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Can he give you a deposit? Based on what you're saying that's becoming acceptable. It gives him a message but he deserves one.
 
LumbergTech said:
Why is she in the hospital would determine. Is she in for something horrible? That might tip the scales despite my better judgement. I don't see a problem with the PS3 as collateral.
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She's having their kid, and she wants something to facebook with.

Personally, I don't know how long they keep mothers in the Hospital. I can't imagine it would be for more than two days, unless there are complications, or more likely, they just want to run up the bill.
 
meh. i wouldn't loan it to him. You have already loaned him stuff once and haven't got it back.

she is going to be a little busy and not really in the mood for facebook anyway.
 
i would never ask for a deposit on something like that. i would either given them a laptop i didnt care about or say i couldnt do it. maybe you should just suggest they get a cheap tablet or laptop of their own, theyre only $300
 
PottedMeat said:
tell him the harddrive died or become unavailable for the next few days, or if you have a P4 power hog lying about...
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....or run the battery down. Show up at the hospital with the laptop and when they try to start it up, tell them you forgot the AC cable. That way it looks like you made the effort. 😉
 
A) What is she in the hospital for?

B) Is she hot?



If she is not in for anything major like birthing a child or major reconstructive surgery, you could always take it out in "trade".
 
What is the laptop worth? Is it older?
If it's worth less than $300, and is a spare, I would loan it without question.

If something happens and he doesn't fix it or pay you back, write him off.
 
VirtualLarry said:
Asked for a security deposit, equal to the cost of the laptop, for loaning a laptop to my friend's girl to use while she's in the hospital? (Frankly, I'm more worried about it getting stolen than dropped or damaged.)

I still don't know why he asked me to provide a laptop, rather than just use her phone for Facebook. (At least, he has a smartphone, I don't know about her.)

Back in the day, I loaned him a few video games that I never got back. He once claimed that his ferret scratched one of them up. I suspected he took it and traded it in for a new game without telling me or paying me back for it. I never actually saw the disc again.
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Just say no.

Uno
 
No. If you're going to loan it to him, just loan it to him. If you feel like you have to have a security deposit to feel safe loaning it to him, you should probably just say no. The extra bother of messing with a security deposit will be more of a strain on your friendship than just refusing outright anyway.
 
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Based on your past experience with him I wouldn't even let him borrow it if he did give me a deposit.

But honestly, it's either yes or no.....deposit thing is kind of "dicky"
 
mmntech said:
I have a personal policy that I don't lend anything valuable to anyone unless they're an immediate family member or I can supervise them. Even with family I supervise them, as my dad has broken quite a few of my things over the years. Does your friend not have a laptop he can loan her? Just tell him you need the laptop for something.
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I'm also not comfortable asking to borrow expensive items. People that do that tend to be irresponsible from my experience (there's a reason they don't own nice things).
 
I haven't read the whole thread, but IMO it's worse asking for a deposit than it is just saying no. The guy doesn't sound like he can be trusted with your stuff.
 
Fritzo said:
I'm also not comfortable asking to borrow expensive items. People that do that tend to be irresponsible from my experience (there's a reason they don't own nice things).
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Agreed

Personally I don't like to even borrow expensive items. For MANY reasons.
 
Tell her NO! She doesn't NEED a laptop, and definitely doesn't NEED to post shit on Facebook. If it was that important, she should have bought one. Afterall, she had 9 months to save up.
 
If she's having a baby, you should be nice - buy her a $100 Android tablet as a GIFT, and give it directly to her. No loser boyfriend involved.

She can spend all the time she wants on Facebook, taking pictures of the afterbirth, whatever the hell it is that new moms do, I have no idea.

Even if she has a smartphone, Facebooking on those stinks. When you're used to 4", 7" makes all the difference in the world. (heheheh.)
 
dave_the_nerd said:
If she's having a baby, you should be nice - buy her a $100 Android tablet as a GIFT, and give it directly to her. No loser boyfriend involved.

She can spend all the time she wants on Facebook, taking pictures of the afterbirth, whatever the hell it is that new moms do, I have no idea.

Even if she has a smartphone, Facebooking on those stinks. When you're used to 4", 7" makes all the difference in the world. (heheheh.)
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Pretty much this. But honestly this 'friend' does not sound like much of a friend at all? You could just say no.
 
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