Would you commute?

[Whoozyerdaddy]

OP... Why can't your fiance move with you to be closer to your job?

 

[PrinceofWands]

I don't do commutes any more. Had a 45 minute one for a couple years, and one that sometimes went more than an hour for another year. Never again. In fact, I'll never even work or live in a city again where I have to deal with traffic, period. It broke me utterly, and I'll NEVER suffer it again.

That being said, some people seem to be able to do it fine for whatever reason. If you're one of those people, more power to you. Whatever makes your life what you want it to be.

 

[SKORPI0]

Not sure how I would be willing to drive 693 hours/year (950 miles/week; 58 hours/month) to work. If there was an alternative like a train/bus for that 95 miles, I'll do it. Hopefully you're driving a company car, that's 49,400 miles/yr. Time=Money.

 

[Scouzer]

OP... Why can't your fiance move with you to be closer to your job?

She has a little under 2 years left in university and she cannot take the program in the town I'd be living. She's 100% willing to move after she's done.

Do it, but work 4x10s

Not an option unfortunately.

I did a 90 minutes commute for a year. I took a decent pay cut to reduce my commute to 4 miles, and I was happier with the new job. The time you spend commuting doesn't have to be wasted - you can listen to audiobooks or podcasts instead of music. But it's still an extra 2+ hours that you'll be spending away from home every day. It's not a great way to live long-term, you'll always be working for the weekend.

I do enjoy my audio books and podcasts...but such a commute would sure burn through them.

Not sure how I would be willing to drive 693 hours/year (950 miles/week; 58 hours/month) to work. If there was an alternative like a train/bus for that 95 miles, I'll do it. Hopefully you're driving a company car, that's 49,400 miles/yr. Time=Money.

It'd be my own car... but on overtime I'd be paid mileage which is substantially higher than gas cost... about 60 cents a mile.

 

[BoomerD]

She has a little under 2 years left in university and she cannot take the program in the town I'd be living. She's 100% willing to move after she's done.



Not an option unfortunately.




I do enjoy my audio books and podcasts...but such a commute would sure burn through them.



It'd be my own car... but on overtime I'd be paid mileage which is substantially higher than gas cost... about 60 cents a mile.

Remember, it's not just the gas cost that eats into your wallet...it's tires, oil changes and other minor maintenance, broken windshields, (I averaged one per year...fucking gravel trucks) and all the other costs of driving your vehicle...plus, if you're honest with your insurance company about the number of miles driven annually, your insurance cost will skyrocket.

 

[sdifox]

How is the traffic though? I work 7-3 to make commute bearable. If I leave at 8, it would take me 1hr to get to work. And it's only 25km away.

 

[Scouzer]

How is the traffic though? I work 7-3 to make commute bearable. If I leave at 8, it would take me 1hr to get to work. And it's only 25km away.

Traffic is a complete non-factor. It's a rural highway. The only delays would be construction or blizzards.

 

[sdifox]

Traffic is a complete non-factor. It's a rural highway. The only delays would be construction or blizzards.

Drive it. get a beater though. on weekends I can get to work in 20min.

 

[Rifter]

I would not do it unless i could work 4 10's or 3 12's or 13's. Or if i could work from home every other day.

That communte is going to cost you a fortune in gas/maint/tires, and kill the resale value of whatever car you do it in due to high mileage.

unless the job is paying six figures then i might consider it.

 

[Tristicus]

Driving is fun.

 

[the DRIZZLE]

I would do it if your fiance will move to you in two years. 80 minutes is bad but definitely doable for two years, I know plenty of people with that long of a commute. Try to squeeze something extra from your employer for making you move and use that offset some of the gas cost for the next two years.

 

[BurnItDwn]

I wouldn't do it. No fvcking way. I would just look for the cheapest apartment I could find within a short commute of work, and then save up boku money to buy a place together when she's done with school.

That said, I would probably spend every weekend and maybe a weeknight or two over with the fiance, but, I would NEVER want to deal with spending 15+ hours just commuting to/from work every week. That's fvcking insane.

 

[ProfJohn]

Get a super small place in the town you work and commute 3-4 times a week depending on what is going on in life.

Would allow you to be part of family, but you wouldn't have to drive 15 hours a week.

Would be a good compromise.

 

[purbeast0]

if it is 80 minutes each way ... hell fucking no.

my dad was doing this for 10+ years and i know it took a huge toll on him physically. not sure if it had anything to do with his death but it just made him not be around his home very often because of it, and he was always tired when he got home. it was a 60+ mile commute which would be in traffic for some parts of it daily.

 

[ShawnD1]

1.5 hours isn't too bad IMO. Definitely doable, and seems like it would be worth it if you could go home to your family and fiance every night.

That better be a damn good family to make it worth your while.

My commute is an hour in each direction and it fucking sucks. That lost time usually comes out of your sleep. Having to wake up at 6am doesn't mean you go to bed at 9pm. It means you go to bed at 11pm and be tired all fucking day, all week, then saturday and sunday are the only days you feel rested.

 

[ProfJohn]

BTW what are your hours at work and what would the work day look like?

And if you were getting home at 7pm would you still have time to enjoy the family and all?


I just left a job with 10 hour work days and 45 min one way commute on top of that.
Leaving the house at 615am and getting home at 7pm gets old really fast.

But if it is strictly 9-5 and you are leaving home at 7:30 and getting home at 6:30 then it isn't so bad.

 

[vi edit]

About the *only* way I would be able to tolerate that type of commute is if it was on a train or a bus where somebody else was driving, it wasn't my gas/vehicle wear and tear, and I could space out if I wanted or read a book something.

That long of a commute + winter weather? Fuck that noise.

 

[Farmer]

Buy a Corvette Z06 Carbon.

 

[BlahBlahYouToo]

Yeah but almost nobody drives it every day. That would SUCK. There's a huge difference between monotonous driving and sitting on a bus or train while having your morning coffee and reading the paper.

what are you talking about?
a ton of peeps drive from PA into NYC every day.

 

[OOBradm]

I'd probably drive it. But then again driving doesn't really bother me. Especially if its not in traffic. I have a 45 min one way commute now and I enjoy it. Cruise around with the windows open and some tunes playing. I also take care of all of my random phone calls in the car. Making appointments, making plans, catching up, etc. When there is nothing else to do I'll listen to talk radio or NPR, or some daily podcasts. I'm pretty much never bored.

 

[highland145]

Had a manager quit several years ago. 2 hr commute for 2 months, iir. Sucked balls.

 

[Gooberlx2]

With only 1.5 hours drive, you can at least spend the occasional night at home and drive straight to work in the morning..maybe a couple times a week. For most days though, I'd still live close to work. IME, long regular commutes kill the soul.

 

[ShawnD1]

IME, long regular commutes kill the soul.

It's the lack of sleep that gets ya. A few posts up one of the guys gave a day schedule and the sleep time worked out to something like 4 or 5 hours. Most people will naturally sleep 7-9 hours if nothing forces them to wake up.

Driving back every weekend doesn't seem so bad. I don't mind making a 3 hour drive to the lake every few weeks during summer.

 

[Macamus Prime]

45 min to an hour is the max for me.

I know some people who spend 2 hours commuting. It's insane.

 

[yh125d]

I wouldn't do it. No fvcking way. I would just look for the cheapest apartment I could find within a short commute of work, and then save up boku money to buy a place together when she's done with school.

That said, I would probably spend every weekend and maybe a weeknight or two over with the fiance, but, I would NEVER want to deal with spending 15+ hours just commuting to/from work every week. That's fvcking insane.

whats a boku