000
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Pics of gram?
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bobdole369

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Dec 15, 2004
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Nothing wrong with nana or grammama livin with ya. Just don't let her find the porn. Thats an awkward conversation.
 

meltdown75

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i let my brother live in my basement... we share a bathroom (and kitchen) in a raised ranch that sounds like it would fit in the garage of the house you have :D

with all the extra space and the downstairs, extra bath, kitchen... hell ya i would probably at least offer it to her if she wanted it.

the common theme here for me was divorce... sometimes it is nice to have someone else in the house once in a while after you've been alone for a year or so. that said, i am looking forward to having my place back :awe:
 

bobdole369

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i let my brother live in my basement...

Sounds like "uncle bryan" who was a 30 something loser that lived in the basement of one of my high school friends home. We smoked a BUNCH of pot with uncle bryan, little singular bong hits blown out the basement window because his brother (friends dad) didn't want him smoking down there ever since he brought business clients home and was showing said clients the house, and BAM uncle bryan hitting the bong in his tighty whiteys watchin' porn....

No offense to meltdown, not saying your brothers a loser, just that "brother living in the basement" reminded me of uncle bryan.
 

HydroSqueegee

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Well it really depends on your situation. I'd say go for it in your case.

last year me, my wife, our 2 little boys and my wifes mom moved in with my wifes grandma to take care of her. Its tough to uproot your whole life to go somewhere new and move 3 households across 4 generations into 1 home.

She was a bitter old woman. She was tired of living and watching her friends die all around her. The control freak in her couldnt accept getting old and not being able to do things on her own. She resented being old. You really have to watch yourself around them. they grew up in a different time and have different expectations. Living with someone is a whole lot different than visiting.

We lived there 5 months before she died last october. 79 years old. I would like to think we gave her good care. We cooked, cleaned and made sure she had company. We made a promise that she would never go into a nursing home. She went to the hospital with multiple heart attacks, arteries almost 100% blocked. Surgery wasnt an option for her. We brought her home and in her final few days had a hospital bed set up in the dining room. those were the toughest days. Wife and Mother in law were her care 24/7. but that only lasted a few days before she passed.

We still live in the house with the Mother in Law and are buying it off the estate. And im sure we'll be doing the same thing with the Mother in law when shes old and sick.

So beware with what you're getting yourself into. Its good and bad all at the same time.
 

Imp

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No. Grandma was psycho young, and is psycho-er old. Treats my mom, whom takes care of her daily, like shit too.
 

meltdown75

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Sounds like "uncle bryan" who was a 30 something loser that lived in the basement of one of my high school friends home. We smoked a BUNCH of pot with uncle bryan, little singular bong hits blown out the basement window because his brother (friends dad) didn't want him smoking down there ever since he brought business clients home and was showing said clients the house, and BAM uncle bryan hitting the bong in his tighty whiteys watchin' porn....

No offense to meltdown, not saying your brothers a loser, just that "brother living in the basement" reminded me of uncle bryan.

lol that's hilarious... hahahah
no my bro is a hard-working straight shooter. he likes his whiskey on the weekends though :awe:
i'd be more of the uncle bryan type :awe:
 

alkemyst

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Feb 13, 2001
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If you were married or with a full time SO I'd say 'maybe'.

Dating is problematic even with the coolest of roommates yet alone some older person.

Being in another thread you said you paid for all your homes with cash, why not buy her a small investment property or cover / subsidize rent for her?
 

WA261

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Aug 28, 2001
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Well it really depends on your situation. I'd say go for it in your case.

last year me, my wife, our 2 little boys and my wifes mom moved in with my wifes grandma to take care of her. Its tough to uproot your whole life to go somewhere new and move 3 households across 4 generations into 1 home.

She was a bitter old woman. She was tired of living and watching her friends die all around her. The control freak in her couldnt accept getting old and not being able to do things on her own. She resented being old. You really have to watch yourself around them. they grew up in a different time and have different expectations. Living with someone is a whole lot different than visiting.

We lived there 5 months before she died last october. 79 years old. I would like to think we gave her good care. We cooked, cleaned and made sure she had company. We made a promise that she would never go into a nursing home. She went to the hospital with multiple heart attacks, arteries almost 100% blocked. Surgery wasnt an option for her. We brought her home and in her final few days had a hospital bed set up in the dining room. those were the toughest days. Wife and Mother in law were her care 24/7. but that only lasted a few days before she passed.

We still live in the house with the Mother in Law and are buying it off the estate. And im sure we'll be doing the same thing with the Mother in law when shes old and sick.

So beware with what you're getting yourself into. Its good and bad all at the same time.

Yeah, went though that with my other gram. It sucked. This gram has many grandchildren that are female that will help her out once it is needed. No telling if she will want to go to a nursing home or not.
 

alkemyst

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well it really depends on your situation. I'd say go for it in your case.

Last year me, my wife, our 2 little boys and my wifes mom moved in with my wifes grandma to take care of her. Its tough to uproot your whole life to go somewhere new and move 3 households across 4 generations into 1 home.

She was a bitter old woman. She was tired of living and watching her friends die all around her. The control freak in her couldnt accept getting old and not being able to do things on her own. She resented being old. You really have to watch yourself around them. They grew up in a different time and have different expectations. Living with someone is a whole lot different than visiting.

We lived there 5 months before she died last october. 79 years old. I would like to think we gave her good care. We cooked, cleaned and made sure she had company. We made a promise that she would never go into a nursing home. She went to the hospital with multiple heart attacks, arteries almost 100% blocked. Surgery wasnt an option for her. We brought her home and in her final few days had a hospital bed set up in the dining room. Those were the toughest days. Wife and mother in law were her care 24/7. But that only lasted a few days before she passed.

We still live in the house with the mother in law and are buying it off the estate. And im sure we'll be doing the same thing with the mother in law when shes old and sick.

So beware with what you're getting yourself into. Its good and bad all at the same time.

wtf, you moved in with her?
 

WA261

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wtf, you moved in with her?


That really is a better idea, keeping them in their environment helps greatly with their mental state. Removing them from their home (as we did with my other gram) sucked. All she could about was going home. It was really sad.