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BigToque

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Would you be upset if your girlfriend went out with some guy that was 7 years older than her "just to talk" and she haden't let you know he was that much older?

My girlfriend is 21 and went out with some guy who is 28 tonight "just to talk" about her trip to India that she is going on. Before she went out with him I was asking her about him. Apparently during the short conversation she told me he was 28. How naive would you have to be to think that I heard something like that and gave no reaction or acknowledgement that I heard what she said whatsoever? There is no way I want her going out with some 28 year old guy who obviously only wants one thing.

This guy tells her that he ?used to like her?, tells her that his friends were giving him a hard time (joking) about him going out with her, tells her that it?s great being able to talk to someone so mature, tells her it?s great that her boyfriend lets her go out with other guys, pays for her ice cream (that?s what they got while they were just talking), etc?

Now I have no problem with my girlfriend going out with her friends. I totally trust her and don?t believe for a second she would do anything wrong. I just don?t like her going out with guys who obviously are trying to get with her.

Would you be upset if your girlfriend said she was going out with ?a guy she knows from church? and failed to tell you he was a lot older?
 
bradruth

bradruth

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I'd have more trouble with my g/f "going out" with some guy than some issue with age. :confused:
 
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NikPreviousAcct

No Lifer
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Considering my ex cheated on me with a 33yr old, if this were to happen any time soon I would be stark raving fvcking pissed as hell.
 
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MAME

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if you're mad, it's obvious it won't last. If you trust her then it's a good sign. If you're worried, then you should talk about it.
 
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BigToque

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Originally posted by: MAME
if you're mad, it's obvious it won't last. If you trust her then it's a good sign. If you're worried, then you should talk about it.
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Well I already said I trust her, so I'm not suspicious of anything. I just feel misled. She should have made sure that I knew he was 28. If she says it and it gets absolutely no response, obviously I didn't hear her and it should be repeated.
 
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cucumber

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I probably wouldn't like it, but in the end if you trust her, the guy's intentions shouldn't matter. You have every right to be a put off by this but don't let it get to you. If she's trustworthy you have nothing to worry about. That guy will go home full of lust with plans of breaking out the smut + hand lube.
 
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chrissyo4

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I don't think the age is a huge deal compared to the bigger problem of this dude she's going out with.
The only you can do is talk to her about it and tell her what you've told us.
You're obvsiouly upset and I would be too.
 
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NikPreviousAcct

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Originally posted by: chrissyo4
I don't think the age is a huge deal compared to the bigger problem of this dude she's going out with.
The only you can do is talk to her about it and tell her what you've told us.
You're obvsiouly upset and I would be too.
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Age most certainly is too an issue, though. What if she, being 21, went out with someone seven years younger? What if she took some 14yr old guy from her church out for coffee and just sat and talked about life? I doubt most guys woulud be as jealous of the 14yr old as the 28yr old.
 
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BigToque

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Originally posted by: chrissyo4
I don't think the age is a huge deal compared to the bigger problem of this dude she's going out with.
The only you can do is talk to her about it and tell her what you've told us.
You're obvsiouly upset and I would be too.
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Well, we've already talked about it, I just want to know if other people would feel upset as well.
 
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DaWhim

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I guess you would be more upset if you know nothing about that "dude"

if you really trust her, just don't be upset. I know it is hard. yea, REALLY hard to not get upset.
 
Kadarin

Kadarin

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They should not be going out "just to talk", regardless of age. He definitely wants to hit that, and she is either going along with it because she enjoys the attention (or is checking out her options), or she is amazingly naiive. (Option #2 happens a lot with younger girls.)
 
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gururu

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your gf is young. she is going to do many many things that upset you. one day you may find out that a week, a month, a year ago, she cheated on you. accept it. don't be obsessive, it will never work out to your satisfaction. happened to me when I was in college. older guy comes into the picture momentarily, then found out a whole year later what happened.
 
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NikPreviousAcct

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Originally posted by: Astaroth33
They should not be going out "just to talk", regardless of age. He definitely wants to hit that, and she is either going along with it because she enjoys the attention (or is checking out her options), or she is amazingly naiive. (Option #2 happens a lot with younger girls.)
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Wise.
 
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NikPreviousAcct

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Originally posted by: gururu
your gf is young. she is going to do many many things that upset you. one day you may find out that a week, a month, a year ago, she cheated on you. accept it. don't be obsessive, it will never work out to your satisfaction. happened to me when I was in college. older guy comes into the picture momentarily, then found out a whole year later what happened.
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Very wise.
 
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Zee

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are you nuts? You better set this straight before she cheats on you.
 
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