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Would you ever date a girl that's taller than you?

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Originally posted by: luvly
Oh! I just couldn't let this thread go . . . I tried to, but I couldn't. A taller woman's got to be represented. I have a flashback of the exact same question posed months, months ago by a forum member. Who knows . . . it may have been Kevin himself.

Anyway, what some of you are saying needs a rebuttal from a tall woman. You guys are bringing it on, so you've got to finish it. First off, all women in my family are tall. We're from 5' 11" to 6' 2". And guess what? The reason that most of you men who are hardly even tall yourselves (my brother's 6' 9") say this crap about tall women is because you're all afraid that tall women have so much confidence and would knock you down if you try messing with them. My sis who's the tallest would wear heels at anytime. The philosophy in our household is carry it with confidence. So, guess what again? People are always saying "wow" and stopping us even when we're amongst other tall women and say "oh, you're so tall", another subtle way of saying "oh, you're so beautiful". Some ask, "do you play basketball?" Those are the egostical ones asking. The others ask "do you model?"

Don't worry you men who're 6' - 6' 3" and whining. We don't even want you, with exception to those guys who learn to compliment instead of hating. 6' 4" - 6' 9" are good to go. And we do have them always asking us out all the time. And yes, short men do that too. You should be grateful if a tall woman even wants you. When I didn't care, I dated people who were shorter than I. But now, I care and don't even bother to think that I care whether or not you're interested in tall women, as you hardly would meet my criteria anyway in looks and other aspects.

The whole secret is confidence. And that's what you guys are afraid of. You're afraid she would reject you in the first place, and getting a rejection from a confident tall woman would kill all of your esteem. If you found a tall woman without confidence your music will be changing tune. There's nothing as threatening to a guy as a tall woman with confidence written all over her face. There's awe; there's fear; there's respect; there's admiration; there's jealousy . . . all mixed emotions.

Back to the original poster: Kevin, you have a lot to be thankful for when a tall woman is interested in you. Get with the program, for you aren't the first who would have had a tall woman interested in you.



Confidence has nothing to do with it. Why do you think tall women are better, thats just because you are one. I just prefer short woman, because I am short and I think they look better also. It's personal preference, and I'm not worrieda bout being rejected.
 
Originally posted by: luvly
Oh! I just couldn't let this thread go . . . I tried to, but I couldn't. A taller woman's got to be represented. I have a flashback of the exact same question posed months, months ago by a forum member. Who knows . . . it may have been Kevin himself.

Anyway, what some of you are saying needs a rebuttal from a tall woman. You guys are bringing it on, so you've got to finish it. First off, all women in my family are tall. We're from 5' 11" to 6' 2". And guess what? The reason that most of you men who are hardly even tall yourselves (my brother's 6' 9") say this crap about tall women is because you're all afraid that tall women have so much confidence and would knock you down if you try messing with them. My sis who's the tallest would wear heels at anytime. The philosophy in our household is carry it with confidence. So, guess what again? People are always saying "wow" and stopping us even when we're amongst other tall women and say "oh, you're so tall", another subtle way of saying "oh, you're so beautiful". Some ask, "do you play basketball?" Those are the egostical ones asking. The others ask "do you model?"

Don't worry you men who're 6' - 6' 3" and whining. We don't even want you, with exception to those guys who learn to compliment instead of hating. 6' 4" - 6' 9" are good to go. And we do have them always asking us out all the time. And yes, short men do that too. You should be grateful if a tall woman even wants you. When I didn't care, I dated people who were shorter than I. But now, I care and don't even bother to think that I care whether or not you're interested in tall women, as you hardly would meet my criteria anyway in looks and other aspects.

The whole secret is confidence. And that's what you guys are afraid of. You're afraid she would reject you in the first place, and getting a rejection from a confident tall woman would kill all of your esteem. If you found a tall woman without confidence your music will be changing tune. There's nothing as threatening to a guy as a tall woman with confidence written all over her face. There's awe; there's fear; there's respect; there's admiration; there's jealousy . . . all mixed emotions.

