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Would you give your credit card # to a friend?

NuclearNed

NuclearNed

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The wife gave our credit card number to a close friend of hers. She did this so the friend could book a hotel room for several girls, including my wife, for an upcoming girls night out.

The close friend seems to be a trustworthy person, but has no discipline when it comes to money - her spending is way out of control (example: her kid is having health issues, and she is having to scrape to pay for the dr's bills, but she still is daily buying frivolous crap like purses, video games, dvds, etc.). She and her husband are barely a hair away from bankruptcy.

When the wife let it slip that she had given this girl our CC#, I blew up. Her reply was something like "I don't give my CC# to just anybody". After I fought back the urge to strangle her, my reply was "YOU DON'T GIVE YOUR CC# TO ANYBODY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" She got mad and said I was just being paranoid.

Response justified, or do I owe an apology?

EDIT: email I just got from the wife (i.e. she found this thread)
In order to make your thread a little less one sided, you need to mention that we found out all of our hotels were full and if we didn't book something RIGHT THEN, we weren't going to get anything near that part of town. Thats why she called me at work in desperation and needed my card.
 
I don't give my credit card # to family, let alone to friends even if they are close. Yeah I'm on your side on that one, that wasn't a smart thing to do. Good thing is, if the friend does purchase other things, you can just call the card company and tell them it wasn't authorized so your not really out anything if it does happen. What your wife SHOULD do is just book the hotel herself using her own card#, not give it to someone else.
 
I think I would have reacted the same way that you did. Giving it out would be a big no in my eyes especially to someone who has no self control when it comes to their own finances.
 
Originally posted by: leftyman
haha no matter what you know you are going to apologize, unless you don't like sex anymore. 😀
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QFT....there's an old saying:

"If momma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy"

if your married, learn it, love it and accept it.
 
I wouldn't have given that info to anyone. I have a hard enough time typing it into my computer to buy stuff. You may want to have it reissued under another number...
 
Originally posted by: Modular
I wouldn't have given that info to anyone. I have a hard enough time typing it into my computer to buy stuff. You may want to have it reissued under another number...
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definitely. i would be nice to the wife but still contact the credit card company and get a new card.
 
Since an authorized user gave her the credit card info, you will be liable for all charges made.

Your wife was an idiot for giving her the info, you'll be an idiot if you don't cancel that card today.
 
Is OP being a bit overreacting?

just giving out the card # doesn't mean you are authorizing charges on that card. Beside that, it is just for a hotel booking, your wife will need to present with the card when checking in.

why don't you think of how often you give out your card to the people you don't know at restaurants?
 
This problem could be solved by all of 5 minutes of effort to close out the card and get a new number.
 
I'd be OK with it as long as it was a trustworthy friend.

I've given my credit card number and have been given a close friends credit card number also.

He's basically like another brother to me though and my wifes "best" friend is like a sister to her.

I'd be like giving your sibling it at that point.

If they were just a friend but not a friend of many years that has proven time and time again to be trustworthy, then that'd be a different story.
 
I think you're overreacting. I've gotten my 2 close friends' cc# many times when booking a trip, and would have no problem giving my cc# if I asked them to buy/book something for me. I trust them to discard the # as soon as they're done using it for that purpose.
 
You're overreacting. You're assuming this woman is going to go to target and spend $1,000 on junk. I wouldn't make that assumption until it happens.
 
Originally posted by: AznSensation
I doubt her friend has enough memory to remember 16 digits + 3 digit number on a credit card. don't worry dude
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She probably wrote it down when it was given to her. OP then has to wonder, did she dispose of that piece of paper properly, or leave it lying around? He has no way of knowing what happens to the number now.
 
I wouldn't give my CC number to a friend.

that said, blowing up at her was probably over-reacting and if nothing else, you should apologize for acting like a dickhead.
 
Originally posted by: Mursilis
Originally posted by: AznSensation
I doubt her friend has enough memory to remember 16 digits + 3 digit number on a credit card. don't worry dude
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She probably wrote it down when it was given to her. OP then has to wonder, did she dispose of that piece of paper properly, or leave it lying around? He has no way of knowing what happens to the number now.
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i would be more worried about this than what the wife's friend does with the number
 
Putting everything aside, just change the CC number. That way BOTH of you can be absolutely sure in the future that it wasn't the friend (with the current info) who did anything extra with the card.
 
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