I'm not trying to shoot down advice, I'm just trying to say that I am too worried to feel safe about following it, because I dont want to go out there make a fool of myself time after time, and then lose all my chances.
I'm not trying to shoot down advice, I'm just trying to say that I am too worried to feel safe about following it, because I dont want to go out there make a fool of myself time after time, and then lose all my chances.
Siddhartha
Lifer
- Oct 17, 1999
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Yeah, you have to go out and meet women.
A couple of hints that I learned from experience:
1. Remember women have different interests, points of view, and base of experiences than you. Do not be surprised when they act differently than you or your friends do.
2. Do not expect a women to like or want you because you like them or because they are nice to you. Do not take it personally if woman you like does not feel the same way towards you . She may be nice to you but not want you as a lover.
3. There are a lot of women out there so there is someone out there who will like you.
4. Having a lot of money, being good looking, and famous does not hurt in attacting women.
5. Be a good lover and make sure she gets pleasure when you are intimate at least as often as you do. 95% of what gives women pleasure is on her outside.
JulesMaximus
No Lifer
- Jul 3, 2003
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Nope, you need to get out there and do it. Even if you do it badly, you will learn from it and you will do it better afterwards.
Dude a steady stream of Freshmen enter your school every f'ing year!!! Here's a link that will help if you actually do what he tells you too...
JulesMaximus
No Lifer
- Jul 3, 2003
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Bah, this is the argument of someone who has a narrow little view of the world. Just go out there and don't worry so much about it. Go have some fun and meet people. In a few years you will have moved on and met new people so even if you make a huge ass of yourself now nobody you care about will remember.
Try Yahoo personals. Just find someone you like or someone with similiar interest as you and hang out. Its not hard. If I can do it, you can do it.
If you never try there is ZERO chance, and no unless you try to make an idiot of yourself 3000 is more that enough to still meet people who don't know you yet (I meet new people at my same sized college). Personally I don't often try to go out and "get a girl" I meet people and ocasionally ask out ones I like. Besides you are really looking in the wrong place for female advice, just relax and ask her out.
I usually start with just lunch (with nothing planned later on so you can jsut chat as long as you want), get to know her and go from there.
If you get shot down, who cares.
I usually start with just lunch (with nothing planned later on so you can jsut chat as long as you want), get to know her and go from there.
If you get shot down, who cares.
or hopefully people will forgive you for your mistakes that you make (by making yourself look like an idiot) and give you some second chances.
or maybe Ill have to pack up my bags and try a different college.
why dont you go start off with girls that you're not attracted to... it seems like you worry too much about what to do that you look like you're fumbling for a checklist when you talk to a girl.
Whats wrong with going out and trying to get a girl? I want a friggin girlfriend for crying outloud!
Since you don't have ANY concept of human socialization, I don't know how the fvck you've determined that you want a girlfriend.
- M4H
Look, i dont care if you dont see how i've 'determined' that I want a girlfriend,
no determining is necessary,
its pretty dang simple!
I just want a frickin girlfriend!
If "it's not that hard" maybe you should see a doctor. There is treatment available for that kind of thing now.
- M4H
You're not going to get a lot of serious advice posting in a forum like this, you'll get more abuse. My .02:
1. Books aren't going to help you. (although being well read in life never hurts)
2. Focus on making yourself the things women might want- as physically attractive as you can be, successful in what you're doing now (school, work), start some hobbies/possibly ones you can enjoy with women (co-ed volleyball, tennis, water skiing, biking, whatever)
3. Self confidence is pretty key, but if you do #2, you should have that. (people who are successful, in shape, and enjoying life are usually pretty confident)
4. If all else fails, earn a lot of money, because like it or not women will overlook much more in a richer guy than a poorer one.
Most of all, drop the "I'm a desparate loser" stuff. You'll always get more women when you don't care if you do or not. I'm guessing you're pretty young and feel like women are the most important aspect of your life. Every year that goes by the tables will turn more in your favor, because every year older women get they edge closer to the desparation you're feeling now, or at least realizing we're all in the same boat.
Good luck with it dude.
I said personally I don't, any girls you know from any classes or dorm, ask them if they want to go have lunch or something at the union. Usually if you've talked to them for a while you know if they have a bf or not, less chance of getting shot down. If you get to know someone and you like them it is worthwhile to persue a relationship, otherwise for me it's not.
With the speed that one went over your head, I'm surprised you have any hair left.
How do you learn to ride a bike?
Okay, now how do you learn how to get a girl?
Hint - One answer fits both.
- M4H
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