Would you change for a loved one?

[Hyperblaze]

If you truly loved someone....but the only way you believe it would work out long term between the two of you, is if you changed. Would you?

 

[jadinolf]

NO.

 

[Aimster]

NO.
My GF is religious and I refuse to be religious. Now she is not religious ... (It isn't cause of me.. I swear).

 

[SithSolo1]

Yes

 

[sniperruff]

if you really love someone, then it wouldn't be a change anymore... more like a transformation or a minor adjustment.

 

[brunswickite]

No

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

You cannot change who you are. You might give up some habit or other, but real change? No.

You can pretend to be someone else for a few months, but that's about it.

 

[Engineer]

Originally posted by: Jero
If you truly loved someone....but the only way you believe it would work out long term between the two of you, is if you changed. Would you?

Absolutely YES, and did. Best thing that could have ever happened to/for me.

 

[Cuda1447]

... like my clothes, if I smelled? Sure.


Depends what the change is.

 

[yoda291]

I quit drinking. She left me...I'm still dry as chalk.

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

Originally posted by: Engineer

Originally posted by: Jero
If you truly loved someone....but the only way you believe it would work out long term between the two of you, is if you changed. Would you?

Absolutely YES, and did. Best thing that could have ever happened to/for me.

Did you? I wonder. You decided on a different course of action, but who you are is fundamentally unchanged.

Where relationships often fail (obviously not in your case) is when someone expects the other to REALLY be different. I have seen that and it isn't pretty.

 

[moshquerade]

No. there is nothing about me that needs to be changed

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
No. there is nothing about me that needs to be changed

aren't you just the perfect one 😉

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: moshquerade
No. there is nothing about me that needs to be changed

aren't you just the perfect one 😉

not perfect, but realistic

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
No. there is nothing about me that needs to be changed

I think that hat could go 😛

 

[Hyperblaze]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: Jero

Originally posted by: moshquerade
No. there is nothing about me that needs to be changed

aren't you just the perfect one 😉

not perfect, but realistic

apparantly my sense of humor needs to be recalibrated at this late hour.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith

Originally posted by: moshquerade
No. there is nothing about me that needs to be changed

I think that hat could go 😛

oh yeh, i am sick of the beanie too. i'd prefer a black skully if i gotta wear one.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

yes

there are certain things and beliefs and values i would not give up, but then again, in order to be my so you would have to see eye to eye with me on those things anyways

 

[Engineer]

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith

Originally posted by: Engineer

Originally posted by: Jero
If you truly loved someone....but the only way you believe it would work out long term between the two of you, is if you changed. Would you?

Absolutely YES, and did. Best thing that could have ever happened to/for me.

Did you? I wonder. You decided on a different course of action, but who you are is fundamentally unchanged.

Where relationships often fail (obviously not in your case) is when someone expects the other to REALLY be different. I have seen that and it isn't pretty.

Well, putting it that way, maybe I didn't change so much, but rather bring out the REAL me to begin with? Regardless, still the best thing that I could have ever done. You don't know what you've got until it's gone...and if you can see that just for a second before it's gone, you might just try harder to keep what you've got! 😉

 

[PoPPeR]

been there done that, it doesn't work. For me at least

 

[Howard]

Originally posted by: moshquerade

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith

Originally posted by: moshquerade
No. there is nothing about me that needs to be changed

I think that hat could go 😛

oh yeh, i am sick of the beanie too. i'd prefer a black sully if i gotta have him.

:Q



I'd try to, but I have no idea if I'd be successful or not. Old habits die hard - or something like that.

 

[Albis]

i would if it was within reason. if two ppl are in love, changes always happen and sacrafices are made

 

[Hayabusa Rider]

Originally posted by: Engineer

Originally posted by: WinstonSmith

Originally posted by: Engineer

Originally posted by: Jero
If you truly loved someone....but the only way you believe it would work out long term between the two of you, is if you changed. Would you?

Absolutely YES, and did. Best thing that could have ever happened to/for me.

Did you? I wonder. You decided on a different course of action, but who you are is fundamentally unchanged.

Where relationships often fail (obviously not in your case) is when someone expects the other to REALLY be different. I have seen that and it isn't pretty.

Well, putting it that way, maybe I didn't change so much, but rather bring out the REAL me to begin with? Regardless, still the best thing that I could have ever done. You don't know what you've got until it's gone...and if you can see that just for a second before it's gone, you might just try harder to keep what you've got! 😉

Psst, BTW are we allowed to have serious posts on OT? 😛

I have always believed that in crisis situations (where the outcome matters) people have certain choices. That one decides to take a positive course of action is defining of good character.

:thumbsup:

 

[Engineer]

Psst, BTW are we allowed to have serious posts on OT?

heh...I was wondering the same thing about P&N lately! :Q

 

[Siddhartha]

Originally posted by: Jero
If you truly loved someone....but the only way you believe it would work out long term between the two of you, is if you changed. Would you?

I might want to but I doubt I could really change to satisfy someone else.