Worst Week of My Life!!!

[Pundit]

Fritzo, my guess is that it isn't about the toothpaste cap or anything similar to that. One reason why people try and break the bond of a relationship is because they've done something that they feel guilty about (like having an affair, flirting with another woman/man, etc.) and they subconsciously feel the need to leave the significant other so as to not inflict any more harm on them. I would suggest that the two of you get some sort of counselling. Not only do I think you can salvage this marriage, but the children need a stable family.

Whatever you decide to do, I hope you all the best of luck. And believe me when I say I feel your pain.

 

[Mitzi]

Sounds like a pretty sh!tty week to me...hope next week is better

 

[Fritzo]

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<< Wife... decides she's tired of being married. I appearently do too many of those "leave the cap off the toothpaste" type things (you know what I mean...leave you shoes out, don't use a coaster, put forks in the spoon slots, don't load the dishwasher correctly, etc) >>



What a lame ass reason. So much for working through things and being there for each other. I hate it when people don't put their money where their mouths are.

And I'm sorry, btw. >>

being devils advocate, but we only heard his side of the "I want to live by myself" story.

sorry for the bad week >>



OK, to be fair, I'll present both sides:

Her side) I procrastinate too much, I'm not a "Neat-nick" (picture Monica on Friends, and you'll know her personality), there's no intamacy in the relationship.

My side) I don't procrastinate any more than any other man on the planet (who doesn't try to get out of cleaning the garage or the basement, etc), I can't stand restacking newspapers to their original condition after reading them and so forth, so I'm constantly being nagged about minor stuff like this, and she works nights, I work days, and our two year old is going through his "I need to sleep in mommy and daddy's bed" stage. The kids are so jelous of each other for attention that if we hug or kiss or anything, they come running and get in between us. I realize this is just a stage that will go away in a year or so, but she views it as permanent and wants out.

 

[SCSIfreek]

Sorry to hear about your week of horror. Things to consider or at least keep in mind.

1) Your wife is getting bad influences from someone or has a affair.

2) Your wife do not want kids and she can not handle them.

3) Do you still love her? Do you love your kids?

4) Finally, If you had a chance to change things would you want to get back with your wife?


Seriously, think deeply before acutally doing what you want. Good luck man!!!


--Scsi

 

[miken]

wow..


Life gets better, now you'll get to know your kids better, and your stress level should be going down now since she's gone.

 

[Azraele]

Yikes. Hang in there. Have you thought of marriage counseling?

 

[MichaelD]

<< On the bright side, you've made just about everybody who's entered this thread feel better about themselves. I also find it extremely amusing how you refer to your in-laws as "out-laws" and "locusts". rofl >>




I agree wholeheartedly. You HAVE had a helluva week. *pats you on the back in a reassuring, yet non-sexual way* Everything is going to be OK. I believe that everything happens for a reason.

Got news for 'ya; I found this out the hard way w/a girl I was ENGAGED to. Any woman that you cook dinner for and put up with her family (locusts....) and then she turns around and wants to split, is not worthy of you. You can do better.

You didn't mention kids; as long as there's no kids involved, the divorce will be relatively easy and FINAL.

One thing, and please don't take offense.

I'm going to assume that you two are a youngish couple...say early to mid 20's? Reason I say this is b/c your wife obviously went out that night with an immature friend, to a pickup place. Most "older" ie. 30's and up, folks wouldn't do this b/c it's wrong (IMO)

You don't go to a meatmarket when you're not on the market. Capisci?

This has always been and still is a pet-peeve with me, with some of the women I've dated. Invariably, your potential new GF/wife has a slutty friend that likes to hang out in the meat market clubs. Even though your wife may have absolutely no intention of cheating/fooling around, it's wrong and DANGEROUS for her to be there in the first place.

Even I, that have a very difficult time keeping the Beast Down Under, under wraps do not hang out in the singles bars. It's disrespectful to your significant other.

My current GF had some slutty friends that she used to occasionally hang out with (at the start of our relationship...I put the kabosh on that crap QUICK) After many arguements about her going out with THOSE particular women, my GF called me one night from the club they were at.

Apparently, her two drunk and drugged friends (my GF doesn't drink or do drugs though) picked up THREE drunk and drugged guys and told them that "heck yeah our friend is with it!" Of course, my GF wasn't "with it" and didn't want to give some guy a BJ in the parking lot. Well, they waited for her right outside the front door and wouldn't leave.

I had to go there and play "Tarzan to the Rescue." She never went out with them again.

Sorry to go off there....I tend to get very yappy, very easily. Your week is over. Life goes on. Nothing is ever "The End of the World." Chin up. You didn't get this far by being a softie. You'll be fine.


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I didn't see your post from today! Sorry about that. I see now that you have two kids. That's the worst part about this entire situation. I have a six-year-old son and am in a terrible situation with that...so I feel your pain.

It sounds like you have a good attitude about it though. See if you can work it out with the wife. However, if it doesn't work out, the no child support thing would be dandy. Make sure your lawyer gets that in writing and it's concrete.

BTW, I also see you are 31. No disrespect intended on the age thing. Your wife should've known better. :|

 

[Fritzo]

Just to clarify, she's a very good mother (witha nasty temper though), and she isn't cheating (there's no time...she goes to work for 9 hours and is home). She's just tired of being married and feels that she needs to start over. Because of our work schedules, we're going to see the kids exactly the same amount we do now (I get the kids at night while she works, she gets them during the day while I work), so no biggie there. I'm actually starting to look forward to it....kind feel like I'm being parolled

 

[Jerboy]

Well I see. I'm not the only one to whine about problem as people would like to think..

Anyways, sorry to hear you had all those crap happen to you.. . It happens to everyone. Last time it happened to me I was real pissed.

 

[rgwalt]

<< Well I see. I'm not the only one to whine about problem as people would like to think..

Anyways, sorry to hear you had all those crap happen to you.. . It happens to everyone. Last time it happened to me I was real pissed. >>



He has two kids and a wife that is about to leave him. He may have toasted his credit record and owes the bank a bunch of money for their mistake. He got punched bailing his wife and her friends out of trouble one day before she decided to leave him.

His problems are worse than yours or mine. Get over it.

Ryan

 

[gotsmack]

well at least you still have your health. Once I remember reading about this guy who's wife ran away with his best friend, lost his job, his left eye, and his favorite baseball player got traded in the same week.