Work, life, cesspool. Son diagnosed with CP and forced to quit working from home.

[djheater]

I just wanted to let you know that your son will likely excel if you provide the environment and encouragement that will help him do so.

He has an obstacle and will need to work to compensate for that, but that can make him weaker or stronger depending on you.
There is not one best way of being. Make certain he knows that, and that he can do anything. Won't you be proud when he's the first CP astronaut, or president, or Nobel laureate?

I also wanted to let you know that I would consider the amount you're drinking perfectly acceptable given the circumstances. Humans tend to self-medicate with alcohol, it's an extremely efficient stress reliever. Of course it doesn't solve problems, they still need to be solved, but don't go freaking out because you find yourself drinking when you're stressed. That's a pretty normal reaction.

 

[ViviTheMage]

huge sadface man....

 

[thecrecarc]

Originally posted by: djheater

He has an obstacle and will need to work to compensate for that, but that can make him weaker or stronger depending on you.
There is not one best way of being. Make certain he knows that, and that he can do anything. Won't you be proud when he's the first CP astronaut, or president, or Nobel laureate?

Indeed, CP is not the end. Look at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Susie_Maroney, a marathon swimmer with CP. Anything is possible!

 

[Fern]

Originally posted by: JEDIYoda

Originally posted by: ShotgunSteven
That is a rough story, man. I am not much into prayer, but I will say a few words for you and yours. :sun:

count me in on that prayer thingee......hang tough dude!!!

Same here.

 

[Platypus]

Hang in there... just don't let the drinking get out of control. It may seem like a good escape for awhile but it'll hurt you and others in the long run (been there, done that).

I've also got OCD so I can relate to how you feel.. I can't speak for your wife but I'm cognizant that my reactions to certain high stress situations are not logical/sane and negatively affect the other party sometimes but I do still care a lot about what that person is saying to me. It's really frustrating knowing that what I say can hurt someone when all I want to do is let them know I care. I assume your wife feels the same way on some level.

On the CP... the parents of kids with mental afflictions are some of the strongest people I have ever met. My sister is a special education teacher for kids with severe autism and I am just blown away by their courage. You will pull through this.. just a lot of shit dumped on you at once; it's natural to feel despair right now. You should find a healthy release for all of this if you can.. go to the gym and bust your ass for a bit or put on a good record and have some introspective thought about the whole thing.

 

[rasczak]

just grind it out bud. think positive, and don't think that moving away to find a better job with insurance is too much to ask of your family. in the end it will be worth it. good luck and good care of that family of yours. family is really all you've got in this world and too precious to lose.

Joe

 

[Superrock]

Stop drinking. Your family needs you healthy. Substitute drinking with exercise and eating better and you'll feel better too.