BespinReactorShaft
Diamond Member
and make sure she understands "Assume Position"
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Would you be angry/slightly pissed in this situation?
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and make sure she understands "Assume Position"
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CptObvious
Platinum Member
I dunno...the way I see it, it's just common hospitality to feed those who you willingly take in. Especially a young woman who comes from another country and doesn't speak English. It seems like kind of an odd expectation to expect her to be independent, when she is by herself at the mercy of others in a foreign country. JMO
Tsunami982
Senior member
it all depends on if shes hot.
Oh believe me, Cpt, I had the same feelings as well. But then I see and know of other foreign students getting by on their own and being independent. I looked at both sides of the issue and compromised. The guest was not starved as you imagined, a buffer period of two weeks was given but if you haven't adapted in 2 weeks to your new environment after being personally shown different places to obtain your meals then you aren't learning the language or you are just looking for a free ride.
The reponse that best explained this is a couple posts up. If you go back a couple pages you would've seen me taking your point of view. It's nice you have these sentiments, but sadly these ideals are not practical but it'd make a pretty interesting topic. 🙂
QuitBanningMe
Banned
Young naive Japanese girl? I'm sure I could think of something to take my mind off of her freeloading.
I've known a decent number of people that have been guests to other families in foreign countries. They were always treated like royalty. Usually they were students on "study abroad" trips. In lots of countries, hospitality is considered a privilege and duty. That being said - if I KNEW someone was coming and was having them as a GUEST - I would definately have provided for them. Unless they were staying for an extended period of time (ie year,etc)
Even then, I would have helped them a little more than just a couple of weeks. Lot's of people have a hard time away from home, especially in a foreign country where they don't know the language well. I've seen/heard tons of stories where american students go study abroad and do nothing but live in their own homemade "little america" rather than gettin get to know the country because they aren't/don't know how to be comfortable in a foreign setting.
Alot of the differences of hospitality seem to be cultural differences. But you probably shouldn't have agreed to take the kid on if you weren't going to be more involved with them.
Even then, I would have helped them a little more than just a couple of weeks. Lot's of people have a hard time away from home, especially in a foreign country where they don't know the language well. I've seen/heard tons of stories where american students go study abroad and do nothing but live in their own homemade "little america" rather than gettin get to know the country because they aren't/don't know how to be comfortable in a foreign setting.
Alot of the differences of hospitality seem to be cultural differences. But you probably shouldn't have agreed to take the kid on if you weren't going to be more involved with them.
i dunno if your that hard up that feeding one more person for a month is such a burden then you definitly shouldn't be hosting a stranger or freind for a month.
i mean she is a stranger ina strange land and probably scared sh1tless with little communication between her and the host family and then to top it off she has to cut her stay short because of this..man that would suck
imagine what when on and the conversations at home when she got there...i mean that was pretty cold to throw her out because she was eating your food...
basically i would expect to interact and act as a host once i accepted to take anyone into my home. otherwise she should have been told to rent a room at the local hotel for the length of her stay...
i mean she is a stranger ina strange land and probably scared sh1tless with little communication between her and the host family and then to top it off she has to cut her stay short because of this..man that would suck
imagine what when on and the conversations at home when she got there...i mean that was pretty cold to throw her out because she was eating your food...
basically i would expect to interact and act as a host once i accepted to take anyone into my home. otherwise she should have been told to rent a room at the local hotel for the length of her stay...
GroundZero
Diamond Member
call the I.N.S. and tell them that this person is really part of a sleeper cell
Buck Armstrong
Platinum Member
On top of all that, I'm sure this girl now thinks all Americans are stingy, inhospitable, petty-minded c0cksvckers who hate foreigners.
Triforceofcourage
Platinum Member
If you have a guest stay at your house it is only common courtesy to feed them.
if ur kind enuff to take her in and agreed to it, then be magnanimous enough to provide her with 'stuff' ...to a limit. Since u guys are eating...feed her too. Its the decent thing to do. If you are not eating, fine. Since you are eating, how hard is it to add a plate and some grub? Don't be so calculative.
You accepted the task, the good deed. At least be kind enough to see it through. Sure, you never agreed to feed her but is it driving you to the poorhouse? If you really expected it to be just a smooth ride, then perhaps you are the naive one. Be the man, the good host, even if all you are getting are brownie points.
You accepted the task, the good deed. At least be kind enough to see it through. Sure, you never agreed to feed her but is it driving you to the poorhouse? If you really expected it to be just a smooth ride, then perhaps you are the naive one. Be the man, the good host, even if all you are getting are brownie points.
Well, personally (I am a wee bit sexist in this regard), because she's female, she probably should be given more leeway than a guy. Especially Asian females, just because in general, they are a lot more passive and quiet about things.
Secondly, ain't Japanese culture a very hospitality oriented culture. She probably didn't think anything of it.
If it was a guy though, I'd expect more. But again, I'm sexist in that regard.
Secondly, ain't Japanese culture a very hospitality oriented culture. She probably didn't think anything of it.
If it was a guy though, I'd expect more. But again, I'm sexist in that regard.
In my home, if I offer someone a room to sleep in, it also implies food unless they refuse to accept. I mean, if you invite your friend over for a sleepover, do you mail them a bill for the chips and drinks? Hell even if they offered to split the cost I'd refuse outright. I mean, does she leave a mess around the house and expect you to clean after? If you ask her for help carrying stuff or cleaning, would she refuse? Goes really to the same principle. While in this country, her person and her well-being is your responsibility like it or not.
Sheepathon
Diamond Member
if you get her picture and post it online, that may be payment
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