Back to the original poster: Kevin, you have a lot to be thankful for when a tall woman is interested in you. Get with the program, for you aren't the first who would have had a tall woman interested in you.
Personally, I don't believe your generalizations about why some men say they wouldn't date tall women. You say it's because tall women are confident, and maybe you are, but you can't really claim that all tall women (or even the majority) are confident. In my personal experience I've actually observed self-consciousness in tall females rather than confidence. Again, this is only what I've personally observed, and I'm sure you have a different perspective. But, this alone to me suggests that the reason men say they won't date tall women cannot be simplified into "intimidation due to their confidence".

 
Originally posted by: Swag1138
Originally posted by: Placer14
Originally posted by: Swag1138
Ok, seeing as how im 4'7", I dont think I have much of a choice here.

Stilletos? Platforms?


Tried both 🙂

Cant walk in one (could barely stand up, dangit) the other makes me look like bart from the Radioactive Man episode.

I have a female friend who is around 4'2" 😀
 
I'm 5'11". I have been out with girls that were from 5'2" to 6'. Never thought much about it either way. I do have some fond memories of a couple of the 5'10" + ones though 😛
 
There aren't many girls shorter than me so I really have no choice, ofcourse I've never had a date b4 so it really doesn't matter.
 
Sure.

I happen to like small women. 5'0" - 5'3" or so is my favourite height range.

But there are far more important things to a woman than her height.
If it were the case that I were willing to date anybody, then I'd date someone taller than me.

I'm pretty tall (6'3") so she's not all that likely to be taller than me...but if she is, no problem for me.
 
yeah, I wouldn't mind if she was a bit taller, but as someone else said, anything beyond like 6'3" is getting pretty freaky. I'm 6'1" or 6'2" depending on shoes / time of day. I generally go for tall girls though, like 5'10" or taller.
 
Luvly, thanks for the post, that was one of the most insightful replies here. Anyways I'd request that nobody postulate anything about how shallow I am because I'm thinking about the height difference. In a perfect world, yes, nothing matters except personality, but in the real world, I would argue that practicalities such as height and weight are something to think about. Anywho I'm having lunch with her in 30 minutes. I wasn't really asking ATOT for approval, I just wanted to throw a conversation out there. Fo Sho!
 
Originally posted by: KEV1N
Luvly, thanks for the post, that was one of the most insightful replies here. Anyways I'd request that nobody postulate anything about how shallow I am because I'm thinking about the height difference. In a perfect world, yes, nothing matters except personality, but in the real world, I would argue that practicalities such as height and weight are something to think about. Anywho I'm having lunch with her in 30 minutes. I wasn't really asking ATOT for approval, I just wanted to throw a conversation out there. Fo Sho!

6' guy, 5' girl
or
5' guy, 6' girl

is either more *practical?* I know a couple with a 19" height differential that have been together for decades. They "managed" to cuddle and even mate! 😉

What it's really about is our fears about what other people think. Women are attracted to taller men, and compete for taller men (ON AVERAGE) because height is status (not fairly so). Tall men are perceived as more attractive and more authoritative by both males and females. Men don't want to look or feel short because it diminishes their overall status, so *if* they have any fears about their height they look for someone shorter that will make them look or feel taller. Not everyone buys into the height lie (fortunately) but if you look carefully it's present underneath the surface in many people's preferences.
 
this was on dateline or was that primetime, anyways they put men of differing heights in a line up. gave em different jobs etc and let women choose. they kept bumping up the short guys occupation trying to get women to choose him.. wouldn't choose him even if he were a doctor😛 hehe
 
On second thought I think I like tall women.

I like shorter women, so I can rest my cheek on her head when we dance...well that and they fit on my lap better.

But clearly I didn't think this all the way through...if a woman is taller than me sure I can't rest my cheek on her head while we dance...but I can rest my head other places.

And come to think of it, I've never had a woman over about 5'8" sit on my lap, so I don't really know how well a taller girl would fit. And at least then I wouldn't need to worry about accidentally breaking her 😛

LMAO
Sorry I'm messed up today. Apperently my brain is in my hand, cause ever since I sprained my knuckle I've been really messed up.

Uh yeah anyhow...honestly I still like smaller girls. You can psycho analyze that if you want, I don't really care.
 
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